My experience is that while a short sharp “no” sometimes stops them in their tracks, it’s not actually because they understand “oh wait, I shouldn’t be doing this”, not at 18 mo.any tips on saying ‘no’ and being listened to?!
I work part time so spend most of the time with my 18 month old compared to her dad who works full time. she listens to him when he tells her not to do something and just gives me a dirty look and carries on am guessing this is because she spends more time with me
EG today she was jumping up and down on the sofa and throwing herself around and was going to get hurt. I told her to stop and she was laughing. I then also removed her and put her on the floor quietly (cue climbing back up and trying to do it again) she literally completely ignores me. if her dad told her to stop she would stop. I just feel completely powerless which is pathetic, because I’m the adult, but I’m a bit of a wimp at the best of times but don’t want to turn into one of these parents who lets their kids get away with anything!
I know she’s super young to understand not to do stuff but when it’s potentially dangerous / she might get hurt I need a way of getting her to take some notice. Does anyone have any tips or do you just have to distract them at this age?
The best three things I’ve found that help me
1) think about why I’m saying no. Is it dangerous? Is something going to break? Or is it just something that you wouldn’t necessarily think they should be doing. Because if it’s the second, then I try and let it go as much as possible. It’s amazing how many times I would say no just because the behaviour is inconvenient/annoying to me, nothing to do with the behaviour itself.
2) redirect without using the word no eg “ you can’t bounce on the sofa, let’s bounce on the trampoline/the floor cushions” “I can’t let you draw on the wall, let’s draw on this paper” “if you feel like throwing let’s find a ball”
3) Have a lot of “yes space”, places in your house where they can basically do what the like as it’s set up for them as much as possible.