Lets remind ourselves of her possible surgical outcomes first. Removal of rectum, anus, some colon, vagina, poss clitoris, ovaries, cervix, uterus, bladder, some peritoneum, fallopian tubes, urethra. Partial or full. Now, look at TT and Darling. Are they the thpe of people that would be able to cope or fight through all of the possible consequences from this type of life altering last ditch surgery??? Ummm NO. They heard the total picture of what it may or would entail and you saw it in their eyes in the video. Darling looked like he just saw a ghost or worse. Things changed drastically after that fateful video and Dr meeting. The doc had to offer something else so he may have offered to wait and watch. No one can force any procedure on anyone. Not even a life saving one. Its very sad but sometimes there are no real viable options bc diagnosis was delayed for whatever the reasons or its just horrible bad luck.