She is more terrified of losing Darling then dying. Literally. I said this mo this ago. They have not been in a long term relationship IMO. Maybe 3 yrs top. More like 2.5 maybe. She knew him for 5 yrs bc they are both optometrists but that doesnt mean dating. he isn't in invested enough to fight for her survival despite all else. They both found out about the actual surgery details and here we are. Neither of them coukd deal with the post surgery realities.I've just gone back to her video to check and I apologise, it was Matt who said that the surgeon said surgery might be better for her mental health. However watching the video again with fresh eyes and weeks down the line I'm genuinely shocked and I think Matt has quite a negative influence in her care.
Now when it comes to the video - She initially says that her options are - the surgery or 'deferral of surgery' (no mention of wait and watch) and I will loosely quote her here 'which entails waiting 6 weeks and having all the tests again, but this could mean the risk of it spreading to the liver or the lung or the cancer might have been there and it might become inoperable'.
Matt said that the surgeon recommended to wait but Tiffany corrected him and said that the surgeon told her that it is her decision. In this video Matt is pushing for her waiting, telling her the risk to reward of just waiting is brilliant. He said that it's better to take the risk and that 'we haven't really lost anything if you wait 6 weeks'. Tiffany then says it could become inoperable and Matt tells her the chances of that are slim (didn't know Matt was a qualified oncologist). Matt then says the surgeon want to and I quote, 'leave it and hope for the best'.
She then puts the question to her viewers, this is the video that I think started a lot of people's doubts in Tiffany, why on earth would you ask your viewers what they think she should do, like she's asking if she should have a curry or a chinese takeaway for tea.
I am very sceptical of using the term watch and wait now when it comes to Tiffany, this is NOT what her surgeon told her, she has picked up on this from comments and probably this thread and is now running with it. Her surgeon recommended deferral of surgery not a watch and wait approach.
there is no way in hell that a conos opy or sigmoidoscopy would not necessitate a bowel prep the day or two ahead. No way! Some patients ignore the prep, or half way do it and the procedure cannot proceed. She never mentioned a prep so we do not know if she actually did it. That could be why they were not able to do the biopsy. Or, the tumour has grown to a point that even the smallest of scopes could not safely pass. This is more worrisome. if so, she will be blocked and emergency surgery will be needed if possible at all. Just to clear the obstruction. I question her prep though. i believe she will string this out until she just isnt well enough to film or edit. She will just ghost social media and that will be that. We will never entirely know what happened.