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Hopefully all this will come up when they do the review into his death because this is dodgy AF! It sounds like she purposely made him ill, so she could get what she wanted... Which was carers in her case. WTAF?!
 
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Always thought it was a crazy idea when she got them. Two as well, she clearly didn’t know how messy they can be when they are kittens and using a litter tray. I think that was awful of her and I bet they have been rehomed now
I think she ONLY got them for “cuteness” for the gram.
Bet she will say she’s giving them to a family member because they bring raw memories back of J!
 
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I was on Ondansetron (zofran syrup) which one of you mentioned above J was on before she stopped it. I had really bad hyperemisis throughout my pregnancy so could keep nothing at all down not even a sip of water & was sick constantly if I eat or drank anything. If I even missed one dose of the ondansetron id end up back in hospital on a drip so had to make sure I had a constant prescription of it & taking it when meant to. So I can only imagine how sick the poor kid must of got if she just stopped giving it him or cut the dose!
 
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Exactly that they didn't say what SHE wanted them to say....she wanted them to say he was worse and needed extra treatments etc so she could show it to the carers to make it seem she was eligible when all they were to get were babysitters
 
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The fact she either took him off or lowered his medication when he clearly needed it is awful, that’s like me taking my son of his insulin because it’s too much for me to deal with, how bloody selfish of her
 
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Exactly that they didn't say what SHE wanted them to say....she wanted them to say he was worse and needed extra treatments etc so she could show it to the carers to make it seem she was eligible when all they were to get were babysitters
And look where its got her... She'll never need carers again now because her child is dead. But now because J has gone, she's also lost her sole income. The ads that were family based, (Mccains, Tesco, whatever else it was) the DLA, the car, the tax credits...
 
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Call me naive; would she be able to use the Carers to go to work or was it a respite thing?
 
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Would a complaint to GoFundMe about possible misuse of the funds be worth bothering with? Are they any good at investigating these things?
 
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Would a complaint to GoFundMe about possible misuse of the funds be worth bothering with? Are they any good at investigating these things?
Ha that Leiane already put on an update that aparently everybody had messaged what’s left over is fir Kaytee to use how she sees fit and give to charity (haha)
Nobody probably said it but then it makes it not look bad that she used it to go to Morocco

AND that greeey bitch still had the go fund me link in her bio
 
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I think anyone who said that would have thought that she would "see fit" to donate the lot to charity, not galavant off around the world. She's vile, and her mates are no better.
 
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It annoyed me that she even got the cats. Moaning every single day about how sleep deprived you are and how you have no time for anything- even important appointments for your sick child - but yes great idea get two pets that can literally live for 18 years! I hope they have a better home now and are not confined to a cupboard under the stairs
 
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She has said she looking back at the last few days of before he went to hospital was really painful for her, but those photos are all from that period. I can imagine it would be painful looking back at that period if you had pushed for a discharge for your child, sent them back to school straight away, got carers in, go to Alton towers, restaurants and a trip to london where his dad collected him whilst you stayed in a posh hotel.

You have a good point about using the photos from that period to decorate his hospital room. That pic of him on the bed would have been taken when his dad dropped him off or when she was waiting for him to be collected. J wasnt with her when she was at the hotel and going to restaurants. Were the photos her subconscious trying to prove he was fine during that time because she deep down she didn't really know as she had spent little time with him that week.

She pushed for discharge when he had had what she called his worst night ever up till that point. The night he had a pulmonary oedema which he has never had before. Its really serious, no way would I have pushed for discharge or sent my child to school.
 
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Call me naive; would she be able to use the Carers to go to work or was it a respite thing?
Respite, but unfortunately she used them as childcare for nights out and complained because they weren't accommodating to the lifestyle she wanted to leave. She'd often do a week without carers to build a backlog of hours to use up so she could have a break away.
 
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I am appalled I wonder if she reads here? Use the money as she see’s fit again would mean put it to good use not to fund her jaunts.
 
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I’ve been a lurker on these threads but I’ve finally snapped…

I cannot understand why, within a short period since J passing is her first instinct to set up a business?
Most would be either privately grieving or even, set up charity fundraising events such as a ball, marathon etc. Why is her first point of call to set up a business with only 10% going to charity? If it’s not about the money, why not a bigger portion of the money?
Why are the products on sale useful to all SEN parents/children such as feeding tools, bibs, sensory play toys & books etc. As beautiful as J was, it is massively inappropriate for random strangers to be walking around with print of a little boy who frankly, should be allowed to rest in peace. He will never be forgotten by his family nor by the people who invested emotionally or financially in his little life but, for his images to be on merchandise is tasteless.

Why not use the rest of the GFM and donate it to the charities that need it rather than go travelling - I’d understand if she had missed out of that side of life whilst caring for J but let’s face it, she didn’t miss out. The reality is, Kaytee probably led a more active lifestyle than most parents ever get to.

I don’t know about anyone else but I absolutely despite anyone who sees it as normal to be crying then recorded it for social media. If she’s grieving for her boy, surely she should be focusing on that, not filming and uploading it for the gram? To me, it’s just a way of ensuring that her followers stay invested in her. It’s emotional blackmail.

As for his grave. I find it tacky. His own bedroom wasn’t as colourful and full of balloons and toys etc. To me, a graveyard is a peaceful place for those to rest, for their loved ones to mourn and seek solice and comfort. Why could she not set up a garden or an allotment for him so she decorate that how she likes and have a chippy tea or a party? I find it disrespectful to anyone else laid to rest in there and for their loved ones who will be drowning in their own grief but have to watch her party with her pals. There is a time and place for everything but that’s not it. She could still make his space beautiful but in my opinion that’s too much and it’s all for show, if she wasn’t on the gram and so known, why would his grave look like.

I feel, their is a space for grief management on the gram, it’s needed. However, the moment you monetise it, is the moment I’m done and out of there. The NurseMum, Ash & Saf and even FTEN (Elle) all made money out of the loss of a child but all seem to think they are untouchable to critics because they are grieving parents. Sorry but there are millions of parents grieving that use their platforms for the good and not to make money as an influencer. Are you selling products here or your soul? If you’re selling both? Your intentions were never genuine.
 
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hello you.

Oh for fucks sake. When I was community and we organised carers, it was usually so mum or dad could sleep all night.
 
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hello you.

Oh for fucks sake. When I was community and we organised carers, it was usually so mum or dad could sleep all night.
Hello my lovely potato

There was an incident one night she went out on the piss and came back and filmed herself arguing with one particular carer she had an issue with. They weren't used for their need with Kaytee. They were her on call baby sitters.
 
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Plus J’s dad never had the over night Kieras Carers that our Kathleen said kept her & J alive by having them so many times a week, J’s dad needs a blood medal then as he managed just fine
 
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Hopefully all this will come up when they do the review into his death because this is dodgy AF! It sounds like she purposely made him ill, so she could get what she wanted... Which was carers in her case. WTAF?!
Remember the one who was lay sprawled on her front room carpet while they both packed calendar's?? I think.
We all knew the Kiera was there to look after J but she’d tell her followers how they would chat for hours and by the looks of it also wait patiently to be included in her social media posts for fifteen minutes of fame.
Like we all knew her neighbours weren’t keen on her but then they all drew in crayon the pavement?.
And yes his bedroom was dull as. She didn’t even want a Christmas tree up, there were never banners or toys around. So clinical and minimalist. This is all overriding guilt that’s she’s putting into practice. The over the top grave is how his life should of been not his death.
 
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