Am I the only one to think that it’s a bit weird to film yourself while you’re on your own, laughing at a film…? Certainly calculated, because you would have had to have laughed at that bit of the film first, then thought ‘oh, this would make good content’, and then wound the film back, and then watched it again, while filming yourself, but watching yourself, to make sure that you’d filmed it properly…? It reminds me of the numerous times that she’s filmed herself crying…if I’m really upset, my first thought isn’t ‘Hang on, I should film this…There’s thousands of people who will want to see it”. It just all seems so…..manipulative.
I don’t know what to think of Anna. She’s funny, and definitely has a way with words. But I worry that she’s someone who demonstrates signs of narcissistic personality disorder. Or more specifically a covert (or vulnerable) narcissist. I think quite a number of people do on Instagram, it’s in the nature of the format. You’d have to be narcissistic to some kind of degree to believe that your life was worthy of interest. But some of her actions and words push it into the realms of NPD. If you look up the traits, she demonstrates a number on a fairly regular basis. She has a deep need for excessive attention and admiration. She totally uses her profile to extract validation from us followers; the regular posts that place her as a victim to get all those ‘You go, hun’ type replies etc.
I think she’s deleted the post now, but I remember her basically bragging about assaulting the father of her kids when he came home from work and wanted a beer (even if he was being totally inconsiderate and insensitive, her actions were not really warranted behaviour). Uncontrollable anger like this, is very common from narcissists. Similarly she still criticises him on her stories, with no forum for him to represent himself, which is typical of a narcissistic post-relationship smear campaign. The way she slags her mum, and shows all her healing books on narcissistic abuse, but still expects support from her? And unfortunately the children of narcissists often become narcissists too, having never learned empathy, and stuck with the emotional range of an entitled teenager.
And also the addiction to porn and sex, that need for instant gratification and the constant search for validation and supply through all the men she’s slept with. Not to mention the victimhood…her situation isn’t her fault…it’s her mum’s fault…or it’s the ex’s fault, because he wants to work (or something, even though she could work, seeing as one kid is at school, and the other is in day care…or am I missing something…?)….oh no I forgot, it’s the patriarchy’s fault, because no other woman or mother in this country has ever got a good job, or had a successful career etc.
Anyway, look up NPD. It's worth it just to inform yourself that you're not in a relationship with someone with it. Because it won't end well, it never does
