First time I’ve even caught up in weeks!
This whole thing about letting J$ “win” all the time is baffling to me. I used to teach a competitive form of dance. We had little kids around J$’s age competing. If you had a prodigy kid, they might even be competing in the under 8s at the World championships…even at 6 years old. You had to level up a certain way to be allowed to compete at Nationals and Worlds, so the judges weren’t playing, even at beginner levels. The parents of the kids were made aware that they would have to have talks about winning and losing if their child competed. We were really supportive of anyone that chose to compete - praising them having courage to get up and compete, helping coach them to have better results the next time, etc. We rarely had major meltdowns from kids. The kids also grew up as very gracious winners AND losers.
And I would LOVE to see them supposedly talk to J$ about this “later, at home, in a safe space.”
J$ is not going to remember and understand when you decide to tell him, “Buddy, remember when we told you that you won on the slide like 4 hours ago? Well, you didn’t.” Like, huh? That made no sense. This whole thing about talking to him in the right place sort of reminds me of these politicians who will say “nows not the right time to talk about gun laws” after a school shooting….but they also don’t want to talk about it any other time.
