I watched the birthday disappointment video and I cannot get over Oliver's sad birthday "treat". It honestly looks like what you get at a dog bakery.
If my nanny called out sick on my husband's birthday when neither of us have jobs, I would pivot to new plans immediately. I'd call J$ out of preschool, go to breakfast as a FAMILY, do a simple outing as a FAMILY like the zoo or science center, and stop at Publix on the way home. Then I'd grill burgers/hutdugs for dinner while my FAMILY enjoys the pool in our fancy patio and end the day with a cookie cake as a FAMILY because I love mine. It's not hard when you have all the time in the world and money isn't an issue. Dim seems to like simple things and Ginn sucks so much that she literally attempted nothing but feeling sorry for herself.