Whether J is on the spectrum (which I highly suspect), has anxiety or ADHD one of the key strategies to support a child like this is ROUTINE. Knowing what they are doing, when they are doing it - every day, at the same time is VITAL for the child to feel safe, secure and have some sort of control. Outings and vacations need to be planned and explained in detail well before them - using visual cues and prompts to explain these things is really important. The Trackers chaotic lifestyle with no set routine, constant holidays and staycations in strange places will not assist J to develop or cope with everyday life. Handflapping is a self-stimulatory behaviour that is used by kids on the spectrum to cope with overstimulation and unusual situations.Some of his behaviours/tics are associated with anxiety. My daughter also did the hand flapping motions. And she was diagnosed at 9 with anxiety. Honestly it could be a lot of things. He definitely needs an evaluation. They might of had one done? But Jenn blabs about everything so I doubt it.
On another note - now I haven't held a kids party for many years but from memory they run about 2 hours and needs to be pretty highly organised. It's not 2 hours of free play - you need to do activities, games etc to stop the kids getting bored. I don't know about you guys but I can't see either Jenn or Tim stepping up here. Have they commandeered the nanny to do this? Have they outsourced it to this 'company' Jenn was talking about?
I'd love to be a fly on the wall listening to Jenn and Tim attempting to bond with the other parents. With any luck some of them, once they find out what they do will do some sleuthing and end up here.