I don’t know if “genetic” is the scientific definition but there is definitely a field that does research how experiences bleed down into the next generations. Especially regarding trauma. For example: During and after WWII, many people starved. And this experience shaped their children and grandchildren. Finish your plate no matter what because you might not get something tomorrow, had definitely made its way into normal parenting (finishing the plate was expected because polite/parents know best..) and is only starting to significantly relax in my generation again. Harsh or distant parenting, more formal children-parent relationships (completely defined by our modern perspective) obviously affect how you treat your own children. There are obvious things we want to do differently or patterns we want to break and sometimes it’s hard to find a way to accomplish that. And sometimes we don’t realise that we are continuing things that we actually don’t like.
The BRF being an extremely dysfunctional family is hardly news. Charles problematic upbringing too. The fact that he and Diana come from toxic backgrounds (note: of course H does not say one syllable about the Diana part even though it has been in the open for decades) will have influenced their parenting. In good ways and bad ways. Trying to do things differently can be great or a disaster. Overcompensation for example- I think Harry would have loved Gordonstoun. Not noticing certain needs of you children (which can happen to anyone). Trying to give them the instruments to conquer what you think their future will be instead of preparing them to make a choice of their own wether you like it or not (which most parents are guilty of in my experience. Me included.)
H had choices. He might have not been aware for a long time though. If he was always treated as if his future was being a Prince he probably internalised it (and to this day he hasn’t found a way to transform into something different. That guy is lost.). But the further down the pecking order he went, after years of therapy regarding his mother’s death and his experiences in the army (which he has talked about and credited his brother for making him do as it had helped Wiliam) he could have known he had choices. I mean he saw his cousins and their life choices regularly.
He could have addressed the fact of wanting to do things differently and the research around it WITHOUT dragging his family through the mud again publicly. Why has everything to be about him specifically? He brings nothing to the table apart from sob stories about his mother and his bad bad family (and the press and social media). It’s ok to say I have realised I want a different life. That’s ok. Thing is- he (they) didn’t think the royal life was that bad and toxic when they stepped back. They were very much willing to “collaborate” and go on tours on behalf of the crown (their words not mine). H (they) wanted their son to become a Prince (and we all know by now security has nothing to do with it), to keep the HRH and the military honorary titles he only got because he is a royal. His own military rank definitely give it to him. (I say (they) because I am
not sure how much of it is M. She has other things in her life to talk about.)
The Oprah interview was a slippery slope and they are definitely willing to sell out for money or the ultimate celebrity currency: publicity.
This guy is still struggling to find his way, away from being a Prince. I can appreciate that. Getting married and become a father in under three years (and they didn’t even life together for some time before that), moving to a different country with little to no contact to family and friends, public criticism, an ongoing family argument - that’s a lot. Add the need to reinvent yourself. Find a new job and transform your picture you had of yourself and your future. But running around and crying to everybody about your mean family and the mean press all the time while not acknowledging that you are one of the top 1% is just not looking good. Especially if all you have is being a philanthropist (he is certainly neither a good actor, politician, business man or changing the world in the way Gates or Musk do). He lives in a mansion that’s upkeep is not climate friendly, he probably got his COVID jabs quicker than most, he can hop on a private jet to go to a friends wedding, neither he nor his children have to ever think twice if they need good grades to secure a good paying job, they don’t have to worry about health insurance (a USA point), they don’t have to worry if the children can go to college, if they can pay the rent and so on. He can have years of therapy with a snip of his finger. And while I don’t begrudge him that, running around and crying about your hard lot in life is backfiring. Just as it does when W&K try to be relatable. You are not and we know it.
H&M are sell outs. And everyone knows. We will here more sob stories with digs to his family because it brings them attention and much more than anything else.
Sorry for the long rant
But hey I'm not a geneticist and it's another meaningful Cali buzz phrase for him.
