That can be a form of control.I always thought sue is the one in control as she does not seem to do any work but shopping. Noel however looks like he does more
Happened to a girl I know. From the outside it looked like her husband was wonderful. Did all the cooking, most of the cleaning and childcare when he wasn't at work.
She didn't work because he didn't want her to. She started helping at her kid's school twice a week and he absolutely hated it. He would just go crazy if she put things in the wrong place or made a mess.