“The Ick”

[CherryAcid]

It makes me so angry because it’s either this crazy needy stuff or they’re so unbothered that they kill all of the conversations Men need to find some balance!!! I can’t be dealing with not being able to go on my own WhatsApp because someone will see I’m online and be angry I’m not replying or giving them my undivided attention

YES!!!! I'm not the best at replying to people unless its someone close to me so neediness really puts me off. I have been put off so many men who start getting a bit desperate for my attention. I really like my own space so i get so pissed off when they start messaging when im just chilling online.

Christ. Also boxers and socks

I hope your mum is okay. I bet she's so glad to be finally home!

Thanks shes getting better, im glad shes finally coming home, still a long way to go but I think she will improve massively at home.
He has now sent 7 messages in a row in the space of 1 min giving suggestions.....meet in a car side by side, meet in a garden etc I literally just told him that he sounds like a nutter and that he cant be that desperate to go out.

 

[Likkleone]

What the actual duck? I'm sorry for your loss.

Just wondering, has anyone ever called out a needy clinger (especially pre-meeting)? I always wonder how that would go.

I actually did call him out when he first had a melt down about me not wanting to meet him (he came to my area with flowers without telling me so I wasn’t even at home and hung around messaging me saying specific places look nice ) and he turned it all around by saying the nice guys never win, this is why he’s alone etc etc and that’s why I said ok we need to take things slow and start again but he didn’t understand the concept of ‘slow’. I suspect if you’re dealing with a similar person this is the reaction you’ll get by calling him out. They seem to be quite emotionally aware but not necessarily in control of their emotions so I guess be gentle if you like him

 

[skvallertant]

He has now sent 7 messages in a row in the space of 1 min giving suggestions.....meet in a car side by side, meet in a garden etc I literally just told him that he sounds like a nutter and that he cant be that desperate to go out.

My GOD...

Glad your mum is getting better though! Focus on that and laugh at the weirdo dudes!

I actually did call him out when he first had a melt down about me not wanting to meet him (he came to my area with flowers without telling me so I wasn’t even at home and hung around messaging me saying specific places look nice ) and he turned it all around by saying the nice guys never win, this is why he’s alone etc etc and that’s why I said ok we need to take things slow and start again but he didn’t understand the concept of ‘slow’. I suspect if you’re dealing with a similar person this is the reaction you’ll get by calling him out. They seem to be quite emotionally aware but not necessarily in control of their emotions so I guess be gentle if you like him

He came to where you live unannounced?! HELL NO.

I'm not talking to anyone really at the moment, but thanks for the heads up! This thread always puts me off downloading the apps again where are the normal men? You talk to them on an app, they're freaks.. You meet them in real life, they're using you to get over some other girl. Fml

 

[Lindssdnil]

A guy I’ve been dating sometimes goes really off if I take longer than half an hour to reply. He will send me messages like ‘busy then’ ‘where are you’ when I reply saying what I’ve been doing he will reply ‘where have you been’ ‘no worries I will leave you to it then’ this is even when he’s at the gym so shouldn’t be too focused on what I’m doing when he’s busy himself??
What do you all think this means?

 

[Kake20]

A guy I’ve been dating sometimes goes really off if I take longer than half an hour to reply. He will send me messages like ‘busy then’ ‘where are you’ when I reply saying what I’ve been doing he will reply ‘where have you been’ ‘no worries I will leave you to it then’ this is even when he’s at the gym so shouldn’t be too focused on what I’m doing when he’s busy himself??
What do you all think this means?

I think that means you need to tell him to duck off and never speak to you again
I’m sorry but, who does he think he is?? Absolutely no need for that kind of behaviour!

 

[Happyvalley]

A guy I’ve been dating sometimes goes really off if I take longer than half an hour to reply. He will send me messages like ‘busy then’ ‘where are you’ when I reply saying what I’ve been doing he will reply ‘where have you been’ ‘no worries I will leave you to it then’ this is even when he’s at the gym so shouldn’t be too focused on what I’m doing when he’s busy himself??
What do you all think this means?

It’s means it’s a massive red flag so I’d be ignoring all messages and cutting off contact! You don’t need that in your life and will only get worse.

 

[Likkleone]

A guy I’ve been dating sometimes goes really off if I take longer than half an hour to reply. He will send me messages like ‘busy then’ ‘where are you’ when I reply saying what I’ve been doing he will reply ‘where have you been’ ‘no worries I will leave you to it then’ this is even when he’s at the gym so shouldn’t be too focused on what I’m doing when he’s busy himself??
What do you all think this means?

It’s the ‘busy then’ for me!

Even if you weren’t busy and just needed time off your phone, you don’t need to be made to feel as though you’re not giving enough. There needs to be some balance after all. Would he enjoy it if you asked him constantly where he was or wonder why he’s not texting you because he’s ‘only’ at the gym and could easily make time for you during that.

Sounds like he has tendencies to be real possessive which isn’t a good look!

 

[justapossum]

It’s means it’s a massive red flag so I’d be ignoring all messages and cutting off contact! You don’t need that in your life and will only get worse.

Definitely a red flag!
I once had a guy do a similar thing to me, but a step further, and when I didn't respond within the socially acceptable time allocated by him, he aggressively messaged me saying "you're on a date with someone, aren't you?".
I was just chilling and reading a book
Thanks but no thanks!

 

[petitspois]

I hate it when they text all the time 'what are you up to? anything exciting?'.

It's 5.30pm on a Monday night in January, I'm cooking chicken nuggets, what on earth do you think I'm doing? abseiling?

 

[Moley1]

Still enjoying this thread, shame there are no blokes in this forum, would love to read some "Ick" from the blokes.

Having read most of this thread I am amazed that the human race is still going! It’s just as well men don’t read this or they would never attempt to date again!

Anyway, as a guy my “icks” are as follows -

Women who smoke
Women who wear far too much make up
Fake boobs
Women who swear constantly during normal conversation
Trout pouts
Millions of selfies on their insta page.
Wearing thongs when you have a very large a
White tights
Pierced nostril or tongue
Bits of toilet tissue stuck to your flaps
Faking orgasms
Those huge bizarre false finger nails
Getting so drunk you fall over or vomit
Bitchiness
Shallowness
Expecting us to know exactly how you like to be touched without telling us and quietly getting the hump when we don’t get it right.
Fussy eaters
Obsessive shoe purchasing
Chavvy tats (don’t mind classy ones)
Vocal Tory supporters
Ladettes
Flat nipples
Hairy legs
Inappropriate use of dentistry during oral sex
Not checking that the tampon has flushed down the loo
Not checking that you have left any floaters in the loo
Narcissists
Women who get arsey with you and expect you to know what you have done wrong when you haven’t a clue.
Women who complain about the way men treat women and then sleep with other women’s partners anyway

I guess that will do for now

 

[petitspois]

Having read most of this thread I am amazed that the human race is still going! It’s just as well men don’t read this or they would never attempt to date again!

Anyway, as a guy my “icks” are as follows -

Women who smoke
Women who wear far too much make up
Fake boobs
Women who swear constantly during normal conversation
Trout pouts
Millions of selfies on their insta page.
Wearing thongs when you have a very large a
White tights
Pierced nostril or tongue
Bits of toilet tissue stuck to your flaps
Faking orgasms
Those huge bizarre false finger nails
Getting so drunk you fall over or vomit
Bitchiness
Shallowness
Expecting us to know exactly how you like to be touched without telling us and quietly getting the hump when we don’t get it right.
Fussy eaters
Obsessive shoe purchasing
Chavvy tats (don’t mind classy ones)
Vocal Tory supporters
Ladettes
Flat nipples
Hairy legs
Inappropriate use of dentistry during oral sex
Not checking that the tampon has flushed down the loo
Not checking that you have left any floaters in the loo
Narcissists
Women who get arsey with you and expect you to know what you have done wrong when you haven’t a clue.
Women who complain about the way men treat women and then sleep with other women’s partners anyway

I guess that will do for now

This is useful, thank you

I get that inappropriate dentistry could be painful.

 

[Chablis1]

This is useful, thank you

I get that inappropriate dentistry could be painful.

That’s the one that caught my eye as well.

 

[PrincessCharming]

My friend has false teeth. When she started going out with her man (30 odd years ago, now long married and have grandkids) he would ask her to remove them as a special treat for BJs. She was mortified but I think she did it with the lights well and truly off, and the rest as they say is history.

The inappropriate dentistry just brought back that info that frankly I’d rather not know

 

[Mamacita]

Having read most of this thread I am amazed that the human race is still going! It’s just as well men don’t read this or they would never attempt to date again!

Anyway, as a guy my “icks” are as follows -

Women who smoke
Women who wear far too much make up
Fake boobs
Women who swear constantly during normal conversation
Trout pouts
Millions of selfies on their insta page.
Wearing thongs when you have a very large a
White tights
Pierced nostril or tongue
Bits of toilet tissue stuck to your flaps
Faking orgasms
Those huge bizarre false finger nails
Getting so drunk you fall over or vomit
Bitchiness
Shallowness
Expecting us to know exactly how you like to be touched without telling us and quietly getting the hump when we don’t get it right.
Fussy eaters
Obsessive shoe purchasing
Chavvy tats (don’t mind classy ones)
Vocal Tory supporters
Ladettes
Flat nipples
Hairy legs
Inappropriate use of dentistry during oral sex
Not checking that the tampon has flushed down the loo
Not checking that you have left any floaters in the loo
Narcissists
Women who get arsey with you and expect you to know what you have done wrong when you haven’t a clue.
Women who complain about the way men treat women and then sleep with other women’s partners anyway

I guess that will do for now

Ugh shouldn't be flushing tampons down the toilet anyway

 

[Mooordgirl]

Having read most of this thread I am amazed that the human race is still going! It’s just as well men don’t read this or they would never attempt to date again!

Anyway, as a guy my “icks” are as follows -

Women who smoke
Women who wear far too much make up
Fake boobs
Women who swear constantly during normal conversation
Trout pouts
Millions of selfies on their insta page.
Wearing thongs when you have a very large a
White tights
Pierced nostril or tongue
Bits of toilet tissue stuck to your flaps
Faking orgasms
Those huge bizarre false finger nails
Getting so drunk you fall over or vomit
Bitchiness
Shallowness
Expecting us to know exactly how you like to be touched without telling us and quietly getting the hump when we don’t get it right.
Fussy eaters
Obsessive shoe purchasing
Chavvy tats (don’t mind classy ones)
Vocal Tory supporters
Ladettes
Flat nipples
Hairy legs
Inappropriate use of dentistry during oral sex
Not checking that the tampon has flushed down the loo
Not checking that you have left any floaters in the loo
Narcissists
Women who get arsey with you and expect you to know what you have done wrong when you haven’t a clue.
Women who complain about the way men treat women and then sleep with other women’s partners anyway

I guess that will do for now

Am i totally ignorant - I've never heard of flat nipples?! What is it??

 

[Moley1]

Am i totally ignorant - I've never heard of flat nipples?! What is it??

They are just flat and soft all the time.

I meant to add a comment about circumsion too. Let’s call it what it is, male genital mutilation. There is absolutely no reason to remove the foreskin unless it is a required medical procedure. All that crap about it being more hygienic is rubbish. Just wash frequently. You need to wash a circumcised fool too!

Ugh shouldn't be flushing tampons down the toilet anyway

Agreed, but if you do, please make sure that it has gone.

Reading the comments about micro penises reminds of a joke I heard long ago.
After sleeping together for the first time the lady turns to the guy and says “I hope you don’t mind me saying, but you have a very small organ”, to which the guys responds, “That’s okay, I’m just not that used to playing in such a large cathedral”!

 

[Moley1]

Finished the thread finally and wow, has it been an education for a guy!

So then, it is a big no-no? Surely it sounds sexier than boobs (which sounds very functional)? What should we call them?

Same with panties. Sounds so much sexier than knickers. Again, what is the preference? Please don’t say pants or briefs.

Getting back to “ick”. I once had a pleasant couple ofdates with an Eastern European lady. We first met for a drink and the evening went well. She invited me out for a second date at the Savoy, her treat, full penguin suit etc. This was slightly ick for me as I didnt like dressing up in the full DJ at work functions, let alone for pleasure. I’d also rather have a relaxing date somewhere less posh as we were still getting to know each other. Still, she worked in the City, could clearly afford it, so why look a gift horse in the mouth.
We had a lovely evening (if somewhat marred for me by the presence on the next table of Tory Minister Leon Britton and his party). I drove her home and she invited me in for nightcap.
As they say, one thing led to another and the evening took a passionate twist. All was going well until the ick thing happened. As the proceedings were building to a climax she started pulling these strange, contorted, weird facial expressions. It was as if she was in great pain and being tortured or possessed by a devil. I shut my eyes but it was too late. Once seen, never unseen. It was a great shame as we really did seem to be getting on well, but the thought of that frightening sex face being pulled every time we shagged was enough to cool my ardour.
I didn’t have the guts to tell her that the face she pulls when she comes puts me off sex, so let her down gently by saying we lived too far apart.

 

[PrincessCharming]

Finished the thread finally and wow, has it been an education for a guy!

So then, it is a big no-no? Surely it sounds sexier than boobs (which sounds very functional)? What should we call them?

Same with panties. Sounds so much sexier than knickers. Again, what is the preference? Please don’t say pants or briefs.

Getting back to “ick”. I once had a pleasant couple ofdates with an Eastern European lady. We first met for a drink and the evening went well. She invited me out for a second date at the Savoy, her treat, full penguin suit etc. This was slightly ick for me as I didnt like dressing up in the full DJ at work functions, let alone for pleasure. I’d also rather have a relaxing date somewhere less posh as we were still getting to know each other. Still, she worked in the City, could clearly afford it, so why look a gift horse in the mouth.
We had a lovely evening (if somewhat marred for me by the presence on the next table of Tory Minister Leon Britton and his party). I drove her home and she invited me in for nightcap.
As they say, one thing led to another and the evening took a passionate twist. All was going well until the ick thing happened. As the proceedings were building to a climax she started pulling these strange, contorted, weird facial expressions. It was as if she was in great pain and being tortured or possessed by a devil. I shut my eyes but it was too late. Once seen, never unseen. It was a great shame as we really did seem to be getting on well, but the thought of that frightening sex face being pulled every time we shagged was enough to cool my ardour.
I didn’t have the guts to tell her that the face she pulls when she comes puts me off sex, so let her down gently by saying we lived too far apart.

You could have tried doggy-style, 4/10 for effort

It must have been invented so weird people could have sex!

 

[Spacemonkey1972]

Just found this thread . My ick list
Dirty or smelly . As in under fingernails. I don’t mean if they’ve been working hard but when it’s left there
Man buns. No. Just no
Seriousness. I love a laugh. I’m a bit un PC
Unread. I love books
Men who talk during sex or want sex talk if they’re away. I just can’t
What I call ‘soy boys’. Sorry I like a masculine man
*no offence to anyone if you are any of these. It’s just for fun

 

[Mooordgirl]

Finished the thread finally and wow, has it been an education for a guy!

So then, it is a big no-no? Surely it sounds sexier than boobs (which sounds very functional)? What should we call them?

Same with panties. Sounds so much sexier than knickers. Again, what is the preference? Please don’t say pants or briefs.

Getting back to “ick”. I once had a pleasant couple ofdates with an Eastern European lady. We first met for a drink and the evening went well. She invited me out for a second date at the Savoy, her treat, full penguin suit etc. This was slightly ick for me as I didnt like dressing up in the full DJ at work functions, let alone for pleasure. I’d also rather have a relaxing date somewhere less posh as we were still getting to know each other. Still, she worked in the City, could clearly afford it, so why look a gift horse in the mouth.
We had a lovely evening (if somewhat marred for me by the presence on the next table of Tory Minister Leon Britton and his party). I drove her home and she invited me in for nightcap.
As they say, one thing led to another and the evening took a passionate twist. All was going well until the ick thing happened. As the proceedings were building to a climax she started pulling these strange, contorted, weird facial expressions. It was as if she was in great pain and being tortured or possessed by a devil. I shut my eyes but it was too late. Once seen, never unseen. It was a great shame as we really did seem to be getting on well, but the thought of that frightening sex face being pulled every time we shagged was enough to cool my ardour.
I didn’t have the guts to tell her that the face she pulls when she comes puts me off sex, so let her down gently by saying we lived too far apart.

Both panties and it should never be used

Boobs is fine... not sure if theres any word for knickers that will not give some sort of an ick!!