I appreciate everything you’ve done for moving the conversation along here in a productive light, but I just can’t shake the taste of self righteousness out of your posts when you speak about a situation that is clearly still very toxic and active for those involved at this workplace- and since gone. I know you’ve spoken about your own Pete issues and I don’t want to discredit the abuse you suffered either. It just feels a little tasteless for you To be on this gossip sight basically saying “I told them so.”
Were you on Craig’s ass like a good friend “all those years” after you left telling him he’s betraying you if he doesn’t leave? Or did that just become the opinion when things came to light because of Dustin?
When Sean and Dustin came forward, I had the chance to speak with both of them about their experiences and let them know they had my full support. Dustin thanked me for my posts, saying they helped keep the topic active, which is the main reason I continue to share here. I don't gain much personally from doing this; in fact, there are risks to me both personally and professionally, especially since I'm open about my identity. Reliving these memories takes an emotional toll on me, and speaking out publicly doesn't win me many friends (at the Dis or elsewhere) because the whole situation makes people uncomfortable. I've tried to state that plainly many times.
That being said, I understand that some people might not take my words at face value and may see my posts as self-righteous. I've come to terms with the fact that some will misinterpret my intentions and motives no matter how I communicate because this type of interaction has its limitations, and some people are naturally cynical. Honestly, I tend to be cynical myself, so I understand that viewpoint.
I'm not offended by your perspective. I see where you’re coming from and accept that you might hold that opinion regardless of my intentions. Everyone's circumstances influence how they see others. My focus remains on my true purpose here: keeping the topic active and providing more pieces to the story whenever I can.
This brings us to the most recent post you criticized. I shared the story simply because a poster brought up Craig's previous acknowledgment in a YouTube video that felt confusing and random. I thought I could provide fuller context to the incident and show the humanity of it.
I fail to see the "I told you so" part you have painted into the picture, as if I didn't include myself in explaining to Craig that we were part of something harmful. But, again, I have spoken as plainly as I can in my retelling of this. Whether the failure to understand is due to my inability to communicate better or your inability to perceive better, I have to accept that this is where we are.
Also, I think it is fair to say that maybe all of us being here is "tasteless" to some degree. The story itself is tasteless. But if it is going to be discussed truthfully, there will be parts that lack taste. I can't really apologize for that reality. It is what it is.
Not that I owe you an explanation, but I will answer your question in another attempt to provide insight. I did not ever get on Craig's case for "betraying me" because I didn't feel that way. Craig has suffered more than I did at the Dis. If he ever shares his story, you guys better buckle up because he once told me he literally kept a log of incidents. I have always known he did what he did while he was there because he was between a rock and a hard place, trying to navigate a fraught situation as an emotionally damaged person. I genuinely have compassion for all of them (even Ryno) on that point. So, no, I didn't "get on his ass" for betraying me. I didn't need to. Once I was out, it wasn't about me. It was about him and getting him out.
Many of our conversations before Dustin and Sean came forward were about "not staying so long that you get stuck" in that toxic hell—he'll recognize that quote because I said it repeatedly. He listened to me even back then and was looking on and off for a way to get out. But after Sean and Dustin came forward (followed by Charles' revelations), there was a greater sense of urgency for him to "wake up," as I put it in the text. Does this insight help you?