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There are so many "manifesting" and "coaches" around now who say decide what you want to do and take action. What if you don't know (like I don't?) It adds pressure, and what I want to do, is take about a year out to do absolutely nothing and repair my MH but as you said, the world doesn't allow checking out without going broke. "Money is just energy, there is unlimited amounts", great but where is it then? All I see is me, solo, one salary, and bills flying up (including my tax doubling this month thanks to a "bonus" pushing me upwards). Applied for a very different job in a different sector - one I have more than enough skills for but the title is different so I got a "impressed with your qualifications but going with experience". Well find out what I actually do and you'll see I'm probably more experienced than those who've held the actual title. Just feel trapped as can't take a paycut to retrain anywhere else. And so the spiral continues@ATV2021 I get where you are coming from. Society tells you to do a job you love and you will never work a day in your life. It's such bullshit. Most people don't like what they do for a living; it is a means to an end. I'm not happy with what I am dong for a living, if you can call it that. I've been doing a job working from home before it was thing with COVID. It worked for me because I needed the money. I wasn't finding any work outside of home after I was laid off (and other crap that happened at the same time, when it rains it pours) and was going into my umpteenth bout of depression as a result. Some days I can get on with it, but if I am left to think about things, I feel like I am just existing. I hate living in a world that doesn't allow people to check out when they want, without going broke.
He missed a few days but thank god since that post he back up and taking meds and promise he go to a meeting next week.... it so hard knowing what to do for the best, and I got no one I can talk to about it as well . Thank you for the reply.@ATV2021 I get where you are coming from. Society tells you to do a job you love and you will never work a day in your life. It's such bullshit. Most people don't like what they do for a living; it is a means to an end. I'm not happy with what I am dong for a living, if you can call it that. I've been doing a job working from home before it was thing with COVID. It worked for me because I needed the money. I wasn't finding any work outside of home after I was laid off (and other crap that happened at the same time, when it rains it pours) and was going into my umpteenth bout of depression as a result. Some days I can get on with it, but if I am left to think about things, I feel like I am just existing. I hate living in a world that doesn't allow people to check out when they want, without going broke.
@tadhg is he taking his meds? I can only imagine as someone with depression how it affects the partner/family member. You have to make sure you don't unconsciously absorb what's ailing him and let it consume you in the process. What is he doing to help himself? Has his personal hygiene fallen off the cliff? I don't like hearing about someone not being able to go to work and spending ages in bed; that is not a good sign. If he is taking his meds without fail, there needs to be an adjustment or another medication. Bear in mind I am not a shrink, using my personal experience, but he sounds really bad. I'm talking needing a stint in hospital bad. Have you discussed this with him, or does he just hole himself up in bed and you give him a wide berth? First and foremost, take care of yourself so you can help him.
thank you so much for the thoughtfulness of this reply i really appreciate it.That is so hard. Does it help you at all to have a plan in place? For example, a routine when packing, when you arrive, before you leave, and where you get home. Bed bugs are a thing almost everywhere, so those who travel lots have routines to minimize risk. For example, pack clothing in large ziplock bags. When you arrive, leave clothing in luggage, give the room a quick once-over, for example pulling back a corner of the bedding and looking at seam of mattress. Don’t leave luggage or clothing draped on soft furnishings. When returning home, leave luggage outside if possible, bring baggies of clothing in and straight into a hot wash. Vacuum and wipe down luggage. Most likely, you will be fine, but I know, try telling your ocd that. I’m not minimizing what you’re feeling. Many hotel chains spray regularly for bedbugs as they have people travelling from all over the world. Also, can you have a conversation with your friend? Let her know how much you want to spend time with her but that you’re working with this issue you have? Would she be sympathetic?
It sounds like a fun trip and you may regret missing it.