So glad you posted. I'm unable to stop Venlafaxine due to withdrawal symptoms, so will continue. Sertraline sounds better for you. Was reading coroners' reports and something called Agmatine Sulphate was found to be missing in suicidal brains. I read reports out of interest - I know how to have a good time! Am sleeping better after 3 weeks, so who knows. The people on this thread are always kind and compassionate so keep posting. xxI’m not particularly active on TL - I lurk and read rather than post (I’m shy even on the internet). But this thread seems so supportive and like a safe space, I thought I’d dip my toes in.
I’ve struggled with depression (and other MH issues) for years, but it’s got so much worse since the pandemic. My living situation is less than ideal (understatement of the century) and that’s a massive contributing factor, but I’m stuck here for now.
Currently reducing my dose of venlafaxine to go back on to sertraline. It reduced my appetite loads and I didn’t feel myself when I was on the higher dose. I was on sertraline for 3 years and felt like it had stopped working, but I’d pick that over how I’ve been feeling on venlafaxine any day.
i might do a more detailed post later. This is just to say hi and try to get over my anxiety about postingbut I hope Monday is kind to you all. Take it as easy as you can
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Brain is mush after therapy. That means it’s working, right?
Psych this afternoon. So nervous.
Meds weaning is going okay so far.
Hope everyone is okay
Psych this afternoon. So nervous.
Meds weaning is going okay so far.
Hope everyone is okay
I would always feel so emotionally drained after each session. I hope your appointment went okay.
Hello all I hope you're all okay 
I would wanted to come on here because I feel like I need to voice some things that are weighing heavy on my mind and hopefully feel better for doing so.
I am currently 6 months pregnant and I am finding it very hard these last few weeks, I am signed off work due to very painful pelvic girdle pain and awaiting a review from the doctors to see what/if they can do or if I am ok to go back to work with changed duties.
I feel very sad a lot of the time at the moment and I couldn't explain why. On paper I have no reason to be sad I have a lovely house, good job, loving fiancé and crackpot animals that make me laugh, but I just feel so overwhelmed with life and the pregnancy it's becoming hard for me to process.
Everyone expects you to be a glowing bundle of joy when pregnant (I'm not!! I'm still spotty tired and the odd sickness!) And everyone keeps asking me if I'm crying with happiness over my growing bump (I'm not, I'm finding it very hard to adjust to a changing body I have no control of and I HATE it when people keep telling me how big I am, it isn't a compliment)
Maybe I am just having a bad few weeks but the only way I can describe how I feel is the feeling of being overwhelmed and everyone tells me how I SHOULD feel and how I shouldn't be sad because I'm carrying a blessing.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to air my thoughts x
I would wanted to come on here because I feel like I need to voice some things that are weighing heavy on my mind and hopefully feel better for doing so.
I am currently 6 months pregnant and I am finding it very hard these last few weeks, I am signed off work due to very painful pelvic girdle pain and awaiting a review from the doctors to see what/if they can do or if I am ok to go back to work with changed duties.
I feel very sad a lot of the time at the moment and I couldn't explain why. On paper I have no reason to be sad I have a lovely house, good job, loving fiancé and crackpot animals that make me laugh, but I just feel so overwhelmed with life and the pregnancy it's becoming hard for me to process.
Everyone expects you to be a glowing bundle of joy when pregnant (I'm not!! I'm still spotty tired and the odd sickness!) And everyone keeps asking me if I'm crying with happiness over my growing bump (I'm not, I'm finding it very hard to adjust to a changing body I have no control of and I HATE it when people keep telling me how big I am, it isn't a compliment)
Maybe I am just having a bad few weeks but the only way I can describe how I feel is the feeling of being overwhelmed and everyone tells me how I SHOULD feel and how I shouldn't be sad because I'm carrying a blessing.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to air my thoughts x
I always end up falling asleep after therapy or seeing the Psychiatrist. It’s absolutely draining. Sending youBrain is mush after therapy. That means it’s working, right?
Psych this afternoon. So nervous.
Meds weaning is going okay so far.
Hope everyone is okay
This sounds very much like antenatal depression and it’s a very real thing. Can you have a chat with your midwife or your GP about how you are feeling?Hello all I hope you're all okay
I would wanted to come on here because I feel like I need to voice some things that are weighing heavy on my mind and hopefully feel better for doing so.
I am currently 6 months pregnant and I am finding it very hard these last few weeks, I am signed off work due to very painful pelvic girdle pain and awaiting a review from the doctors to see what/if they can do or if I am ok to go back to work with changed duties.
I feel very sad a lot of the time at the moment and I couldn't explain why. On paper I have no reason to be sad I have a lovely house, good job, loving fiancé and crackpot animals that make me laugh, but I just feel so overwhelmed with life and the pregnancy it's becoming hard for me to process.
Everyone expects you to be a glowing bundle of joy when pregnant (I'm not!! I'm still spotty tired and the odd sickness!) And everyone keeps asking me if I'm crying with happiness over my growing bump (I'm not, I'm finding it very hard to adjust to a changing body I have no control of and I HATE it when people keep telling me how big I am, it isn't a compliment)
Maybe I am just having a bad few weeks but the only way I can describe how I feel is the feeling of being overwhelmed and everyone tells me how I SHOULD feel and how I shouldn't be sad because I'm carrying a blessing.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to air my thoughts x
I am happy to be pregnant and some days I am so excited, my partner is such wonderful support, but other days I just feel so sad but no rhyme or reason as to why. I'm seeing my GP tomorrow for my sick note review and I have my midwife appointment in the afternoon tomorrow so I will mention it to them...I just don't want anyone to think I'm just being miserable for no reason
Anyone bought flowers yet? 
These are on day 8!
These are on day 8!
So my father in law was discharged from hospital, they think it was a mix of him still being poorly from the last time, and the new medication the hospital had put him on. It stopped his kidneys from working, but slowly they have started to improve. We also found out that the last time he was in the hospital he had sepsis and e.Coli!!
So as we were celebrating the good news of him getting discharged, I got a phonecall from my husband's aunt to say that his uncle had passed away
He'd been poorly for a long time but it was still a shock. It was his funeral on Monday but I was unable to go as my husband went and I had to stay home to look after my father in law. Wish I could have gone to pay my respects.
It just feels like we're being constantly battered without any rest at all. Feel mentally and physically exhausted.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and that you weren’t able to go to the funeral.So my father in law was discharged from hospital, they think it was a mix of him still being poorly from the last time, and the new medication the hospital had put him on. It stopped his kidneys from working, but slowly they have started to improve. We also found out that the last time he was in the hospital he had sepsis and e.Coli!!
So as we were celebrating the good news of him getting discharged, I got a phonecall from my husband's aunt to say that his uncle had passed away
It was his funeral on Monday but I was unable to go as my husband went and I had to stay home to look after my father in law. Wish I could have gone to pay my respects.
It just feels like we're being constantly battered without any rest at all. Feel mentally and physically exhausted.
There are many ways that you can say goodbye to someone without being at a funeral.
Could you try and get a little time alone, somewhere peaceful and calm, where you can think or say all the things you want to about your husband’s uncle?
I did similar recently and it really helped me to feel that I’d paid my respects, and it was actually so special as it was just me and my own thoughts in my own time.
I’m glad your father in law is home again, although that in itself puts more strain on you
I hope you’re able to access some external support with his care.Don’t forget that your needs matter too in all of this x
Hi lovely, I tried to reply yesterday but couldn’t get my brain working. Now this has ended up too long, I’m sorry! But I want to say it allHello all I hope you're all okay
I would wanted to come on here because I feel like I need to voice some things that are weighing heavy on my mind and hopefully feel better for doing so.
I am currently 6 months pregnant and I am finding it very hard these last few weeks, I am signed off work due to very painful pelvic girdle pain and awaiting a review from the doctors to see what/if they can do or if I am ok to go back to work with changed duties.
I feel very sad a lot of the time at the moment and I couldn't explain why. On paper I have no reason to be sad I have a lovely house, good job, loving fiancé and crackpot animals that make me laugh, but I just feel so overwhelmed with life and the pregnancy it's becoming hard for me to process.
Everyone expects you to be a glowing bundle of joy when pregnant (I'm not!! I'm still spotty tired and the odd sickness!) And everyone keeps asking me if I'm crying with happiness over my growing bump (I'm not, I'm finding it very hard to adjust to a changing body I have no control of and I HATE it when people keep telling me how big I am, it isn't a compliment)
Maybe I am just having a bad few weeks but the only way I can describe how I feel is the feeling of being overwhelmed and everyone tells me how I SHOULD feel and how I shouldn't be sad because I'm carrying a blessing.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to air my thoughts x
The way you are feeling isn’t unusual, but it’s also not something you have to just deal with.
As already mentioned, antenatal depression is a real consideration. It’s so much more common than we realise, and it’s never discussed which is frankly dangerous.
To give you some reassurance (and I’m making assumptions here based on my own experience, so please forgive me if I’m way off) I didn’t say anything to my midwife when I felt that overwhelming sadness in my pregnancy. I told myself things like ‘you have nothing to be sad about, don’t be silly’ or ‘you and baby are both well, this is ridiculous, just snap out of it’
I also had an irrational but very loud worry that, by admitting that I wasn’t okay and asking for help, I might somehow be flagged as a mum who wouldn’t cope with her baby.
I was truly terrified that I might have my baby removed from my care when he was born, or that I might be watched closely or something.
This worry, I have since discovered, is also so common - but it was irrational and completely unfounded.
It turns out that if I’d asked for help, if I’d been honest with myself and others, I would have been scooped up by the perinatal MH team who are the best people to help us cope and find ways to feel better.
There is no way my baby (or older child) would have been removed. I wish someone had told me that at the time, because then I would have been brave and been honest.
The other thing I found hard was when I saw my midwife, she just said something like ‘everything’s going well then?’ but it was a statement rather than a question, and it made it impossible for me to say actually no, it’s not okay, I’m falling apart and I don’t know how to glue myself back together!
If you aren’t sure how to approach it, do you have your MW’s mobile number? If so you could possibly text her before your appointment.
The best way, though, would be to tell your GP when your sick note is reviewed today, because that will then give you more space from work while you focus on you.
‘the feeling of being overwhelmed and everyone tells me how I SHOULD feel’
- this jumped out at me from your post. Please know that there is no ‘should’ in any of this.
Two opposite feelings can co-exist -
You can be happy and thankful to be pregnant and you can find it overwhelming.
You can have a wonderful and supportive partner, a home and security and you can feel alone, overwhelmed and scared.
One thing doesn’t negate the other. They are both valid, but the worrying ones don’t have to take over. There is so much help for you.
I hope you feel able to be honest today with the GP. I know how hard that first step is.
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Anyone have experience with Duloxetine? I don’t think it’s suiting me at all. I was originally on Prozac but after a bereavement, covid, hard time at work etc. It wasn’t doing anything for me and had to change.
I’m only young but I have struggled with my mental health for years and I know it’s something that I will have to maintain for the rest of my life.
I just wonder sometimes why some people struggle with MH and others don’t ya know…
I’m only young but I have struggled with my mental health for years and I know it’s something that I will have to maintain for the rest of my life.
I just wonder sometimes why some people struggle with MH and others don’t ya know…
I just wanted to thank everyone for making this a safe and comfortable place and I'm learning a lot from ye xMajor catch up from me this morning, I just didn’t have the capacity over the weekend.
@justheretoread99 how’s the mirtazapine going?
@ilovepizza21 you’ve got so much to cope with, you’re doing amazingly (even if it doesn’t feel like it) Your ex doesn’t help the situation with either child, does he
Don’t be afraid to be honest with school. They are duty bound to help you. What’s happening is not your fault and please remember that you (and the kids) are worthy of help
@minty901 I’m so sorry you’re feeling so low. It sounds like you feel trapped in your marriage and unsupported by those around you. Is there a trusted person you could confide in? Even your GP? There are ways to help you start to see the light through this darkness. Don’t face it alone xx
@heron it seems like your boyfriend is feeling overwhelmed and lost. No one can be sure what he’s thinking, and he possibly doesn’t even know himself, but it could be that he only has the energy and capacity to get himself through the day. It’s hard to explain if you haven’t experienced it yourself, but depression really can take so much of ‘you’ away and just leaves you as a shell, with the ability to cope with the very basics. If he’s always busy at work that’s likey avoidance of his feelings, combined with fear of not being good enough.
I think (and I could be wrong!) that the best thing you can do right now is let him know you are there to support him, but don’t push him or you risk pushing him away. Respect his decision that he needs space - it will have taken a lot for him to do that. Just gently remind him that you love him, and you’re right there for him if he needs you.
Yes! Like floating above it, know you feel it but actually feel numb
@StillLucilleBluth you aren’t an idiot. Not at all. You gave love to someone who then hurt you. That’s not on you - but it is so, so hard.
How long have you been separated?
@Jadejones9596 hope you’re feeling better today. Instagram is terrible for only showing what people want to show. It is not real x
@pusheencat00 Venlafaxine made me feel detached. I’m currently weaning down to switch.
A difficult living situation makes things harder
I've told my (former) boyfriend that I'm here to support him and I'm still his best friend. He's very up and down though when I mention therapy and/or a doctor. Sometimes he's more open to it and recognises he needs it and within hours he can shut down the idea and explains that it won't help him as he's tried it for years. I try to encourage it but also don't want to overstep...it's a very difficult line to see. I informed our supervisor that he was struggling so that hopefully from a work perspective it might ease. I told my boyfriend of this after a few days and he was appreciative, fortunately, as I thought he could be annoyed.
Hiya, yes I’m on Duloxatine. Take 120mg a day. It was working well for quite a while but not for the past 4-5 months. I have a psychiatrist review soon and going to ask if I can switch back to Venlafaxine. That suited me but I was taken off it for ‘safety’ reasons urgently.
My MH issues started at 16 and I’m now early 40’s. The last 10-12 years have been far the worst. I have EUPD alongside MDD and Anxiety.
I honestly knew why it affects some people and not others.
sending you much love and support. It can take a while to find the right medication and doses
Sounds like you’re doing everything you can and you have his best interests at heart.
He will realise that he’s lucky to have you supporting him. Just please don’t give too much of yourself, make sure you look after you as well
I haven’t taken Duloxetine, but I’m on Venlafaxine which is also an SNRI and it really has helped me. I tried a number of SSRI first, including Prozac / Fluoxetine, and they did nothing.
Good luck
I was taken off Prozac after my breakdown last year and put on Duloxetine. It definitely helped but right now I'm not sure if I just need therapy or if I need my dosage adjusted.
Thank you for the suggestions Pollyanna263. I'll try to find a way to pay my respects in my own way
Thank you for the suggestions Pollyanna263. I'll try to find a way to pay my respects in my own way
I’ve only ever tried Prozac/Fluoxetine and I found it quite helpful. I had my share of side effects but I think it was worth it. After several months I started feeling calm, a bit numb and quite happy. I’m off medication now but I’m thinking of asking to be put back on it again. Prozac was also good for managing my ED. I really feel your pain @parrot456 as I’m in a similar situation myself, I really hope you find something that works for you x
Sending a big hug to everyone on here
Sending a big hug to everyone on here
So my father in law was discharged from hospital, they think it was a mix of him still being poorly from the last time, and the new medication the hospital had put him on. It stopped his kidneys from working, but slowly they have started to improve. We also found out that the last time he was in the hospital he had sepsis and e.Coli!!
So as we were celebrating the good news of him getting discharged, I got a phonecall from my husband's aunt to say that his uncle had passed away
It was his funeral on Monday but I was unable to go as my husband went and I had to stay home to look after my father in law. Wish I could have gone to pay my respects.
It just feels like we're being constantly battered without any rest at all. Feel mentally and physically exhausted.
I know it’s a very personal thing so different people will have different experience, but I lost a relative last year (it was a sudden death) and I sort of regret going to his funeral. It was very painful for me and I didn’t really feel like I was paying my respects. I wish I would have remembered him alive instead. I’m sorry you were not able to go despite wanting to, but you can definitely pay your respects and say goodbye without going to the funeral. Please don’t beat yourself over it and take care of yourself 
Hope everyone is able to step outside and feel the warmth of the sun today
So I'm more of a lurker on tl but I'm in a rut atm!
I suffer with bpd, I've been okay for a couple of years, I have therapy & was happily working thru my issues.
Until a couple of weeks ago when my horse needed the vet as he's getting on & isn't as comfortable as he was. The vet said in no uncertain term that this will more than 80% be his last summer. I'm more than aware that he's older but the thought of this being our last summer has killed me. It's triggered a huge downward fall in my mood & tbh I just don't want to this anymore. I know this seems petty & I should feel privileged to have shared the past 3 years with him. But this horse has saved my life more than a few. He's the keeper of all my secrets, he's my escape from reality on a daily basis. No matter how tit my day, I know when I arrive at the farm he will be there shouting me & happy to see me. I don't remember life before him.
He's the one solid consistent in my life, he's never left me or let me down. I have no family of my own, I have a partner & my son but that's where my family ends. My mother is an alcoholic, father ducked out when I was 3.
I've lived thru alot of trauma in my 30 years of life. I just don't know if this ticking time bomb of loosing my best friend is the cherry on the cake.
3 times last week I found myself a crying mess, crisis team never answered as was busy & so was the text line for samaritans.
I just don't want to anymore
I suffer with bpd, I've been okay for a couple of years, I have therapy & was happily working thru my issues.
Until a couple of weeks ago when my horse needed the vet as he's getting on & isn't as comfortable as he was. The vet said in no uncertain term that this will more than 80% be his last summer. I'm more than aware that he's older but the thought of this being our last summer has killed me. It's triggered a huge downward fall in my mood & tbh I just don't want to this anymore. I know this seems petty & I should feel privileged to have shared the past 3 years with him. But this horse has saved my life more than a few. He's the keeper of all my secrets, he's my escape from reality on a daily basis. No matter how tit my day, I know when I arrive at the farm he will be there shouting me & happy to see me. I don't remember life before him.
He's the one solid consistent in my life, he's never left me or let me down. I have no family of my own, I have a partner & my son but that's where my family ends. My mother is an alcoholic, father ducked out when I was 3.
I've lived thru alot of trauma in my 30 years of life. I just don't know if this ticking time bomb of loosing my best friend is the cherry on the cake.
3 times last week I found myself a crying mess, crisis team never answered as was busy & so was the text line for samaritans.
I just don't want to anymore
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