I totally agree with you in what you have stated.
I personally feel that some past members, or people who have personally chosen to disconnect from Tattle Life of their own accord, were not happy in accepting the Moderators' statement/suggestions/restrictions/guidelines etc. As far as I am aware - it is a "yes" or "no" answer situation.
It has absolutely nothing to do with being banned = simply if you don't accept the forum's guidelines - then, it is your choice!
As to Kathy in France's vlogs. She initially stated that any income she earned from her YT channel would be donated to a local charity/ies simply because she and her husband don't need the money.
Well, now it appears when she is maybe earning an income, (I honestly don't really know), she is going to donate 7/8 trees a month to a local area = these trees cost peanuts as they are "whips", in effect, 50p each. Whatever happened to the other local charities?
Unfortunately, and I am sad to say, SJ's original promises springs to my mind here!
But, at the same time, she is now personally openly stating within her vlogs, that she and her husband have always been "very poor".
Just doesn't ring true or, make sense to me.