The advice thread for random problems

[g.m.j]

Does anyone know if electric blankets are safe?! i see them sold a lot so I’m assuming they are and maybe I’m being over cautious but I just want opinions before buying. I live alone in a flat with plug in heaters (woooo renting 🫣🫡) and it can get cold when I’m in bed/waking up because there’s no way I’m plugging in those heaters overnight. might be a stupid question idk

 

[Snippysnips]

Thankyou, I have seen those boredom busters but haven't got her one yet, for now we are giving her certain toys and a bone from her previous owner at mealtimes when she's alone.
Another thing I am doing is randomly leaving the room for no reason, letting her whine for a minute and then when she pauses I go back to her. Hopefully she will link the quiet to my return?
I'm confident we will crack it, I've somehow managed to birth and raise 3 humans so a dog should be simple right?!

It's never simple god mine ate the house apart, come in one day to find his nose white an wondering wtf had went on, went upstairs to find he had eaten the wall from the hall right into the room an I now had a large hole, but you know it passes, it really does, an he turned out to be the most amazing dog ever, it just took patience so you will get there eventually

There are some train ticket websites where they split the fares (so you end up getting a few tickets per journey) which works out cheaper than one ticket from and to a destination. Google "split train tickets" and lots of websites come up.

Thanks had never heard of that before, I'll look into that, it's insane how the government want you to use public transport then you see the prices of that

 

[BettyCrockerr]

@Snippysnips if you are that bothered just contact them and ask for feedback?

 

[Purrrrrrr]

I didn’t think it was right to cheat I told him I’m fully against cheating after seeing someone close in family doing it. That’s why when I managed to find his girlfriend I immediately told her. I didn’t tell her about him cheating on her with a guy out of spite I felt she had the right too know especially when he did it more than once behind her back and from research it was with someone they both work with otherwise I wouldn’t of told her about him being into guy stuff.

Its not your duty to tell, a stranger that they are being cheated on. Its pure revenge. As others have said, He got what he wanted from you, sex and a listening ear without any hassles and drawbacks.

 

[Snippysnips]

I agree, it's better to just he honest an let them know that you were actually offered two jobs at the same time and when thinking about it the other job is better suited to yourself so yours sorry to withdraw but you are going to pursue the other one

An congrats on the new job

 

[JoeBloggs]

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I did send a reply and a not very nice one ( not proud of it) and told her to not contact me again but she blocked me after I sent it. but it still played on my mind how the fuck did I get it so wrong so thought I wiould post it here. I feel a lot better now

You didn’t get it wrong at all here @Purrrrrrr, you were just being genuine. She didn’t like the answer you gave and went cray cray!

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone ever had problems with a company running a compitition and then not paying out what the prize is?

So last October this company ran a compitition to win tickets to the harry potter studios for best pumpkin, mine won an they were very fast at contacting me for details

This is where the problems arose, they told me start of November that I'd won, we sent a few messages back an forth with what date I'd like an what ticket version I wanted (two adults an two kids or three adults an one kid) so I let them know which I wanted an my date an they said they would get them booked an get back to me, it went silent from there, I sent numerous messages asking what was happening between November an January as my date was February I'd picked an had no answer nor no sign of any tickets

They told me that they had been waiting on my reply for my details, now twitter shows when a message has been read so I know they had read it the day I sent the date I wanted, ever message after that had been ignored an they said they hadn't seen any of them so gave me a email to talk with them an to pick new dates as it was too late for February now

Now I've sent emails to them with new dates an again after the one they asked for my details it's went silent again, I phoned the studios this time an they said tickets would be within 48 hours if it was email an no longer than 14 days for mail, it's been over a month an still no tickets nor any reply an the date I picked is for next month

So now am left wondering what to do, I need to book hotel an travel but cannot do that till I have confirmation that they are booked but at the same time its getting closer an closer an it will get more expensive to book the closer it is

Are there any official things I can do legal wise? Like what happens if a competition won't pay out what's been promised, the company is legit by the looks of it so it doesn't seem like it was a scam set up out the blue by someone

 

[JoeBloggs]

Didn’t know that Tattle has this thread so I’m gonna ask away (thank you for starting the thread, btw!)

I have difficulty in expressing what I think, and mostly what I feel. If I face a certain social complexities against someone else, I usually either get mad at them or to remain completely silent and refuse to talk to them for a few days until I can calm myself down and be rational.

lastly the thing that makes me infuriated the most is because the only role play friend that I have refused to continue our role play session using characters from certain tv shows/anime. I understand because he doesn’t like to write stories and reading them, he’s more of a visual type of person (prefers to see pictures, go to the museum more than reading a book). Though I understand the reason behind it, the thing that makes me disappointed is because when he decided to stop doing role play, is the same as the character’s life being taken away from me, as if they never existed. We’ve been doing role play on and off for 10 years and it felt surreal we are never going to have any role play session again.

I want to tell the person that I am mad and hurt, and that role play is a form of therapy for me (because I like to write and read) but I know I can’t push my hobbies to someone else. I know I’ll never have any role play session again with this person, but somehow it irks me to just sit still and not let them understand my POV (though I secretly wish that if they understood my POV perhaps they’ll continue role playing with me)


This kind of confusion from my end doesn’t only entail this one specific case, I also have difficulty in standing up for myself in a conflict. I try to understand their POV, but at the same time I want them to also know my POV without sounding like I’m pushing them around too much. By the end of the day I mostly just keep silent and let this anger inside me dissolved in a few days.

I do not want to sounds harsh but this is my two pence. Your friend has been honest and said they no longer want to do a certain activity with you for their own reasonable reasons. They have been doing this with you for a decade and are now standing up for themselves and their feelings. I think you need to seek what you got from this activity elsewhere, find a local group or online forum etc. Pushing your feelings onto them is not fair, they haven't done anything mean to you and by telling them you feel mad and hurt will make them feel guilty and imo that it not fair.

You clearly know all this and I think ultimately you just want to feel heard. If tattle doesn't settle that, do you have another friend you could vent to, about your feelings not your friend.

Ultimately this friend has not said they do not want to be friends with you, just that this activity is not something they want anymore. And I am sure you could find someone else to fill this void for you. Don't fall out with your friend over their wishes.

 

[WilmaHun]

Does anybody have any personal recommendations for online prescription glasses that don’t cost a fortune?

I've used both GlassesDirect and DirectSight and found them to be really good quality and low prices. Specsavers were extortionate in comparison for the same frames.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Ok so I’m assuming advice on anything and this is a long one but… I want advice and opinions.

So I was talking to a guy for 5 years in the middle of those 5 years we were friends with benefits for two years. Due to work schedules (he works away during half term and then works at a school) we found it very hard to meet up but we spoke everyday got really close I think we both didn’t expect to get as close as we did.

Anyway, he told me he had a girlfriend which I was perfectly fine with because during the years we spoke and he got with someone we didn’t do anything just talked because we have similar hobbies he always tried to break boundaries and it’s hard to describe but vibe from messages would change when he got a girlfriend but this time it was odd nothing changed. So I questioned him having a girlfriend because it just didn’t seem like he had one. He would be really sexual with me I found him on socials (we only had each other on Snapchat and WhatsApp) and nothing to say he was in a relationship. To be fair everything he told me was always the truth and this was just before lockdown.

Fast forward to lockdown, we got more close. We never said “I love you” but we had our own phase to each other equivalent to it and nicknames too each other. He was very open to me and kept being the one mentioning meeting up but then mid way through convo he like “oh we can’t because I have a girlfriend” “I can’t give you want you want… you want a relationship but I have a girlfriend” I always told me I don’t want a relationship with him, well I did at the start when me and him started getting close both single but I told him why would I if hes like this with his girlfriend?

So during lockdown he messaged me and basically told me he cheated on his girlfriend with another man who they work with. He previously told me he had a gay experience and both times he said he’s more worried over my reaction then his girlfriends. I don’t understand why but . Anyway he was telling me he was watching porn then the guy FaceTimed him while they both jerked off and he felt like “a see you next Tuesday” and asked me what he should do I told him tell the girlfriend.

Since he got with this “girlfriend” he kept telling me he’s confused. He even messaged me right after seeing her (they’re long distance) that all he could think about was me and my body and when he sleeps with her he thinks of me. He’s even FaceTimed me jerking off and mouthing he loves me blowing me kisses and saying he wishes I was his girlfriend.

I ended up finding the girlfriend they ended up having each other as there profile pics on Facebook and told her. It didn’t go down well with her and he didn’t seem to bothered over it. I seen all this coming.
I know I did the right thing but I do feel bad a betrayed someone who I really care about and basically trusted me by being so open to me and “grassing” their sexuality to someone and that I may possibly hurt someone I have strong feelings for.

But I just can’t help question was mine and his bond was all a lie? How can someone be so open and honest with you when all along the chemistry/bond wasn’t even true? Why have someone in your life for so long to string them along. To be honest I expected this too happen long ago anyway so it’s not like it come to a surprise. I’m more surprised I’ve not heard from him in 18 months I don’t want to but I can’t help question what the hell we had

He had his cake and ate it. He got from you what he needed and I don’t think there is much more to it in afraid.

 

[newaccount2022]

I've said specifically what i'm doing and he has sort of invited himself along! I don't want to be too blunt with my response, the people pleaser part of me wants to say maybe another time but truthfully i'm not a fan of this person.

can you tell him the plans have been changed and you have to spend time with family?

 

[candyland_]

Hi all just want to know if you think I'm overthinking and to forget it or whether my idea is a good one or too much!

Short version: I accidently woke up my friends toddler and he then took forever to go back to sleep meaning his dad missed dinner so I was going to get a voucher for just eat or something so he can have a hot dinner

Long version: I was going round my sisters best friend's house last night to plan her hen do. Another friend was joining us.

I went to my mums beforehand as she lives 10 mins away from sisters BF and it made sense for me to kill 2 birds as it were and not have to go home between working in the office etc. She was winding me up, as she often does, by being a bit of a mug in regards to my sister and she had had a drink which is never good with her.

Anyway I ended up leaving hers to avoid an argument. I had in my head we were meeting at 7 so left at 6:45 got there about 6:55 sat in the car replying to some texts and then rang the doorbell at bang on 7.

This is when I then realise I might have made a mistake. The dog starts barking and then I hear the toddler yell.

BFs husband invites me in. I sit down and he goes up to help with said toddler and swap with BF. On the cross over on the stairs I hear BF say he had just gone off but is awake now

BF comes down and we have a hug and a chat. BF then says other friend is on their way and I realise my error.

We were meant to be meeting at 7:15 not 7. I profusely apologise and BF said it's OK I'm used to your sister (who I have ranted about previously as she is always 30 mins early at least) I said noooooo I just got my times wrong.

When other friend arrives at the right time, they have kids and obvs know not to ring the doorbell!!!! So as they was expecting her at 7:15 the door was ajar ready for her to just walk in

So basically toddler doesn't end up going to sleep until nearly 9pm! And dad missed dinner with us and basically had to eat his pizza cold

My husband was like well BF should have said don't ring the doorbell. I said I shouldn't have been 15 mins early.

Anyway, well done if you have made it this far!!! I was thinking of sending them like £10/£15 just eat voucher or similar with a note apologising and saying treat yourself to some hot pizza?

Am I overthinking and should just leave it? And the voucher is a bit much? Or is that a nice gesture when I woke their kid up? Or will they think "oh dear child free idiot thinks this one bad night was her fault, how silly of her"

You have done nothing wrong. I’m a parent myself.. anyone being this precious over their kids bedtime needs to get a grip. I know it can be hard to get them to sleep but then don’t invite people over at bedtime

 

[barmcake]

Anyone know how you can stop the side ads from popping in on every page of Tattle? I have to close them constantly and keep misclicking and ending up on the advertisers site.

The ads are blocking the actual text and I can't read anything for more than a few seconds without having to constantly to click close. If anyone finds a way to stop this would be so pleased.

 

[Orphan_Black]

Does anyone know if electric blankets are safe?! i see them sold a lot so I’m assuming they are and maybe I’m being over cautious but I just want opinions before buying. I live alone in a flat with plug in heaters (woooo renting 🫣🫡) and it can get cold when I’m in bed/waking up because there’s no way I’m plugging in those heaters overnight. might be a stupid question idk

Come join us-

The Duvet Thread

A thread to discuss duvets, how to change them, what kind is the best, and all other bedding. This topic is so interesting it took over the celeb gossip! 🤣

tattle.life

(You'll get all sorts of bedding advice! Seriously lol.)

 

[Tillypig08]

So I’ve looked for a work relayed thread and can’t find one and I can’t create one. But I need some advice on the following issue!

I’ve worked for a marketing for several years and the current account manager has been there for just under a year.

She was reported for bullying by another colleague because she refused to give her any work and any work she did do she criticised and refused to use it and both her and our comms manager started to isolate her and make no effort to speak to her.

I sit next to the current account manager and saw a message she had sent to our studio manager saying ‘we are both s**t and know f**k all about what we do and that we are scared to answer the phones which isn’t true since she asks me to show her how to transfer calls several times. She also spends her times applying for jobs and shopping whilst moaning about everyone else. The environment has become highly toxic and b***chy the point I’m ready to leave.

I don’t know whether to bite the bullet and report her for what she’s been saying and what she does only a daily basis which isn’t work but then at the same time I don’t want to look like a tell tale to the other colleagues but it would be her second complaint within a few months.

 

[monga]

I often want to ask for advice on something but don't want to start a new thread, I thought maybe we could have one thread where we can try to help each other.


I have two questions

I am hanging a TV today has anyone done this on their own, is it easier to dismantle the swivel bracket and then put the bracket back together rather than trying to hang and screw in the whole thing?


Also, has anyone got the LED strip lights on their TV and does it make viewing better or worse?

Great idea for a thread @Purrrrrrr ...I'd make sure it's a solid wall before you hang it ,my son has leds on his TV wouldn't say it adds to the viewing but they do look good .

On the topic of TV's does anyone have any bother with their TV switching off if they put Netflix / Prime on ? I've had this problem with two different makes of TV so don't know if it's Sky Q to blame .

 

[JoeBloggs]

So I use a lot of spices an herbs for cooking with but recently my spices have gone solid inside the little tubs they are kept in, am I not storing them correctly? I just keep them in a cupboard, It's a bit annoying to have to put a knife in an twist it to break up the little granules so I can use it again

I read this is down to using them too near the heat when cooking. Do you put them directly in the hot pan?

 

[BettyCrockerr]

What would you all do in my situation? So my neighbours garden is an absolute shit hole, but that's not encroaching on my boundary so none of my business other than it being a complete eyesore when I look out my window. But the last couple of weeks they've started creating a massive pile of rubbish outside their back gate, it's a combination of black bags they couldn't fit in their bin and garden stuff they're getting rid of (kids toys etc). I've watched them just go to their back gate and chuck it out there. The problem is our back gardens back onto an alley way (not maintained by the council, but also not owned by us as part of our deeds) which we use as we have big double gates at the back of ours to allow us to park in our garden. The pile keeps encroaching in front of my gates, numerous times I've moved it back so it's outside theirs but I'll come home every day and have to get out my car and move a load of shit which they've chucked across the alley before I am able to open my gates and park my car. This morning I went out to collect my blue bin which had been emptied to find that when I opened my gate their blue bin hadn't been emptied as it was overflowing and they've just chucked a load of their recycling on to the pile which has obviously blown all over the alley.

I keep thinking I need to knock on their door and politely ask them to tidy it up or at least stop it from blocking my gatres and then if nothing happens make a complaint to the council - but my bf says that will just cause a dispute and we don't want to have any fallings out. To be honest though, they are a nuisance all round. I've caught their kids spraying my dog with a hose through the fence, they constantly shout and scream and swear and argue with each other. I'm just concerned if anything does lead to a dispute obviously when you sell your property it's a question asked on the forms as to whether there's been any disputes so I don't want to cause any issue. I also obviously generally don't want to be disliked by my neighbours. I'm stuck on what to do. They rent their property so they won't be bothered about the dispute side of things.

Do you know if they rent via the council or private? Maybe try to contact whoever they rent from to ask them to keep it more tidy? It’s so hard when stuff like this happens because like you say you don’t want it to become even more of an issue but I totally get how annoying it is

 

[Snippysnips]

Sorry not really a ‘problem’ but ladies I need your help! Where do you recommend for bras? I’ve been looking all night and the ones I love are just so expensive for the one bra, I’ve had a good clear out so I’m in need of a few! I usually get them from M&S just because they’re good quality but non are taking my fancy I have bought a few from Ann summers before but I think the quality is pretty naff! I saw some gorgeous ones on savage x fenty thought I was in for a bargain so added loads to my basket and didn’t realise they were only less than half the price because it’s a £49 monthly subscription I’m 25 so I do like more of the pretty lacy bras but still do need that support! Thank you

My mum usually likes Next for her bras but honestly I actually think matalan is OK, I get a few from there an they do from t-shirt bras to the nice lacy ones, somtimes can get 3 in a pack as well for a good price

 

[no-no]

I need to take the car to the BP garage to clean it and can’t see how you pay for the manual car wash.

Do you use coins? Pay inside? And can you use it 24hrs? There’s no info on their website that I can see, only the automatic one. I want to do it before work about 7am.

If anyone else is as clueless as me when it comes to car washes, I went to an esso garage in the end and lathered up the car £1 for 2 mins 30 seconds and I kept putting pound coins in like it was an arcade game. Highly recommend, 10/10. Car is sparkling now.