The advice thread for random problems #3

[Probablylurking66]

Can anyone offer any advice on bed bugs? I found one last night in my bed, crawling on my quilt...absolutely horrific. I'm already not having a great mental health week and this has pushed me over the edge, I'm extremely stressed and have cries several times today. Might sound silly but I just really, really don't want to deal with this right now, I don't have the mental capacity. I had a good look around my bed and mattress and haven't so far seen any others (or any traces), so I'm hoping it might be a one-off, but I know it's more likely than not that there's more hiding somewhere.

We've got a pest control company coming to inspect the flat tomorrow and then give us a quote. My landlord wasn't all that helpful but has agreed to contribute to the cost of treatment. Hopefully we can get a treatment booked in ASAP, I just want them gone and to sleep soundly knowing there's no fucking bugs crawling over me and eating me alive!

 

[shadowcat5]

This is so embarrassing and I cannot believe I’m going to post this lmao. I swear to god I am a functioning adult

Landlord has put in a new oven and taken all the packaging etc. including the instructions so now I don’t know how to use my oven it’s a grill and oven with the hob on top - I can figure out the hobs lol! (in my defence here: the old oven had a different style dial and the oven at my parents I just knew to flick it 1 way forward as it’s been the same since I was a kid but the 1 first picture on this one doesn’t look the same as the first picture on this oven)

can someone please tell me what these mean and which one is the bog standard oven function

 

[WeHadFunRight]

You may get a better response from another thread that’s on here. Something like, “things you can do to make yourself glamorous”

Thank you! Much appreciated!

 

[Tanne1999]

Absolutely demand a refund. Yes, tie-dye are all different. But one is black with red and the one you got is just red with a hint of black.
I would definitwly send it back
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Imo that is significantly not as described

Yeah I wasn’t expecting it to be the exact same as displayed in the photos. Always expect a bit of a difference with patterned clothing, but it’s nothing like what was ordered. It’s hideous and I wouldn’t wear it. I’ve tried it on and it looks awful compared to my friends black one

 

[Snippysnips]

Me again, random question, my dad has been watching all these YT videos about people getting Amazon return mystery boxes an wants to try it but I cannot see where they are getting them from, am assuming most of these YT vlogs are fake but does this actually exist? I can see a few mystery boxes but it's either toys or make up, I can't see anything about getting a "returns" mystery boxes themselves

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Honestly take some accountability for your self

I do hold myself accountable I shouldn’t of messaged him back but I genuinely didn’t think he was still in a relationship with the way he was talking but then he slipped up and I felt uncomfortable hence why I made her aware I should of known after the first time round with the same patterns hence why he isn’t gonna come back into my life again

 

[shadowcat5]

Hoping someone can explain this to me like I am 5 lol!

June was a 5 week month but my pay is the same as May which was 4 week month. I am salaried but I don't understand how I can work a whole extra week for the same money?

 

[Meg78]

How do you report an app for being a scam?

A few weeks ago I was introduced to a quiz app where you answer questions each day and the person who gets the most right in the fastest time wins money. The person who recommended it had won 3 times and received the cash so I figured I’d give it a go….. first try I won, which was suspiciously lucky, but sure enough I received the funds to my PayPal same day so carried on. You have to watch a lot of adverts throughout, which I think is how they generate an income. Players all have a ranking and score to show how many questions they’ve correctly answered, and you can also see how much they’ve won in total. When I joined the prize was £10, a few weeks later it changed to £50, but since the change each morning now I’m waking up to find that the winner is always a mysterious brand new profile who is ranked #5 in the world but only 30 points… basically a fake profile. The creator has a profile in his own name that has won a few times too. It’s quite obviously rigged to avoid paying out, and looking at the details on the app it’s written in a really crude way; for example the rules state that players “don’t be dumb” a bunch of times. It’s really annoyed me that someone is scamming like this, but I’ve got no clue if it’s something I can report or to where

 

[Snippysnips]

Yes quite a lot of walking, doubling back on yourself etc. We stopped and had lunch mid way . You get a league table at the end and some people did it in an hour, must have been well practiced. Took us a few hrs and we latched on to another team to help lol. Great how they do it though, top tip make the most tech savvy person 'leader' in the app.

Thanks, I don't mind the walking but some in the group may need a bit of a warning just incase

 

[stargirl23]

How do you go about reporting a nursary?

So the nursary my neice goes too have been told repeatedly not to allow her to sleep past 3pm my brother has been up countless times telling them this an the health care visitor that sees her also works with this nursary an has told them not to allow it, yesterday they allowed her to sleep for almost 3 hours at 1pm, an now we have found out they are managing these long sleeps (she only sleeps for about a hour with us an at home) because they are giving her a dummy, we took her off her dummy in January an apart from two night meltdowns she come off quite easily an has never asked for it, all of a sudden at the weekend she was back to asking for one an getting upset an we now found out yesterday the nursery is letting her get one

Personally am tired of us telling them not to allow things an them not listening, none of us want her going back on a dummy after we managed to get her off an she's an absolute nightmare to get to bed if she's slept past 3pm

There must be a way to official put in a complaint that they are going to listen too because clearly talking with them isn't working

Report via local council

 

[yankydoo]

hi,

its me again, do any of you know how n244 form works for suspending eviction. i went to a advice centre and the filled in the form and old me to hand it in court and there will be a hearing. does anyone what the hearing involves and what are my chanes of form being accepted. landlord has said options are to either pay all arrears or go to court,

Hi. Please make sure you hand it in to court before the eviction date. On the form you should state you want the eviction stayed until the outcome of your application.

Once you hand in the form and the case is listed for a hearing, it will be up to the court to decide if the eviction goes ahead or not. At the hearing you will be given a chance to speak, as will your landlord. You should explain why you have got into the arrears. As there is an eviction date, this means the landlord had already started the court process for the arrears and there would have been a hearing before. You need to explain why you could not keep to any court order made before. You need to provide the court with a payment plan to pay off the arrears. If there have been any medical reasons or loss of jobs etc, do take the evidence with you to the hearing (and attach to the N244 if you have not handed it in already).

 

[cloudbursting88]

I was just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation or if I’m overreacting and seeing this the wrong way.
I’ve been in my job for 5 and a half years, working 9-5 in the office, my colleague could work from home 2/3 days a week had a laptop, mobile phone and printer. Covid hit and I was given the opportunity to work from home with a laptop but I used my own printer, my own phone bought my own stamps etc for postage.
Since then I work in the office 9-3 before I pick my son up from school (lunch break) and then work from home until 5pm or later. I often take post outs home as there is just no time to do them in the office.
I will be leaving in October and going on maternity leave and they have employed my maternity cover, they have ordered her a mobile phone a laptop and a printer and allowed her to order any stationary she needs and she can also work from home 2 days a week.
I queried why she gets given a mobile phone and was told if you come back you can have hers.
Am I just being silly I just don’t think it’s fair!?

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Has anyone used a styling service like Stitch Fix?

I’m in a real predicament as I am returning to work from maternity leave at least a size bigger than I left and I feel like I just don’t know what to wear. I just had a look on a few sites and I came away feeling overwhelmed. I feel like if I try and dress myself I’m going to look frumpier than I need to and I just feel a bit lost at this point.

thinking if I sign up to one of these subscription sites they’ll at least be sending me some current styles I can give ago, but I am not sure who to go with, I think there’s another called lookerio or something?

 

[Meg78]

Four years ago, I slept with one of my bosses after a drunken night out. He told me he was divorced and had full custody of his son, doesn’t have anything to do with his ex wife, and is single. He’d only been there a few weeks so didn’t really know much about him or spoke to him much.

The morning after, we slept together again and then I went for a shower. As I came out he was on the phone and said ‘gotta go, love ya’ - so I said ‘aw was that your boy?’ and he went ‘no my girlfrie… fuck.’

Turns out they’d been together for five years at that point, engaged for four, her and her three kids live there, and her grandkids call him granddad.


I had to keep talking to him for work purposes, but he got made redundant as the pandemic eased up. In the meantime I’d met my boyfriend. He sent me a dirty message so I told him to fuck off and if he ever contacted me again then I’d tell his partner, then blocked him.


For some reason she’s come up on my suggested friends on Facebook recently and I had a snoop. They’re planning their wedding and she’s posting about how he’s the best partner ever and how he’s so different from her cheating abusive ex husband.

I now feel like such a bitch for not telling her as soon as I found out. I was 19 and stupid, and couldn’t be bothered with the backlash. He was 51 and my dad also worked with us, so it would have caused an almighty rift between us all.
Now I’m sat here thinking is it too late to say something? Should I message her? Do I just ignore it and let them crack on? I feel so conflicted.

I’m going against the grain and would say to tell her, so long as you have evidence to back it up. However, this would absolutely cause turmoil for you, he sounds like he has no problem with lying and would likely do and say whatever he could to save his own skin. If I was her, I would appreciate being told before it’s too late as you’re likely not the first or the last, and she deserves better, but I know how much of a toll it would take on you to do that, so it’s not a decision to be made lightly.

Could you anonymously send it to her? Remove him from your contacts so that his number shows on the screenshot of his dirty message. Don’t tell her you knew four years ago, just say she recently came up as a suggested friend, you realised who she is, and feel she deserves to know her fiancé is using work trips to play away, here’s the proof.

 

[TheGlossy]

You can look into carpenter ants but they usually build their nests in decaying wood. Especially if it's timber and the wood is dampish. I think overtime they can get worse and dig through the wood causing damage so your landlord would have to replace it eventually anyway.

Thank you.

I looked into carpenter ants but I don’t think it’s them. The ones in my kitchen are brownish and light like ghost or sugar ants.

I think some parts of the wood in the kitchen are old and in poor condition (since the day I moved in).

Is there a product I can use to keep them at bay?

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Yeah, pharmacy said it’s too far gone for any over the counter treatment. Advised to try docs again, which I did and they have sent a referral off to podiatrist- but no appointment for 16wks minimum

Just spoke to 111 who said to wait it out as well.
Not sure how I’m going to manage another 4 month’s minimum of this. I literally cannot walk properly!
Can’t afford to go private atm either

You can self refer and if they take private patients it’s about £50 for an urgent appointment then they’ll bump you up the NHS list! It’s maybe not the most ethical, but it’s what I did when my SD’s toenails fell off and the GP couldn’t help

 

[Mamacita]

Nope England

How Britain's biggest shops are pocketing YOUR delivery fee refunds

Online stores including Asos, Boohoo and Topshop routinely pocket the postage and packaging costs - often called delivery fees or charges - when customers return goods.

www.thisismoney.co.uk

Ah okay so they have to refund the original delivery charge but they can still charge for the actual return sending?

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone ever heard of this site and booked from them? Am interested in this but I don't know if it's legit or not, apparently I just show up in my home town between certain hours for it

 

[CallMeHollywood]

I've had a little search and can't find anything, but is there a "where can I buy" fashion / shopping type thread on Tattle anywhere?

It’s called something like “how to look more glamorous”

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

This is going to sound like a 1st world problems but I’m getting quite stressed out about it, I can’t seem to engage in a conversation with a male human lately without them assuming my vagina is open for business and I don’t know why

Im not classically attractive, got my dads features and I’m overweight, been wearing baggy jeans and jumpers, no make up, really really not in any way siren or sexy, but I’ve had 5 workers in the past week alone try to get my number as I’m going about my normal day, men who work in petrol stations, shops, restaurants I’m at with my husband and even soft play have all given it a go! I’m friendly and answer questions but definitely not flirty, is the bar set so low now I can’t even make eye contact? This is a very recent problem, has something changed in the past few months and fat girls are now hot?

Own it girl

And don't put yourself down.