The advice thread for random problems #3

[Snippysnips]

Report via local council

Sorry should have mentioned it's private so I don't think the council will take anything to do with it

 

[Tanne1999]

Anyone know if a&e will remove a toenail? I’ve had a really bad ingrown nail for over three months now and all the docs keep doing is giving me antibiotics. The nail is past the point of me getting it out myself, else I would have done so already.

Struggling to even put on a pair of shoes now, and I keep getting a tingly feeling in my foot/leg.

I’m really worried about it turning septic as my cousin died of sepsis four months ago not sure if that’s making it worse subconsciously.

 

[themuffinwoman]

It was her wedding which was child-free but for various reasons I didn’t feel comfortable leaving my 3 month old for 12+ hours. Asked if I could bring her, she said having her there (this is my sister talking about her niece) would ruin their perfect day, she doesn’t want her anywhere near the ceremony, doesn’t want her on their table, and would rather I didn’t come than bring her. If she had given me a generic answer about it being child free etc then I legitimately would not be upset (or given me the actual reason which was she doesn’t want kids but her psychotic MIL was OBSESSED with asking about my little one and clearly pressuring her). I did not say a word back about how hurtful it was to say all those things, and she used my daughter’s name specifically when saying “baby muffin will ruin my perfect day”. Thing is if one of her friends had asked her she wouldn’t have told them their child would ruin her wedding (her friends don’t have kids so she doesn’t understand what’s off limits anyway). She just made it very personal and has previously made what I would call dodgy comments which I’ve let go in the past but that was the final straw (e.g. I’ll never babysit her, referring to her as “cupboard” for most of my pregnancy despite asking her to not).

My OH’s family don’t live here and don’t celebrate Christmas, but I like the idea of splitting the day and then continuing on Boxing Day.

 

[Snippysnips]

Thanks I'll have a look at Tu, we don't have a Sainsbury's but I'll try get out to one, I have enough for maybe a week or two if I rotate things, but eventually I'll need a better wardrobe, it's my own fault really for not having invested in a decent wardrobe an just lived in jeans an t-shirts or I'd probably have had some nice tops an bottoms I could have gotten away with for the first while

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I know it's a long shot but does anyone frequently holiday in Japan? Or have been a few times? Am looking to go next year but not sure what the best time would be for me, ideally I'd like it to be when it's more quiet, I know a place like Japan is never going be quiet but surely there must be a point where it's not as hectic as it can get with say the cherry blossom season, I also can't handle heat, warm is fine an I'll even take cool or cold but I can't go when it's going be blazing sun

@prozacprincess might be able to help?

 

[Snippysnips]

Which programme are using to print from?

I think it's just windows office she's got, it's the first job in years that's been a desk job for me so I've been trying to slowly get used to windows again since it's updated a bit since I last used it

 

[Kizzie]

my family member uses caledonian a lot

Thank you Looked promising but they don't cover the south where I am.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

100% call them and get an emergency appointment.

Thank you, I thought maybe I was being dramatic

 

[stargirl23]

Having an ingrown nail removed next week. I’ve been told to wear open toe/loose shoes, but I have really sweaty feet and struggle with flipflops/sandals.
Any suggestions?

Have to be comfy and easy to walk in as will be going to Liverpool a few days after for our anniversary.

Thanks

Are you ok with sliders or wedges? They’re all I can think of open toe wise without it being sandals

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Nothing, you didn’t need to do anything! She doesn’t need to be made aware. She’s blocked you and you’ve gone out of your way to harass her. If you continue you will be the one in hot water not him.

There is no point you posting, the advice you’re getting isn’t getting through to you. We’ve got the update, now take everyone’s advice and move on before this gets even more out of hand.

But I don’t need to take anyone’s advice I’ve deleted his number he’s blocked on everything he can’t message me so I won’t be making her aware of his fuck boy behaviour again doesn’t seem to be getting through to you

 

[littlepup]

How much would you expect to pay for a 4 yard skip? I’ve had a quote but going to get more

Always depends what’s going into it. General waste, building materials, plasterboard etc?

 

[Tanne1999]

Didn’t think it would be an a&e job. Someone in work said it would be but I couldn’t find anything online indicating that it would be something they did.

Didn’t want to chance it and turn up just to find out it’s a waste of mine and their time. NHS is massively overstretched as it is so didn’t want to contribute to that if it was unnecessary.

Will try again with the GP and if no result by the end of the week I’ll have to look at going private.

Thank you all for your advice xxx

 

[InkHeart]

Should you always go with your gut instincts, or rules you've made for yourself based on past experience?

For context I'm trying to decide who to work with for a project, and in the past two days I've interviewed two guys.

#1 seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but contravened a lot of criteria that I had set up based on years of experience. I won't go into it here, but I've set several targets like "Doesn't say X. Does express an interest in Y." etc. Because I've found that they turn out to be red flags down the line. I feel tempted to think Oh he's great, I'll go with him anyway. But that has definitely come back to bite me in the arse more than once before!

#2 was very chatty and charismatic and sociable, but I was following the advice of articles I'd read about how to avoid hiring narcissists, and I mentioned a legitimate critique I had. I kept my vocal tone nice and said it wasn't his fault as we could smooth it out down the line. But maaaaaan, his face changed. He looked so different after I said it: his eyes kind of squinted and his mouth was held open, stiff. There was like all grief and hurt on his face. It was literally a piece of feedback where most people would go "Oh, ok." and accept that it would be fixed later. In most other instances, he had this wonderful warm easy personality and passed most of my questions. The only marker he didn't hit was praising any women he's worked with (big indicator for whether he will work with a woman or just decide he knows best and steamroll over her). But then it's possible that he hasn't worked with many women, or none noteable enough to come up in conversation.

I also thought to some extent he might be telling me what I wanted to hear. I felt like he was noting what I said and then feeding it back a few sentences later. Like if I said I'd like X for the project, he'd say "I love X, I do it all the time as a hobby." Might be true, but it happened enough times that it pinged in my brain.

But really it's that face, over what was a very lightly-handled bit of critique. Not even criticism, just a "This in your proposal wasn't what I'm looking for, but that's ok because we can talk about it more and gain an understanding." I really liked his warmth and charisma at the time, but when I came off the call, I just had a voice in my head going "No no no."

Any ideas, Tattlers, on either #1 or #2?

 

[xbxbx]

For anyone that works or has worked in the NHS: how do you approach informal enquiries when looking for information about a job you’ve seen in a different department/area of work? I’ve seen one that I’d like to know more about but I’m not sure how to word the email without sounding pushy and asking too many questions or maybe not even asking the right kind of questions. I’d also like to know what the development opportunities are but don’t want it to sound like I’m thinking of moving upwards before even applying..

I usually just apply for jobs and hope for the best so this is all new to me!

 

[Snippysnips]

When you open the image what program is being used? For example MS Office Picture Manager?

Ah sorry, honestly I've no idea, I was scared to mess about with it too much because she's off this week an I needed it done for the weekend, I'd have been screwed if I messed it up, once she's back I'll ask her, am assuming it's whatever comes with MS office she has used