The advice thread for random problems #3

[Ingognito.Queen]

Because he's a potential (emphasis upon potential) predator who won't move will he?

But moving away is giving the message that what he is doing is ok and he will continue this behaviour

 

[Snippysnips]

Ok am on day two of this so am just gonna ask lol, on the computer its showing the full image of the picture, however no matter how much I try it will not print the full image, I've tried the option scale to paper size an tried both letter and A4 an still it will not work, I only need the page printed with that picture on it

My boss has been off two weeks an off this week with COVID an I need it done before the weekend as the training is on then

 

[Snippysnips]

How do you go about reporting a nursary?

So the nursary my neice goes too have been told repeatedly not to allow her to sleep past 3pm my brother has been up countless times telling them this an the health care visitor that sees her also works with this nursary an has told them not to allow it, yesterday they allowed her to sleep for almost 3 hours at 1pm, an now we have found out they are managing these long sleeps (she only sleeps for about a hour with us an at home) because they are giving her a dummy, we took her off her dummy in January an apart from two night meltdowns she come off quite easily an has never asked for it, all of a sudden at the weekend she was back to asking for one an getting upset an we now found out yesterday the nursery is letting her get one

Personally am tired of us telling them not to allow things an them not listening, none of us want her going back on a dummy after we managed to get her off an she's an absolute nightmare to get to bed if she's slept past 3pm

There must be a way to official put in a complaint that they are going to listen too because clearly talking with them isn't working

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I’ve just had a phone call from the police my ex has done a complaint of harassment to me but I’ve not messaged in 4 weeks so would he have gone to them recently? Because if he has it’s really really odd

 

[havee]

Citizens Advice Bureau

what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow
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Are you in England? Do you have a council tenancy or private? Go down to your local council and/ or CAB. You can get help and advice

what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow

 

[stardust1]

We bought a DFS sofa about a year pre-covid and it’s shockingly bad. Paid nearly £5k for it - 3 seater and l-shaped 4-seater in leather.
The 3-seater is terrible, really bad but Mr Lolz didn’t want to make a fuss because it took about 3+ months to arrive

actually this reminds me i know someone who’s sofa is all misshapen after less than a year so mixed review

 

[Sharkfan]

I got a text saying I need to pay a toll for driving in London. I can’t drive and haven’t been to London in ages so it’s obviously a san. However, I’m a bit concerned about where it’s come from as it does link me directly to the transport for London website implying it’s an actually from there so I’m a little worried I might get a penalty for something I didn’t do.

 

[TheGlossy]

Do you have a different surname? It could be that there’s a searchable database for home based but they can’t do it for overseas.
I had to provide ID if I remember correctly.

No, I don’t. Same surname.

This has really put a damper on my mood especially as I’ve now found out she incorrectly listed my address on the document. She indicated primary address as being the same as my mom’s and therefore completely different than my actual address which I had already provided her.

Somewhere between the draft document she shared yesterday and the final document signed today (I wasn’t there), she changed my address from my actual address to the incorrect one.

This makes no sense.

I thought she wanted the ID for the address but IDs don’t always have the current address. Proof of address does. If the address was the issue, she should have asked me for clarification not my ID.

 

[Snippysnips]

How do I get my neighbours dog to stop pooing on our lawn?

Starting to get really frustrated, they’ve got a six month old pup and let them freely roam our road unsupervised. We’re rural and with all this greenery around us the dog has decided that right outside my front door is the perfect toilet, and I’ve got a special needs child who doesn’t understand the “chocolate ice cream” can’t be picked up. They’re not the kind of neighbour you can have a reasonable discussion with, but I can feel my temper fraying as it’s become a daily occurrence and it’s putting my child at risk, so I need ideas for humane deterrents please!

Can you set up a camera? I'd film it then report, it's illegal to let your dog go on private grounds an also ilegal not to pick it up

 

[CoffeeMamma]

My cat was very low maintenance and I probably treated him better than you treat your children.
Geez, I hate that everytime somebody on here shares their experience another tattler has to come on here and say “that’s not true”

Anyway


If your friend doesn’t have money then any pet is a bad idea.

She does, she’s just very impulsive and sometimes makes poor choices!

 

[TheGlossy]

For the last week or so, invisible ants have been hanging around my kitchen. One of the cupboards had a group of them hanging out in there and even penetrated a closed jar.

I’m pretty clean and all my cupboards were clean. I also clean the counters after each use.

I removed all foods from the cupboards, threw everything away and left them empty. I ditched everything on the counters too. All surfaces have been disinfected. However, I have noticed two or three of them hanging around some dead wood in my kitchen (see picture below for one area).

I’m renting and the kitchen is 20+ years old. The dead wood has been there since I moved in. It seems the kitchen was never refurbished. It’s in several areas of the kitchen. I’m suspecting it has something to do with it and needs to be removed.

Does anyone know if this could indeed be the issue?


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Anyone?

 

[littlepup]

Maybe small in the grand scheme of things but here's my current woe. The neighbours above me are a couple in their 60s. They are so, so noisy. It isn't TV or music - but they slam cupboards, doors, stomp around, and sometimes it even sounds like they're dropping boulders on the floor. It happens at all times of the day and at least twice a week, I'm woken up by it at 1/2am - real loud slamming/stomping sounds.

I went up to politely ask them to try and keep noise to a minimum late at night but they insist it isn't them - that it is the 'pipes in the building because they're old'. Funnily enough, no pipe problems when they were away for the past two (blissful) weeks. Otherwise they're alright, a bit nosy but I don't really want to damage the relationship. Any solution other than simply move?

Maybe a white noise machine (or on your phone) set while you’re sleeping to drown them out but so you can still hear say, a fire alarm?
Have they got carpets?

 

[petitspois]

My dad has been with his partner four years. Since getting together I have had *zero* one-to-one time with him. I can't get him on his own. I really wanted to go for a meal with just him and my siblings for Fathers Day this week, but he invited her too. Same for everything. Even when just going for a walk, she's there. She's lovely and I do get on with her. But I should be allowed to have private time with my Dad too? Do I need a reason.
We had an awful time at Christmas, he couldn't be apart from her so he missed a lot of our family celebrations (long story, but it wasn't appropriate for her to be there.) He has sold his house and moved in with her. My grandad recently passed and they're in the process of selling that too.
I do worry he is being taken advantage of financially and otherwise, but I dare not mention anything, because I know he will repeat to her what I've said. And I can't physically be on my own with him anyway. Even on the phone, she's in the background listening in.
My siblings think she's controlling and they don't like her at all. Over Christmas, he said he'd rather stay with her 'because she doesn't want us to be apart'. But I don't know if she really said that, or if it's my dad.
Does anyone know how I can approach this difficult topic.

Are there any times when he is naturally alone (does she always pop out on a Sat morning for example, or does she work?). It might be a good idea to pop in unannounced on one of those times and just say you really wanted to see him and go for a walk or something. At the end you could say how much you've valued time alone with your Dad and ask to do it again. I get that he thinks she's vulnerable and has to stay with her but you're vulnerable too as your his daughter and still need a bit of protecting by Dad.

 

[stardust1]

I never heard back from them … so not great. I found the only thing that made any difference was writing a very detailed and formal complaint against a specific consultant … things moved fast after that.

thank you, really torn what to do.. don’t necessarily want to complain as such as my son received many surgeries from a surgeon which i would describe as outstanding care however long term his condition still needs managed and this is where the surgeon is really lacking. Theres a few surgeons far better suited that i would like a second opinion from but I feel really anxious about rocking the boatx

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone heard of Gear4Music . Com? Looking at getting a instrument an they are a lot cheaper than what other places are, not sure if they are cheaper because of a reason like bad quality or if it's just one of these sites that typically do cheaper than stores

 

[Snippysnips]

Anyone know what this style of coat is called? I really like it but not the collar, I'd prefer if it was just a normal coat collar, but I don't know the style to do a search

 

[Piff paff puff]

So confused. Letter says attend jury service tomorrow morning but I called the phone number they gave me for an updated message (was recorded Friday) says wait for a call from them on Monday morning too see if I need to attend Tuesday. Do they always make it this confusing for something so important? Do I stay home or go??

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Has anyone used a home teeth whitening kit and would recommend something? I looked in the mirror today and was quite ashamed at how yellow my teeth are at the moment

 

[ShadesMint]

I have no idea what to do next with my car. It is a 2014 plate, Insignia, my partner chose it but it's actually in my name. It's got loads of modifications which were there when we bought it. He's had a few scuffs in it, scratches all over the front corners and there's a dent in the back bumper. There's also an electrical fault where the car occasionally (more frequently now) goes into 'limp mode' which leads to the car going dangerously slow on the slightest incline, or gradually reducing speed when driving above 50mph, requiring the engine to be restarted for it to temporarily resolve the issue. We've thrown £500 for a company to check it out and replace a valve in the engine which hasn't fixed the issue. We'd need to pay additional £50 for further investigation and then further money for more work to be done (and even then there's no guarantee it will fix the issue. As they have no idea what is causing the issue!!) In addition to this, the cam belt is due to be replaced, and the clutch is sticking. Plus all the cosmetic work needs to be done and we have been quoted over £1000.
Basically the car is slowly failing (as cars do) but I don't think the work needed is worth it and we are looking to get rid of it.
It is on finance, I have approx £2k left to pay on it which is about 2 yrs left. I'm interested in hearing what others would do in my situation. Sell it? We were going to go with We buy any car but tbh we'd probably not get very much for it.

 

[AllTheBest2022]

Not sure if this is the best place to ask but something happened today that has really worried me.

My dad came home after going out to visit his sister. He had called by a cash machine to lift money, but he didn't get the cash and said that the machine ate his card. So he calls the bank to cancel it, and then discovers his bank card is in his pocket.... he was absolutely insistent that he didn't take the card from the machine. It's all very perplexing but there are no other bank cards it could have been, so he must have taken it back from the machine. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance... he's 71 years old. He's smart and sharp in every other way, but can sometimes be a bit absent-minded. I just feel very worried by it.

Did he say whether the machine swallowed his card before or after the cash was 'dispensing?