The advice thread for random problems #3

[stargirl23]

Right I am proper getting to the end of my tether and need some stranger advice- me and my partner have been together well over 2 years, and when we got together there was an ex (who may I add broke up with him) who kept trying to get involved with him again as she was jealous (we assumed). This said ex is about 3/4 years older than me, and a couple years older than my other half, and was making tiktoks about me "taking her man" as well as cutting her hair to the same style as me, and copying things I posted on instagram.
Fast forward 2 years, a random fake tinder profile of my boyfriend has been made (we knew it was local as one of my friends who lives close saw it, and the distance was close!) and a fake account of one of my business profiles had been made which seemed very coincidental. I have now found out she has made a new business doing what I do as a side hustle (I have all the correct experience and qualifications may I add whereas she doesnt) and I am a little bit pissed as I feel this is all very aimed.

Do I have the right to be pissed off / angry that someone who has been out of my boyfriends life for 3 years, and who is a lot older than me is still trying to get involved/ annoy us? Or am I overreacting?

Thank you

Definitely not, I’d be equally just as annoyed. That’s extremely strange behaviour, especially as she’s older you’d think she would be mature enough to move on after all these years

 

[Tanne1999]

Having an ingrown nail removed next week. I’ve been told to wear open toe/loose shoes, but I have really sweaty feet and struggle with flipflops/sandals.
Any suggestions?

Have to be comfy and easy to walk in as will be going to Liverpool a few days after for our anniversary.

Thanks

 

[givemethenight]

How do you know if you have been blocked by someone on WhatsApp? The person’s privacy was such that it has never said if they are online/last seen etc.

I read that if you’re blocked, you would not be able to add the person to a new group. I have tried this this morning and I am able to set up a new group with them, but my message to them from last night is still showing one grey tick.

Have they blocked me?
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I'm not sure where to post this but I'm trying to find a luxury hotel/stay as a birthday gift. Ideally one-two nights with a dinner and spa package/access. Anyone stayed at an amazing hotel?. Ideally around the Cotswolds area but anywhere from Manchester to down south would be ideal.

Thornton Hall on the Wirral is really nice

 

[TheGlossy]

Can you ask why she’s looking for it? Something along the lines of you’re happy to provide it once she clarifies why she requires it and also if all other parties have had to do it? I had to as part of probate and it was asked for over a year later as part of some legal audit the solicitor was about to undergo. I didn’t have strong feelings about it so it wasn’t an issue in my case, but do ask for clarity if you’re uncomfortable. You wouldn’t want the narrative to be that the matter couldn’t close because you wouldn’t agree to provide documentation.

Thank you.

I will ask. I just don’t understand why she just asked for mine and not the others. This is what is making me uncomfortable.

Surely, if it was audit-related, she would have asked for all of them, not just one person’s.

 

[TheGlossy]

One of the residents in my building owns a bulldog. I walked into the building and the dog was unleashed as it walked towards me on their way out. I’m honestly super stressed out because I’m not a fan of dogs in general, but an unleashed bulldog in an apartment building is a big no. I’m honestly worried for my safety as these dogs can be unpredictable.

 

[Snippysnips]

Anyone have tips on how to keep these inflated? They just deflate seconds later

Tape doesn't work 🫤

 

[WeHadFunRight]

So we have just discovered there is a leak in our bathroom. Looks like it’s been there for some time. Pretty sure it’s one of the connections to the taps or shower supply which backs on to the wall shared with the boiler cupboard. The wall is black (we never go in the cupboard), the floor is showing signs of warping (our hall way flooring), the bathroom door has started to be tricky to close - it’s warped, we put it down to change in temp or something.
Anyway, I have a few questions…
A) what’s the process? We phone a plumber to come and investigate tomorrow? What kind of reparatory work can they do? It’s so annoying because we were planning to do a big overhaul of the house but not for a few years…. Bathroom very likely to move from where it is…
B) is it likely we will need a new wall?
C) I don’t know what else I was going to say, is there anything else that should be on my mind?

 

[StrawberryBanana90]

Kind of reassurance rather than advice
I was invited to a job interview next week and I can’t do the date they’re giving and I didn’t list that date on the section “please state any dates you can’t do” because at the time of applying (I didn’t know I wouldn’t be free.
Anyways, I emailed back asking if they had any flexibility on the date as the day before would be better. I haven’t had a response and honestly I’m over thinking it and worrying they’ll think I’m being difficult

 

[Blondeangel2515]

She told you you had a lucky escape?.. What’s with the obsession over multiple threads if it’s not for validation. So many people told you to forget about but you seem to struggle with that.

I’ve forgot about the situation but the way the police woman reacted to it, the way she said stuff lives went free in my head “he said you sent the family sexual messages” “yes they were the screenshots of stuff he sent me” “and you send them to the family, to make the girlfriend aware” honestly it was like a lightbulb moment suddenly clicked with her

 

[Tanne1999]

You can self refer and if they take private patients it’s about £50 for an urgent appointment then they’ll bump you up the NHS list! It’s maybe not the most ethical, but it’s what I did when my SD’s toenails fell off and the GP couldn’t help

How do you do this please? Everywhere I’ve looked is about £500xx

 

[clueless]

Did he say whether the machine swallowed his card before or after the cash was 'dispensing?

Hi, he said it didn't give him the cash.

 

[MeghanSnarkle]

Hi Everyone
I'm not sure if this is the right thread for this but was just wondering if anyone has a little bit of general advice on handling a child's coat going missing/presumed stolen by the end of the school day.
I've woken up still feeling a bit churned over it (I'm now over thinking) is this something I say no more about it and chalk it down to experience as his teacher is obviously aware so am I now best to just kinda be fine about it say no more or will it come off a certain way if ask for more to maybe be done to track it down.

 

[Rxt156]

This is annoying and stupid but does anyone know of a way to block someone on Facebook from seeing your posts but without unfriending them? I have one of MiL’s friends on my Facebook and I very rarely post but whenever I do, she immediately calls Mil and tells her what I’ve posted. Mil then calls my husband and wants to know why we didn’t tell her we did xyz. It’s really fucking annoying. If I unfriend the wretched woman, all hell will break loose so I just want her to stop seeing my posts. I’ve tried searching but can’t find any useful answer.

I don’t think there is a way

I would just delete. She doesn’t need to be passing on your info all the time. If she asks why you can tell her


Eta there is a way glad people have told you. Hope it works

 

[yeoooo]

I have a strip of garden that I want to stone and put pots on. Random bits of grass come up on it, how do I prepare the bit of land to do this. Complete novice?!

 

[FlipFlop0706]

Uninsured driver hit my car yesterday and made off. It’s going to cost me more to claim on my insurance and put my price up next year, so I’m attempting to fix it myself.

Theres scuff marks on my bumper, can I use a magic sponge to buff it off or will it further ruin the paint? There’s a bit I need to touch in with a paint pen, is this hard to do?!

Any recommendations for products that help will be gratefully received! So angry every time I look at it!

 

[Snippysnips]

There used to be a L’Oréal cellulite one that really worked but they stopped making it because I don’t think they’re allowed to make certain claims. The general consciences seems to be that hydration and massage will help so the product itself is by the by. That’s said I remember using the Nivea Q10 one that seemed pretty good.
Body brushing is supposed to help too and I’ve seen people claim that a body scrub made with a bit of shower gel and fresh coffee grounds is good but I’ve no experience of this myself.

Thanks I'll maybe look at that, I know they say that just massaging the skin is good but it would be nice to have a cream or something to massage with, there used to be one years ago that heated up as you massaged it in but I can't remember the name or who done it

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I have been playing for a friendly netball team for a few weeks on a Wednesday. It has been lovely and my team are so nice but the other women are absolutely toxic and it is totally making it a vile place to be. Slagging everyone off then telling tales about who has said what. Why can’t we just play and be nice. They play quite rough as well which is not my thing I try my best to stick to the rules but they really are horrid. I don’t want to leave as I like my team and they won’t have enough people if I leave not too sure what to do to escape the horribleness. Honestly women are ao bitchy I have loved it apart from that! Tonight someone has told me another team have been slagging me off for various things

Have you tried Korfball? I have a few friends who play that instead of netball

 

[becca7721]

Thankyou for your replies. Too ill for hoarding uk. Sorry for repeating myself. I shouldn’t have mentioned it, it’s just I can’t mention my conditions!
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Just an update from my problem at the weekend
Phoned the police back after that harassment claim and apparently it was because I sent screenshots of my ex messaging me to his current girlfriends family. My ex and his girlfriend saying I sent her family sexual messages like yes I did they were screenshots of what your boyfriend was sending me and I sent them to your family to make you aware so I don’t get abuse and because you blocked me. Making out I sent random sexual images to her family

like what did they think I would say to the police over this? When they know I have screenshots that I sent to them apparently he didn’t even tell the police he was messaging me in March and a week after I snitched he done the claim.
Why waste police time on this petty thing and now he’s made himself a right tit even the woman on the phone sounded like she was face palming at it. She’s closed the case and said I had a lucky escape

Not for the first time, we really need an emoji!

I’m glad it’s sorted for you!

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not really a problem but after some advice if anybody is a coffee aficionado. Btw don't judge! I've realised I spend around £700 a year!! on takeaway coffee. So am looking to buy barista style coffee machine.
Does anybody know of a shop that sells and demonstrates these machines? I'm willing to travel as I realise in the end I'll be quids in
Also is there a coffee specialist, again actual shop, where they can help you find the coffee you like.

 

[Rlaw1978]

Can anyone tell me how mortgages work?
We are looking to buy our first home but the house we are looking at needs some work doing and carpeting. Is it possible to borrow additional money on the mortgage to cover this or do we need to go down a different route? How are the funds released? Would it be to my bank or to a solicitor ?