The advice thread for random problems #3

[Rxt156]

Have you tried Korfball? I have a few friends who play that instead of netball

Not heard of it but I will google. It’s more the bitchy women than the sport though

 

[littlepup]

Thank you, will google them now

We have a Sage touch machine and it produces an amazing cup but it’s really trial and error with grind time, milk heat etc, you can tweak so much to get it to your liking.
Regarding the beans, coffee shops usually sell their blends so you could just buy your fave or start asking what blend/origin their beans are and make a note, see if there’s a pattern.

Sainsburys do the Kenyan and Columbian beans the sell while in a pre ground form too so you could get some for a cafetière to try now.
Some bean companies do taster sets of their blends too so if you do get a machine that takes beans, they could be worth while to start off with too.

Eta: was typing as other comments came in so sorry if I’m repeating things.

 

[littlepup]

I've had a little search and can't find anything, but is there a "where can I buy" fashion / shopping type thread on Tattle anywhere?

This sort of fits what you’re after https://tattle.life/threads/help-me-find-a-_______-outfit.22033/

 

[Bobbleowl90]

OH paid a plumber to do some work. He did half a job and said he would be back the following day. Never arrived and said he got his days mixed up and he would be here Sunday. Again, never turned up. OH rang him yesterday and he said he can’t get here but he would call today. Not turned up again and ignoring my husbands text. We’ve paid up front for this - any way we can get our money back at all?

 

[Rxt156]

How do I get my neighbours dog to stop pooing on our lawn?

Starting to get really frustrated, they’ve got a six month old pup and let them freely roam our road unsupervised. We’re rural and with all this greenery around us the dog has decided that right outside my front door is the perfect toilet, and I’ve got a special needs child who doesn’t understand the “chocolate ice cream” can’t be picked up. They’re not the kind of neighbour you can have a reasonable discussion with, but I can feel my temper fraying as it’s become a daily occurrence and it’s putting my child at risk, so I need ideas for humane deterrents please!

god that’s gross isn’t it. apart from getting your garden fenced off I’m not sure what else you can do

 

[stardust1]

Random question, is any here from or go into Blackpool regularly?

We will be going soon and I found a hotel I was thinking of booking a while back, but now I can't find it an can't remember it's name

From what I remember it was quite new so was quite modern inside, it was a black hotel with a small car park an was on the sea front, I can't remember if it was on a corner to a road or not but it looked like it was maybe between central pier an the theme park

It's only one night as we will be moving on in the morning but needed one with a car park an this one seemed reasonable priced as well

residency hotel?

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I agree, what are getting out of sending screenshots to his girlfriends family? She’s blocked you, she doesn’t want to know. You’ve dragged her family into it and that’s not fair. It doesn’t matter that he was messaging you, stop engaging with this man, block and move on before you end up with this against your name.

because she needed to know what he was doing behind her back and I knew her family would let her know maybe she should sort her boyfriend out and make sure he’s not messaging any other girls. What did I get out of it hopefully some bloody peace I rather have a name known I let them know when they’re being mugged off then someone that lets guys think they can get away with it from turning a blind eye and ignoring it but yeah over now thank fuck

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

What do you think is a normal amount to spend on bills per month? We currently have a joint income of just under 80k, which works out at about £4300 per month after all taxes etc. at the moment we put £600 each in to the joint account and it covers all bills with a little money to spare. We want to move somewhere bigger and more suburban, but the mortgages are looking to be around £1600 on their own, so I imagine we’d be paying just over £1k each including bills, which is obviously a lot more but then we’d have a garden and more space, and be somewhere a bit quieter (currently live in the city centre) I was originally looking at it thinking I used to rent a flat and paid around £1000 per month for just rent and parking, so it’s not that bad but I am not sure if I’m being silly

sorry for this massive ramble

Imo that mortgage is good, obv depending where you live and size etc.

However I’d hang tight as mortgages should stabilise and then start dropping in the next couple of years

 

[JoeBloggs]

Has anyone ever dealt with LookFantastic customer service?

I bought an Estée Lauder moisturizer from their website (worth €55) and the box arrived open. I reached out to them to ask for a refund or a replacement because it is a well-known fact that skincare products should not be used if the packaging is not sealed or is open.

They responded saying they will give me a £10 voucher instead. I can’t use the product because it is unsanitary for it to arrive with an open box. What is £10 going to do? Now they’re asking me a bunch of stupid questions such as ‘batch expiry date’ and ‘what is the exact issue’.

Honestly, if they can’t comprehend an open box is automatic return, then I don’t know what to say. You can’t even speak to them over the phone.

Have you tried this number - +44 161 813 1481

Online says it is their customer service team.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I don't really see an issue ghosting if you haven't spoken in a long time. I suppose it's not different to changing your number and not giving her the new one

I used to think of her as family so it feels like quite a big decision for me, and I also recently saw some thing about ghosting being an immature reaction, so I wasn’t really sure. I guess everyone does it.

 

[Spidey2020]

Ah that’s great thanks loads of great ideas and I’ve just used TikTok for the first time!

 

[stardust1]

Does anyone know the rules around CCTV/Ring doorbells? Mine shows mine and my neighbours front gardens/pathways. Is this legal? They haven't said anything about it and to be quite honest they're the reason I got one in the first place

your not meant to but wether anyone will do anything is a different matter. Mine catches next door and i had to submit footage before and no one said anything. I also used to live in a flat and someone had their door bell pointed at my door only despite it being intercom and then a second intercom to get to our two flats.. it used to film straight into my flat. I rang 101 and they couldn’t do anything

 

[OwlAtTheMoon]

Just removed a bloody tick. Anyone had one before and were you ok?

Yes, a tick on my lower leg about 4 years ago. I was horrified. Got the whole thing off with tweezers, wiped the area with antibacterial wipes and kept an eye on the leg for weeks for red marks or swelling. Nothing happened. I was absolutely fine. Plenty of tick bites don't lead to Lyme disease. Fingers crossed you'll be fine.

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

I will say though that I love the range of Nespresso pods. Something for all tastes - and even the decaff ones are good. I spend far too much money on coffee but it's still way cheaper than takeaway ones.

I love the selection of Nespresso pods!
Do you have any favourites? I love trying new ones.

 

[Snippysnips]

Even if private it should still be registered with the local council. Or you could try reporting to ofstead? Other than that I’m not sure who to report to sorry x

Thanks I'll try an see if the council will take any involvement with it an if not try ofstead

Are they purposefully putting your niece down to sleep or is she falling asleep on her own? When my daughter dropped her nap, the nursery said they wouldn’t put her down to sleep but if she fell asleep independently they wouldn’t wake her up. If it’s the former then I’d write an email to the nursery manager so it is in black and white, along with the info about the dummy, then if nothing changes have a face to face meeting perhaps?

We don't know if they are putting her down or she's going down herself, she's only two an all we get is "I had a long sleep" an they tell us the times she slept but we have told them to just wake her before 3 or distract her so she doesn't sleep, this is what we do, we can't have her sleeping past 3 because she's not going to bed till almost 10 at night sometimes an then she's still getting up at 6 an ends up being totally exhausted an it's just a day of meltdowns, the heath visitor also suggested she stop sleeping past 3 for this reason as well, my brother's had a few meetings with them about this an the health visitor also had a meeting about this, but we just found out when my niece mentioned she got a dummy yesterday that they have been giving her one

I also don't like the fact they are sitting her on a chair an telling her to "calm down" if she's upset, this isn't what we do, we talk to her an get her to tell us why she's upset so we can fix it

 

[Tide'sout]

I used Zero In Bed Bug Powder available on Amazon. It has mixed reviews but being desperate I felt I had nothing to lose. I can happily say that for me it was 100% effective. If it hadn't worked I would have been ringing pest control too. It's a miserable thing to have to deal with and I hope you get it resolved soon x

 

[yankydoo]

what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow
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what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow

Please try not to worry. Make sure you go there and don’t bury your head in the sand. It’s really unlikely they will evict you if you make an offer to pay the arrears. Even if they say no to your payment plan, it’s up to the court so make sure you go to any court hearing and explain how much you can afford to the Judge. It helps to write down your income and outgoings to show what you can afford

 

[JoeBloggs]

Had this electricity problem in my home off and on for the last 5 years.
Sometimes the supply is fine for a year or few months and then the problem just starts up again without me doing anything different.
It overloads and the switch in the main box will trip. Previously when a bulb popped, it's own individual switch in the box would trip so I knew what the problem was. With this problem I have now though it's always the main switch.
I can't use my fridge as the electricity will trip after a few hours even when I have it on the lowest cool settings. I don't have a cooker but I suppose if I did the same thing would happen. It seems to overload the electric supply. It takes hours afterwards for my supply to be good enough to power any appliance again in my home and I'm worried for winter when my electric heaters will be on.
Even though I've not had my fridge on, days later the electric still trips, sometimes a couple of times a day, though on these occasions I can switch it back on and my small appliances stay powered (as long as no big appliances are switched on).
Its making me very paranoid thinking the electricity company are limiting my supply due to net zero. Bills have tripled, they're also helping themselves to hundreds of pounds from me under the pretence is for my benefit for when more electric is used in winter. I did not give them consent to do this.
I've recently had an electrician in who says he couldn't see anything wrong with the wiring in the house and I've unplugged everything and gradually plugged them in again but yet the same irregular but regular pattern of the supply carries on
Helllllllppppppppppp!!!!!!!

I suspect you have a faulty appliance or an issue along the wiring somewhere. Fault is a very long and slow process.

It is not in the electricity company’s interest to stop your connection, and if they wanted to cut you off they would just cut it.

 

[becca7721]

Me again. So ratty has been back. Left a couple of nice ‘presents’ (poo) on the garden pavement which my neighbours have walked through the house. My (lovely) neighbour a few doors down has been forced to remove their bird feeder and tidy their garden because of ratty. My landlord, who it looked like had done the garden actually has just strummed the grass. The drains are blocked and the bins have not been moved so there’s all food/dog/pet shit all around them. The fresh waste bin my nightmare neighbour seems to think is just for them has been dumped in the garden, so all you can eat buffet for ratty - as they won’t tolerate others using it (so why don’t they just have it in theirs then?!).

Theyve not long come in from smoking, making a racket and dumping their cigarettes in the dry leaves piled in the garden by the bins.

The landlord doesn’t understand why they need to sort the bins, get rid of the big pile of dry leaves and remove the mass of ivy growing over the pavement meaning people can’t walk on it, apparently just cutting the stalks is enough. Pretty certainly ratty is living in the ivy. Literally all the other properties have been sorted out.

Neighbour is being a nightmare making a racket middle of night and early morning (think 3am/6am) and by racket I don’t just mean noise (have earplugs) they’re jumping around causing my walls (that are not brick) to vibrate and hurting me.

Last landlord contact was, and I quote ‘get a hobby’ I’m the one the bloody council are bothering about the garden. Thr back garden is at least six feet deep in various weeds and god knows what else ruining next doors property.

I’m still being harassed on FB as well. Some what is, for me, really hurtful stuff about my mental health. I can get zero support as everyone says ‘too ill’ except services who when concerns are raised say I’m fine

 

[stargirl23]

Four years ago, I slept with one of my bosses after a drunken night out. He told me he was divorced and had full custody of his son, doesn’t have anything to do with his ex wife, and is single. He’d only been there a few weeks so didn’t really know much about him or spoke to him much.

The morning after, we slept together again and then I went for a shower. As I came out he was on the phone and said ‘gotta go, love ya’ - so I said ‘aw was that your boy?’ and he went ‘no my girlfrie… fuck.’

Turns out they’d been together for five years at that point, engaged for four, her and her three kids live there, and her grandkids call him granddad.


I had to keep talking to him for work purposes, but he got made redundant as the pandemic eased up. In the meantime I’d met my boyfriend. He sent me a dirty message so I told him to fuck off and if he ever contacted me again then I’d tell his partner, then blocked him.


For some reason she’s come up on my suggested friends on Facebook recently and I had a snoop. They’re planning their wedding and she’s posting about how he’s the best partner ever and how he’s so different from her cheating abusive ex husband.

I now feel like such a bitch for not telling her as soon as I found out. I was 19 and stupid, and couldn’t be bothered with the backlash. He was 51 and my dad also worked with us, so it would have caused an almighty rift between us all.
Now I’m sat here thinking is it too late to say something? Should I message her? Do I just ignore it and let them crack on? I feel so conflicted.

Personally I’d leave them too it. Especially as it’s been 4 years. It’s their choice to get married and if she thinks he’s not a cheat etc that’s on her. I wouldn’t bother bringing up something from years ago to cause hurt before their wedding. They’re clearly happy if they’re planning a wedding so I’d leave them too it. We all make stupid mistakes when we’re young x