The advice thread for random problems #3

[Rxt156]

I think this is one of those unsolveable problems (other than moving house!) but I just want to vent.

My neighbours are awful (they're born again Christian be kind types) and their kids (aged about 9 to 14) re the most entitled little shits I've ever come across.

We have had issues for years with them kicking balls into my garden. They let themselves into my garden to get the balls back either by climbing the fence (which I've had to replace once) or lifting the panel or climbing my gate. They also relentlessly kick the ball against my fence which is falling apart. If I'm in the garden they shout for the ball back (no please or thank you). We had about 20 of my sons friends over for BBQ a couple of months ago and at 10pm when we were in the garden the kids were shouting 'shut up'

Today in the space of under 10 mins they kicked 2 balls over, climbed over, kicked over 2 more, climbed over. on the 3rd time I caught them and told them to get off my fence. They then spent the next 20 mins peering over like fucking Chads.

The parents are idiots so there is no point talking to them but I'm just sick of feeling I can't ever go out in my garden, or that I have no privacy.

I've got some plastic spike things I can put on the fence but I expect they'll just do something else if I stop that (I changed the gate and the panels are now screwed in so cant be lifted from their side, hence them now climbing the fence)

Without going all Mumsnet I think a lot of it is rooted in jealousy as my house and garden are twice the size of theirs but that doesn't make it easier to deal with! My plan for years has been to move to another (nicer and cheaper) part of the country to live with my partner but we split up last year so that put an end to that.

Oooooo i hate this type of shit. They need one last warning. No more climbing over or the balls get a knife in them. Done. Once shouted at a 5yo & 8yo for throwing stones over my fence as one hit my dog. A VERY firm word and it didn’t happen again 🫨 oohh just found a new emoji lol

 

[Hastaggifted]

I’d send her in and tell her not to mention it!

I did just that. I said they would send you home and tell me off!

 

[stardust1]

Absolutely no excuse for this, I should’ve paid attention to what I was doing.
I’ve been caught speeding, 52mph in a 30 zone! They are taking me too court. What can I expect?
I have a clean licence, will I lose it?

probably be ok and will likely just be 6 points.

 

[stargirl23]

Difflam do a numbing mouthwash too that’s helpful. Ice lollies helped loads but not ice cream as the dairy hurts more

 

[BaffledWarthog]

Thank you.

I looked into carpenter ants but I don’t think it’s them. The ones in my kitchen are brownish and light like ghost or sugar ants.

I think some parts of the wood in the kitchen are old and in poor condition (since the day I moved in).

Is there a product I can use to keep them at bay?

I'm honestly not sure about a product - but there should be one! But I think you can use a mix of white vinegar and water to spray around the area. Cinnamon is meant to be a good repellent as well

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Much nicer than standing under a shower trying not to get hair wet, or full force of water in the face, the bit’s of you that aren’t under the water getting cold and not being able to wash your feet properly. A bath does not have to take long, but a long bath is relaxing and can ease muscle aches.

my last two houses had both, I have never used the shower in either

This is a very light hearted reply, I'm not being argumentative (so please don't take it like that)* but shower caps were invented for a reason and none of me gets cold in a shower because all of me is under water all of the time. Also, my feet are very well washed because they are in water for the entirety of said shower.

I used to be a bath person, particularly enjoying a long soak on a Saturday evening with a book. However approximately a decade ago I developed a medical condition that made having baths a no go. I literally hated showers and genuinely used to say I found the water "too intrusive in a morning" so it was a massive adjustment. These days I can't imagine ever having a bath again. I love showers!

In response to the original query, I'd say fit your home out with what suits you. There will always be someone who it will suit and given the room is big enough to have a bath, if it's that big a deal, the new owners will re-do the bathroom anyway. In all honesty it's a room a lot of people moving into a new home do to suit their own tastes and needs anyway.

*Maybe being an ex bather is as bad as being an ex smoker .

 

[Snippysnips]

erm fern royd hotel, coastal bay or sea princess? They are all black

None of those I think I'll just need to accept I can't find it, I didn't know Blackpool had so many that were black, was thinking it was a rare colour it be easier to find, I did look at those but two don't have dates available for when am going, thanks for looking for it

 

[Tanne1999]

Thanks guys for suggestions. Foot deodorant might be a good shout actually - I’ve never tried it before!

Will try out a few different things and see what works best. I can’t do flip flops, walking in them hurts my ankles. I’ve not tried many sandals to be honest, so I may have to pop into town the weekend and see what my options are

 

[petitspois]

Would you buy a house without a bath?

We have a small bathroom with a shower over the bath. We are a family that 99% of the time shower, my 7 year will occasionally have a big bubble bath, maybe 3 x a year.
We will be redoing it in the next year or so. I'm thinking of getting rid of the bath and making it into a wet room with big walk in shower. We do however have 2 ensuites that are showers. But we want to keep our ensuite kid free and the 2nd ensuite is in our 15 year olds room so he doesn't particularly want younger siblings coming in and out.
We have no plans to sell but would it affect resale value if we got rid of bath completely or should we just do what we want without thinking about possible selling points in the future.

I think it would put off people with young kids or those thinking of having kids but I think you should do what you want. Maybe a house large enough to have two ensuites wouldn't be in the price range of those with babies or toddlers anyway.

 

[Snippysnips]

Not a problem but I didn't want to create a new thread just to ask this silly question... how would you describe this hair colour to your hairdresser? What sort of shade is it? Are there also highlights/low-lights/something else? It's not a million miles away from my own colour so I think it would be achievable. I get a warmish blonde colour done with a few highlights, and my own natural colour is much the same as Blake's roots/eyebrows - but I'd like to know the correct way to describe what I would like alongside showing this picture. Thank you in advance!

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I'd imagine the hairdresser will know, it actually looks exactly like mine but I've never dyed my hair, it may just be one colour, just the way it's pinned up an the lighting could be making it look that little bit darker underneath and on top, mine tends to go like that when it's being tied back an I've used a little bit of hairspray

 

[stargirl23]

Random problem, have purchased a trampoline for my niece an have gotten to the stage of putting on the springs

Does it matter the springs don't match the instructions? I can only put the springs one way so it means the part attached to the trampoline has the spring part going from bottom to up an not over the top like the picture shown

I don’t think it matters. We’ve had a trampoline 3 years and I never realised the springs had to be a certain way when building it

 

[Snippysnips]

Folks, have come home from hospital destroyed with residue from the tape they used for the cannula, IV lines etc. I’ve scrubbed my skin raw to no avail. Anything I might have laying around the house (or could get in supermarket) that might sort it out? My arms and chest are wrecked!

Maybe surgical spirit?? I've used it before to get oil paint off my hands

 

[stardust1]

Does anyone here go on coach trips for short breaks?

Best and cheapest way to do this, please? My friend asked me to go away to Devon with her by coach, I said why when I like driving. but my counsellor has said it would be good for me to step outside my comfort zone and let someone else do the driving and for me to just enjoy the break from start to finish.

My friend isn't online so want to see if I can find it cheaper than offline, obviously, it will be after the schools go back.

my family member uses caledonian a lot

 

[Captainmouse]

Me personally? No, I am not a shower person

 

[TheGlossy]

I have this chronic issue everytime I work from the office.

I walk in and everything is fine for 3 hours. However, I suddenly feel sick after a few hours (burning eyes/teary eyes, sneezing, cough). I come home and feel like I’m coming down with something, but then I wake up the next morning and feel fine.

I don’t have this issue when I’m WFH, but it always happens at the office. By the time I get home, I’m sneezing and my are blood shot red.

I don’t know what it is. I suspected the AC but I’m not sure.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Thank you for the response! That sounds really great all of it. I have been looking at local companies, good to know that's how it will be most affordable, but £60 sounds really reasonable. Thank you

They’ll never judge you love, hope it helps

 

[Snippysnips]

I found Penrith quite charming. Don't know how out of the way that would be for you?

Thanks I'll check it out, it's probably on route or not too far since we will be passing through Carlisle and onto Lancaster

 

[restingbtcface]

There’s an online dating one that sometimes strays into relationship/sex territory

Thanks, just seen that. I’ll click watch and maybe I’ll jump in
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There’s an online dating one that sometimes strays into relationship/sex territory

I found one about sex!

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Can anyone who has a cat give me a rough idea of what they cost a month? My friend seems to think she can “upgrade” from a hamster at no extra cost

I don’t think she’s necessarily wrong. Cats are very low maintenance compared to caged pets. If she’s looking after her hamster properly then I don’t think the leap to a cat will be too much more.
Food will probably be more expensive and that’s about it

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Thanks, honestly am tempted to just get one an hope it's rubbish so he will stop going on about them lol, but I just didn't know if you got them or not

I know you can buy pallets from the like sof amazon and john lewis. But the issue is they qre more often a load of crap that an individual will strugfle to unload.
Could you fake it? Buy a load of tat from poundland and wrap it. It will soon out him off