This!!!I was reading a referral letter between my Gynae and my neurologist - most of you know - mum of 1 (via fertility clinic purely because of my MS medication. I do have PCOS but this was not a fertility issue - just don’t want any misinformation) - as we consider is baby no 2 an option(I did so much damage to my bowel in labour and also MS fucks up your muscle reflex’s anyway which is how the bowel works) I ended up with a. ‘Temporary’ colostomy bag that I now have almost a year. Anyway, the letter said because of that, if I was a candidate to get pregnant again I would have to have a section. Guys the letter back from my MS doctor to the Gynae doc in fertility clinic basically just underlined, outlined and highlighted ALL the physical demands of a section on a woman who doesn’t have something else going on, he made valid points on the deep layers of muscles being cut through, that often it takes weeks and months to heal, and in the mean time your using your other limbs to support yourself. The jist of it guys was baby no 2 is too risky based on my personal medical situation because the section could cause irreparable and irreversible damage to my muscles via my MS. They said if in a year or 3 I happen to have a break from my symptoms they can review. But I know the door is closed. And sorry - didn’t mean to make this about me. I just really need to say that a section is a very physical surgery - and I’m not saying this is comparison to a vaginal birth. I’m saying it in comparison to it could actually limit the quality of my life, to the point I probably will never have another baby. And Terrie is acting like she had a tooth removed.
For what? Your body is all you have in this world if you get sick. Why do you need to pretend you aren’t sore, bleeding and stiff. You’re lucky you have no background issue OR that it all went ok even though it wasn’t planned. I absolutely hate anyone acting like having a baby was just a walk in the park because people like me know the extremes. Sorry guys not looking for sympathy but had to say well done rosemary also for being honest xx
I had sepsis in labour and could have died . A section was my final option. My baby was also in distress . I took the time to rest and recover because it was so difficult. And I had people around me constantly telling me that “newborns are easy” “they sleep all the time etc”. At the time all I cared about was these opionions and why I wasn’t finding things as easy as them. It caused serious PND and anxiety for me.
Looking back I had an infection that was going to kill me within hours of being left untreated, no wonder I didn’t find things easy or didn’t bounce back for months. I was dealing with the trauma of everything that happened. They ridiculed me in the office for saying that newborn was the hardest time for me, even people who had NEVER had kids were also ridiculing me. I ended up walking out and getting signed off sick because it just sent me over the edge.
I am pregnant with my second baby now (even the trauma didn’t put me off another one!) and this time I am not going to give a toss about all these peoples opinions (who still work there!) .
Newborns are difficult and the hardest time for me for sure. Especially as a nervous , first time mum with no support around them! Terrie posting these false images is damaging to new mums who might be following her , young naive people like myself who thought bouncing back was everything .
I’ve matured a lot since my last baby and I can’t wait to soak up every single second and enjoy it, section or not!
I think that’s very obvious to anyone who has
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