I think you’re losing me is a 6 year relationship getting boring for Taylor, having been in largely toxic relationships before, not really knowing how to handle stability that isn’t shared at top volume to the public. Expecting sign reading, exciting ‘heart starting’ of a new relationship 6 years in, plus asking for more publicity and marriage when the other person is both younger than you and super private is absurd. Their relationship hasn’t been denied at all by Alwyn, and as someone who’s super private, they’ve been pretty public so far, and I wonder if she wanted more. I wouldn’t be surprised if Taylor insisting that ‘their relationship and love is best when it’s private’ rhetoric was Joe’s all along and she was going with it, insisting she was fine with that when she’s not at all. I feel bad for them both tbh.
I sort of suspect that love aka any romantic relationship doesn’t feel real to Taylor unless it’s super PDA, public, discussed by the other person in open/gushing terms, and flaunted, so theirs felt boring in comparison and like it was just dying off slowly (see Calvin Harris, Harry Styles the first time round, Hiddles).