Struggling a bit right now, feeling very lonely and I know that my behaviour is making that worse, but I feel like I just can't reach out to anyone as it's been too long. I don't really have any close friends and although I still live with my parents they aren't very supportive mentally, they think that because I'm not unwell and don't have money worries that I can't have problems.
I've found lockdown hard as I'm not really someone who does a lot of texting or online communication, I've always been someone who only really talks to my friends to arrange meeting up in person. Obviously that hasn't been possible, and even when we were allowed to go for walks and things I was wary of being in contact with anyone who got covid, as then I would have to miss university. I'm a healthcare student so we need to be on placement, and we cannot really miss more than a week, so missing two self isolating would mean that I could potentially fail and have to resit so I have been so careful. Placement has been hard as well, as although almost everyone has been lovely, I only spend a short time in each place, hardly getting to know anyone, and the university is trying to separate students so that we don't spread covid amongst ourselves. So although I'm lucky in the fact I get some social interaction every day it's almost never with friends, so I feel very lonely.
Some of my friends have messaged, but it has been when I am busy, so I forget to reply there and then. Then a day or so later I feel guilty that I haven't replied, but I don't want to annoy them by replying late, and then I leave it and leave it until weeks have gone by and I feel terrible. I hate myself for being like this, I am a horrible friend and a horrible person. I've not really had a close friend for a long time, I did have a few close friends as a teenager, but in my late teens my closest friend just decided she did not like me anymore, she said horrible things to me when nobody else was around and stopped inviting me to anything. She made me feel like I had done something terrible, but when I tried to make amends and find out why she felt this way to see if we could get past it, she could not tell me what I had actually done to upset her, and I could not think of anything which I had done. I became really depressed, suicidal and withdrew from my other friends. I still feel terrified of being close to anyone, because I don't think I could deal with someone dropping me like she did. We had been friends for almost our whole lives and I still to this day do not know why she decided that she hated me. Before that I always had lots of friends, but since then I have really struggled, and I have many acquaintances, but very few friends and nobody who I could feel totally honest with. I never had any support back then, my parents tried but they didn't know how to help me, and when I spoke to my teachers about it they just told me I needed to focus on my schoolwork. Nobody really listened to me or how I felt.
Now I don't feel quite so bad as I did back as a teenager and I made a new set of friends, but I feel like with the third lockdown my mental health is suffering again and I have become quite withdrawn from them. I haven't messaged my friends back for a while now, as I just can't bring myself to, and the longer I leave it the more I hate myself for it. What makes it worse is that one of my friends parents died a few months ago, I tried to be supportive for them then, we aren't the closest in our friendship group, but I sent messages and we all sent flowers at the time and I think they are doing ok, but I feel like if they are doing ok, then what right do I have to be struggling. My friends have done nothing wrong and I still really like them, but I'm sure they must think that I don't like them. Now that lockdown is lifting, I have seen a few of my friends meeting up on social media and nobody has asked me if want to come along. I know that it is my fault, and no wonder they haven't asked me as I have not been good friend, and I hate how I behave. I have been a horrible person, and I don't even know how to get out of it. I don't know what to do, I feel like I have nobody and I don't know who to turn to. I can't tell my parents, as they will just tell me that I have been a terrible friend, which I know is true, but I just want someone to listen to me and not be judgemental. I just hate myself.
I've found lockdown hard as I'm not really someone who does a lot of texting or online communication, I've always been someone who only really talks to my friends to arrange meeting up in person. Obviously that hasn't been possible, and even when we were allowed to go for walks and things I was wary of being in contact with anyone who got covid, as then I would have to miss university. I'm a healthcare student so we need to be on placement, and we cannot really miss more than a week, so missing two self isolating would mean that I could potentially fail and have to resit so I have been so careful. Placement has been hard as well, as although almost everyone has been lovely, I only spend a short time in each place, hardly getting to know anyone, and the university is trying to separate students so that we don't spread covid amongst ourselves. So although I'm lucky in the fact I get some social interaction every day it's almost never with friends, so I feel very lonely.
Some of my friends have messaged, but it has been when I am busy, so I forget to reply there and then. Then a day or so later I feel guilty that I haven't replied, but I don't want to annoy them by replying late, and then I leave it and leave it until weeks have gone by and I feel terrible. I hate myself for being like this, I am a horrible friend and a horrible person. I've not really had a close friend for a long time, I did have a few close friends as a teenager, but in my late teens my closest friend just decided she did not like me anymore, she said horrible things to me when nobody else was around and stopped inviting me to anything. She made me feel like I had done something terrible, but when I tried to make amends and find out why she felt this way to see if we could get past it, she could not tell me what I had actually done to upset her, and I could not think of anything which I had done. I became really depressed, suicidal and withdrew from my other friends. I still feel terrified of being close to anyone, because I don't think I could deal with someone dropping me like she did. We had been friends for almost our whole lives and I still to this day do not know why she decided that she hated me. Before that I always had lots of friends, but since then I have really struggled, and I have many acquaintances, but very few friends and nobody who I could feel totally honest with. I never had any support back then, my parents tried but they didn't know how to help me, and when I spoke to my teachers about it they just told me I needed to focus on my schoolwork. Nobody really listened to me or how I felt.
Now I don't feel quite so bad as I did back as a teenager and I made a new set of friends, but I feel like with the third lockdown my mental health is suffering again and I have become quite withdrawn from them. I haven't messaged my friends back for a while now, as I just can't bring myself to, and the longer I leave it the more I hate myself for it. What makes it worse is that one of my friends parents died a few months ago, I tried to be supportive for them then, we aren't the closest in our friendship group, but I sent messages and we all sent flowers at the time and I think they are doing ok, but I feel like if they are doing ok, then what right do I have to be struggling. My friends have done nothing wrong and I still really like them, but I'm sure they must think that I don't like them. Now that lockdown is lifting, I have seen a few of my friends meeting up on social media and nobody has asked me if want to come along. I know that it is my fault, and no wonder they haven't asked me as I have not been good friend, and I hate how I behave. I have been a horrible person, and I don't even know how to get out of it. I don't know what to do, I feel like I have nobody and I don't know who to turn to. I can't tell my parents, as they will just tell me that I have been a terrible friend, which I know is true, but I just want someone to listen to me and not be judgemental. I just hate myself.