Just writing this as I need to get it off my chest.
Yesterday I received a text from the last guy I dated. He met my friend at a party. He said it was obvious that I am the less fun of the two. I know that they have been messaging each other since then.
I know it's such an insignificant thing to be down in the dumps about but it's just something I feel is reflective on me and my personality.
I feel like I'm a very forgettable person. I'm not the type of person to have a lasting impression.I've got no bleeping charisma or personality. Nobody even knows me or remembers me. I blend in. It's like I'm invisible.
I feel like life is happening and I'm stuck frozen with time passing by. If I were to disappear tomorrow very few people would notice.
I will admit I am a very awkward person. I'm almost 22 with the same level of awkwardness of most 13 year olds. I was suspected to be autistic but I was found not to have it after being tested. I feel like I often come across as boring because l struggle in social situations. I am very much an introvert and I hate that about myself. I do have my own passions, but it takes a long time for me to warm up.
I wish I was a social butterfly,a party animal even. I feel like I need to totally change who I am as a person. I feel like I should try and reinvent myself.
I don't drink often. it gives me stomach problems and I hate wasting a whole day in bed feeling hungover and ill. Neither of my parents are particularly big drinkers either.
Perhaps this is just the British drinking culture that's ingrained in me but I always feel like the fact I'm not a hard partier and big drinker only just adds to the feeling I am boring. I live in a place where it is difficult to get taxis home, it isn't unusual to wait several hours for one. I do feel that often is an influence in choosing not to go out as often.
I would say I do have a lot of hang ups. I am an extremely self conscious of how I look. I am very much a plain Jane. I do dress well but I'm do have a plain face. I don't tend to get approached or much attention. In terms of dating, I find that a lot of guys only want me for the one thing or just to keep their options open. I'm never treated as a priority, just an option. I rarely get past the talking stage.
Would it be flippant to force myself becoming a better person, more outgoing and extroverted? I know it will utterly exhaust me but I feel like I need to force myself to be uncomfortable in order to fix myself for the better.
I feel like my best solution is to never ever say no to anything and to stop worrying what if? Who cares what implications it has, I'm young.
Perhaps I'm being flippant but I feel like I need to stop thinking with my head.
I feel like in order to be a better me, I need to start creating a different me and even change who I am completely.
I know I sound like such a daft little girl, I'm 21. It's ridiculous for me to be posting something like this here but I feel like I am drowning in my own head.
Yesterday I received a text from the last guy I dated. He met my friend at a party. He said it was obvious that I am the less fun of the two. I know that they have been messaging each other since then.
I know it's such an insignificant thing to be down in the dumps about but it's just something I feel is reflective on me and my personality.
I feel like I'm a very forgettable person. I'm not the type of person to have a lasting impression.I've got no bleeping charisma or personality. Nobody even knows me or remembers me. I blend in. It's like I'm invisible.
I feel like life is happening and I'm stuck frozen with time passing by. If I were to disappear tomorrow very few people would notice.
I will admit I am a very awkward person. I'm almost 22 with the same level of awkwardness of most 13 year olds. I was suspected to be autistic but I was found not to have it after being tested. I feel like I often come across as boring because l struggle in social situations. I am very much an introvert and I hate that about myself. I do have my own passions, but it takes a long time for me to warm up.
I wish I was a social butterfly,a party animal even. I feel like I need to totally change who I am as a person. I feel like I should try and reinvent myself.
I don't drink often. it gives me stomach problems and I hate wasting a whole day in bed feeling hungover and ill. Neither of my parents are particularly big drinkers either.
Perhaps this is just the British drinking culture that's ingrained in me but I always feel like the fact I'm not a hard partier and big drinker only just adds to the feeling I am boring. I live in a place where it is difficult to get taxis home, it isn't unusual to wait several hours for one. I do feel that often is an influence in choosing not to go out as often.
I would say I do have a lot of hang ups. I am an extremely self conscious of how I look. I am very much a plain Jane. I do dress well but I'm do have a plain face. I don't tend to get approached or much attention. In terms of dating, I find that a lot of guys only want me for the one thing or just to keep their options open. I'm never treated as a priority, just an option. I rarely get past the talking stage.
Would it be flippant to force myself becoming a better person, more outgoing and extroverted? I know it will utterly exhaust me but I feel like I need to force myself to be uncomfortable in order to fix myself for the better.
I feel like my best solution is to never ever say no to anything and to stop worrying what if? Who cares what implications it has, I'm young.
Perhaps I'm being flippant but I feel like I need to stop thinking with my head.
I feel like in order to be a better me, I need to start creating a different me and even change who I am completely.
I know I sound like such a daft little girl, I'm 21. It's ridiculous for me to be posting something like this here but I feel like I am drowning in my own head.
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