Hey , sorry I just need to vent and see if anyone has any advice or experience. We are beginning to feel concerned about my mothers drinking habits.
Since I was young, I’ve never liked being around my mother when she’s been drinking as she can be not a nice drunk towards family and get argumentative towards us. It’s frustrating as towards her friends she is the life and soul of the party and fun to be around. But towards her immediate family she can be not nice, start arguments and then be quite nasty. My siblings and I all feel the same way, including her parents and siblings.
In the past year her drinking has particularly increased and about a month ago I know it sounds crazy but I started observing her drinking to see any patterns and also so I can be sure when we speak to her incase she try’s to downplay it. She’s very sociable with her friends and every social plan involves drinking more then 2 bottles of wine. In the past 26 days she’s drank on 21 occasions, half of these were heavy drinking more than a bottle and the other times were drinking at least a bottle of wine.
I know she’s not an alcoholic, but I am worried that she’s heading towards being dependent on alcohol.
She’s mentioned on multiple occasions including last week that she’s “going a detox” which lasts a matter of days before drinking again. For an example on Monday she said she’s on a detox and lasted a day before she had a bad day at work and sat down with a bottle of wine for the night (since then she’s drank every night)
I don’t really know where to go from here. Her drinking concerns me for her own health as well as the damage she’s doing to her relationships with her family. She’s aware that her family don’t like the amount she drinks but she gets very confrontational and defensive whenever someone mentions her drinking habits.
Since I was young, I’ve never liked being around my mother when she’s been drinking as she can be not a nice drunk towards family and get argumentative towards us. It’s frustrating as towards her friends she is the life and soul of the party and fun to be around. But towards her immediate family she can be not nice, start arguments and then be quite nasty. My siblings and I all feel the same way, including her parents and siblings.
In the past year her drinking has particularly increased and about a month ago I know it sounds crazy but I started observing her drinking to see any patterns and also so I can be sure when we speak to her incase she try’s to downplay it. She’s very sociable with her friends and every social plan involves drinking more then 2 bottles of wine. In the past 26 days she’s drank on 21 occasions, half of these were heavy drinking more than a bottle and the other times were drinking at least a bottle of wine.
I know she’s not an alcoholic, but I am worried that she’s heading towards being dependent on alcohol.
She’s mentioned on multiple occasions including last week that she’s “going a detox” which lasts a matter of days before drinking again. For an example on Monday she said she’s on a detox and lasted a day before she had a bad day at work and sat down with a bottle of wine for the night (since then she’s drank every night)
I don’t really know where to go from here. Her drinking concerns me for her own health as well as the damage she’s doing to her relationships with her family. She’s aware that her family don’t like the amount she drinks but she gets very confrontational and defensive whenever someone mentions her drinking habits.