Iāve just sent a message saying my sex drive is very high I need to do something and his response āget your vibrator sort yourself out.ā
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Reply āif I have to āsort myself outā for 4 years, why are you here?āIāve just sent a message saying my sex drive is very high I need to do something and his response āget your vibrator sort yourself out.ā
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You deserve so much better than what heās giving you in every aspect of the relationship.Iāve just sent a message saying my sex drive is very high I need to do something and his response āget your vibrator sort yourself out.ā
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Iām going to say this and please know im saying it with nothing but kindnessā¦Iāve just sent a message saying my sex drive is very high I need to do something and his response āget your vibrator sort yourself out.ā
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I maybe shouldnāt be encouraging you but nobody else needs to know what you both get up to, if itās what you both want itās no one elseās business.I donāt know why heās avoiding me. Iām broken xx
My friend has said he would happily come round tomorrow duck I said donāt. Wouldnāt be able to control myself. Friends with benefits would be frowned upon.
heās calling me tonight again for phone sex and I canāt blinking weight truth be told. He is filthy and it drives me wild. Thatās terrible for me to say but itās the truth.I maybe shouldnāt be encouraging you but nobody else needs to know what you both get up to, if itās what you both want itās no one elseās business.
I've read the full thread. You honestly deserve to be treated so much better then this.Iāve just sent a message saying my sex drive is very high I need to do something and his response āget your vibrator sort yourself out.ā
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he moved back to his mums 4 years ago.When did he move back to his mumās?
so if youāve been together 12 years, then he cheated on you right at the start of your relationship?
I donāt want to sound harsh, but I feel like this guy is just playing on your kindness and I feel like he has been doing it for a very long time. Heās been getting his cake and eating it too and youāve been allowing it.
if he moved out because you were āmoodyā then not a chance would I have continued with the relationship, especially considering heās left not only you, but also his children.
This seems a very odd set up to me and he clearly doesnāt want this relationship, but he is either too weak to tell you that or he wants to keep you right where he wants so that in case he changes his mind, heās got you as a back up plan.
I would ditch him, go after this new guy and enjoy your life. Life is too short.
Im going to be blunt here - it doesn't matter why he's avoiding you, the fact is that he is, and more importantly he's avoiding his responsibilities with his children, which is unforgivable. I know for you the fact that you don't have a sexual relationship seems to be your focus, maybe that's easier for you as you can see a physical resolution to this with your new/ old friend but the fact that he has abandoned his children and not seen them since March is the biggest issue here and it can't carry indefinitely like it is.I donāt know why heās avoiding me. Iām broken xx
My friend has said he would happily come round tomorrow duck I said donāt. Wouldnāt be able to control myself. Friends with benefits would be frowned upon.
Youāre letting him have way too much power here. He had an affair, which you forgave, but if you do the same then he leaves? No sorry but that wouldnāt work for me. Iād tell him itās over right now. Not a chance would I let a man have this much power over me.he moved back to his mums 4 years ago.
He is very arrogant, stubborn and upfront. Iāve told him if he doesnāt wanna be with metell me and he said heās happy. If I cheat he walks away.
I forgave him at the beginning but to be honest. It doesnāt look good for him does it?
He already has walked away. He is giving you nothing in this ārelationshipā - nothing. He pays for his kids - which is his obligation as a parent. You are getting nothing else from him. And sorry but he cheated on you in the past so how dare he have such a double standard!he moved back to his mums 4 years ago.
He is very arrogant, stubborn and upfront. Iāve told him if he doesnāt wanna be with metell me and he said heās happy. If I cheat he walks away.
I forgave him at the beginning but to be honest. It doesnāt look good for him does it?
To add if i did it all child maintenance would stop also. Thatās his threat.Youāre letting him have way too much power here. He had an affair, which you forgave, but if you do the same then he leaves? No sorry but that wouldnāt work for me. Iād tell him itās over right now. Not a chance would I let a man have this much power over me.
No, he doesnāt ask how they are I have to tell him theyāre okay. Or what theyāve been up to.He already has walked away. He is giving you nothing in this ārelationshipā - nothing. He pays for his kids - which is his obligation as a parent. You are getting nothing else from him. And sorry but he cheated on you in the past so how dare he have such a double standard!
This isnāt a relationship. He has fathered children with you, thatās it. He isnāt even bothering his arse to be a father and actually take care of his children.
he sounds like an absolute hole.
Im okay thank you. XxI really feel for you and I say this with kindness but this isnāt a relationship. Heās actively avoiding you and his children and his excuse is heās put on weight? That is so messed up and I hope your kids donāt feel rejected by him. I really think you need to cut ties with him because it doesnāt seem like he is invested in this at all. Really hope you are ok x
To add if i did it all child maintenance would stop also. Thatās his threat.
No, he doesnāt ask how they are I have to tell him theyāre okay. Or what theyāve been up to.
Sorry but if heās going to cut off money to his children because of you cheating then heās a vile piece of scum and I wouldnāt give him the satisfaction of needing his money and Iād tell him where to stick it. My mum raised three kids without any maintenanceā¦To add if i did it all child maintenance would stop also. Thatās his threat.
No, he doesnāt ask how they are I have to tell him theyāre okay. Or what theyāve been up to.
Im okay thank you. Xx
Tbh I agree. Youāve told him you want someone else and heās done nothing to show you heās willing to fight for you other than say āno donāt do itā (did you tell him youāve had phone sex with the other guy?).This guy is honestly ridiculous, I donāt even have words. He cheated, he threatened to stop child maintenanceā¦he moved out 4 years ago and barely sees his kidsā¦
OP text him that itās over and go duck that other guy. duck him twice if you have to