Hey guys!!
I am not sure if this is the correct thread so I apologise in advance if not
Myself and my partner have been together since 2015, we were 26 now 34, within the first few months we had discussed where we would love to see ourselves in 5+ years, what we hoped to do in life and not live with regrets.
My main goals was to have children, my partner agreed.
A year later we had moved in together and got a mortgage, two years go by and the topic of having children came up, my partner shut it down immediately and said he didnāt want children has it didnāt give him any purpose in life, this obviously broke me has I couldnāt believe I had waited 2 years for him to just change his mind out of nowhere, I know this sounds dramatic but I almost felt like I had waisted my time with someone I believed to have a future with!
I kind of let him think I had forgotten about having children and that I werenāt that fussed over it but then I brought it up again not long after, my partner then told me āone dayā but then it would change again to ānoā
We had a massive falling out because I believe that he doesnāt want to (doesnāt have to) have children and I feel like Iām almost allowing him to have that luxury but my wants in life are sitting on a shelf waiting for āone dayā
we have NEVER used protection, never been on any form of contraception, only ever used the āpull out methodā
In 8 years he has only ever not pulled out twice and that was 2 weeks ago and just before Halloween last year.
letās just say, we are 8 years in (almost 9) no children!
it really breaks my heart that I canāt be a mum, I love my partner with everything but most days I feel like Iām living my life with regrets and thatās not what I want to do.
I asked my partner again today and heās told me heās sick of me asking him, he says the more I ask the more it makes him not want to has he feels like Iām rushing him!
he doesnāt seem to understand that we have been together nearly 9 years, itās not like we are in the first year!!
Please help.