I've an older teen refusing therapy but most def needs a bit, anxiety killing them.
You sound like work in that/similar area, is there something I can do apart from all the reassurance amd giving love., is there any big thing I wouldn't think of that may help? Sorry to ask just you sound like you know what your talking about and at there age I'm stuck bcoz has right ta so to the therapy but needs something. Is sporty and all out 4x wk to play/train. Works a part time job. So is getting out but still so heightened with anxiety. I've had myself and try tell them what I used but yano yourself parents know nothing
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But I don't want it ta drag on for them and gp useless just keeps saying old enough ta tell ya no
It's such an individual thing. So as
bleeping annoying as it sounds, I wouldn't know until I spoke to them. It would be really remiss of me to pretend otherwise. Sorry.
Generally though, you care enough to ask and want to help which is huge. And they will feel that. Honestly feeling cared for is a huge part of it in all i see.Teenagers in themselves are at a place where there very being is to push away,yet pull back. Then push and want you to pull etc. They are finding themselves but also so scared to.
I know our waiting lists are sickeningly long. But have you seen the IAPT services. So it's a short, usually 6_ 8 week taljing therapy service. The difference being that anybody can self refer. No doctor no referral needed. They phone and get into it themselves. So it can feel alot easier and more in control. There are some really good people behind those services. All still trained NHS services.
Is the sport and training a choice. Do they need more wind down time. Is it pressured? With sprit especially some breathing techniques can be really helpful. There is a site called insight timer that does loaaaads of free guided meditation or breathing techniques.
And a really helpful site called mindful that has lots of great resources about freframing those thoughts. They also have a podcast with lots of guided meditations.
Keep being open. Keep being there. Let them feel irrational but then allow them to blabber and talk it through. And remind them always that thoughts are not facts.
It's is an illness though, so in the end needs support to get through. Bit depending on them, that can be multi faceted.
Below is a screen shot of that mindful page as an example of what she cpuld tap into.
Basically if you're doing the opposite of rachet then you're already onto a win.