Basically she's blaming her behaviour on Wayne. Reactive abuse is where you snap back at your abuser and they turn it around onto you. Gaslighting for instance, saying "well you punched me back, you are just as bad as me." Inside the abusive relationship it then becomes hard to pick out who did what and therefore the relationship becomes "mutually abusive."
However, that does not extend to how she treats Josh, the kids, her relatives, current or ex friends, even her followers to some point (take for instance her Mother, who she bullies a lot.) She can't claim that her attitude outside the relationship with Wayne is reactive abuse. Once the initial relationship has ended the reactionary behaviour should stop. If it doesn't, it's more likely that the relationship was mutually abusive rather than one party reacting the other parties behaviour.
There is the old saying that "Abusers go on to abuse," and whilst that is sometimes a factor in victims of child abuse (because the brain isn't fully developed at the time of the abuse, it can cause damage to the Amygdala for instance.) In adulthood it's assumed you are developed and mature enough to know right from wrong.
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However, that does not extend to how she treats Josh, the kids, her relatives, current or ex friends, even her followers to some point (take for instance her Mother, who she bullies a lot.) She can't claim that her attitude outside the relationship with Wayne is reactive abuse. Once the initial relationship has ended the reactionary behaviour should stop. If it doesn't, it's more likely that the relationship was mutually abusive rather than one party reacting the other parties behaviour.
There is the old saying that "Abusers go on to abuse," and whilst that is sometimes a factor in victims of child abuse (because the brain isn't fully developed at the time of the abuse, it can cause damage to the Amygdala for instance.) In adulthood it's assumed you are developed and mature enough to know right from wrong.
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