Pregnancy

[NoseyScouser94]

I am 13 weeks 6 days due on 08/07/21 I had my NHS scan last thursday and because my bf couldn't come we had a scan last night and they even turned on the 4D scan for us to see it was so magical I have had no sickness during the pregnancy sometimes I forget I am even pregnant until I look down and my bump is already huge

 

[Upintheair83]

I found out with Harmony and the only thing was that it meant a lot of the excitement was over in one hit early on. You know everything then have to wait until 16 weeks for anything else to happen, bit of an anti-climax. That said, I kept saying to OH 'imagine if we were still waiting to find out, I'd be going crazy' - it made me feel more in control and made it all feel more real too. I'm glad we did find out.
Perhaps find out for yourselves and then find a special way to tell others so you still can have a bit of fun with it?



I felt like this every other day at the start. As for the Xmas jumper and card from bump etc, I didn't/wouldn't do anything like that early on, if at all. (TBF I hate that cutesy crap, as if a bump isn't enough to let people know you're pregnant, really ram it down people's throats, Just what women who are struggling want to see at Christmas.) Until the 'viable' stage at 24 weeks I didn't really truly believe my pregnancy would end in a baby.

I posted before about not feeling overly bonded with my pregnancy. Someone wrote about how you can love so much something you've not met and laughing and smiling every kick. Well, I definitely haven't felt like that!!! It worried me so much for a while but the midwives have all said it's totally normal, many women feel that way particularly when it's been a difficult or painful pregnancy. They said it has no bearing on bonding with baby when they arrive, they've even seen ladies who've felt totally bonded with their baby in their belly and when they arrive they can't reconcile the reality to the fantasy/expectation and find it really traumatic.
I think the point is that, so long as you are taking care of yourself, there's no one right way to feel or behave and it doesn't indicate anything about your eventual relationship with your child.
Also, reading idiots on Instagram saying things like 'So in love with my miracle, my body is so amazing, I love every moment of this journey, its made all my relationships stronger' etc is total bullshit and not helpful to anyone!

I feel so much better from all of your replies ladies! Makes me feel like what I’m going through is a normal feeling.
I’m so happy I’m pregnant but I just don’t feel like I can relax at all and be excited about it, I’m just so aware that so many ladies have miscarriages. Iv always been realistic, I just think it’s out of our hands really.
And I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who doesn’t understand all this bump showing off on Instagram! I mean obv some women love to celebrate it and that’s fine but I just couldn’t get my belly out pregnant or not! Just not really my style.
But I suppose I just felt like why is my friend so excited when I don’t feel that way? Deep down I know I shouldnt compare and I know that everyone is different.
I’m hoping I will feel slightly at ease after the scan, then il find something else to worry about. heaven help me! Xx

 

[Dogwithabone]

Thank you everyone for all your love it means the world! I look forward to sharing this journey with such a lovely understanding group some light amongst this crazy, dark world we’re living in right now! Much love everyone

This has made me cry!! I went through the same thing as you at the very end of February so know what you’ve been through it’s awful.
So happy for you and your baby looks so cosy in there!! !!
I have my scan tomorrow, nervous but excited.
How exciting though, you must be totally overwhelmed and bursting with happiness

Aww thanks so much it’s been the most scariest couple of weeks. Please do update us tomorrow. I will be thinking of you. I am sure everything will be fine Will be lovely to share this journey with you. Much love

 

[Upintheair83]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

 

[Rainbow1]

Had a membrane sweep today as now 4 days past due date

Wasn’t bad at all, read horror stories accidentally online while googling procedure (general advice- don’t google ) I actually drove myself there and back to appointment as had no one else to take me (1 hour round trip) called at Costa drive thru on way back and got a major twinge, immediately panicked thinking I’m alone and a 20 minute drive from home false alarm

Had some twinges this afternoon but nothing of significance

 

[Tui]

Well I just went for a scan, saw a heartbeat but they said its measuring as 6 weeks not 7 and also apparently its lower down in the uterus than they expect
I'm not really sure what that means so am now feeling a bit flat. They have advised I have another scan in a weeks time

6-7 weeks is very early to be accurately estimating gestational age (it’s possible but not as accurate which is why NHS dating scans are done after 10 weeks). My friend got her dates shifted by a whole 2 weeks at her 12 week scan even though she had been actively trying and tracking her periods. She was utterly devastated by it at the time, but nothing came of it and she is due to deliver the baby next month. Unless you had IVF it is very common to be out on your dates by a week. Congratulations on your little heartbeat and I hope you don’t worry too much in the wait for your next scan xx

 

[elloelloello]

Thanks so much ladies. I know deep down I don’t need to keep testing but it just made me feel like I should be

I’m doing everything I should be so I’ll let nature take its course, and I’ll stick to tattle from now on

 

[Definitelyme]

Hi

I’m currently 20 weeks with baby 4, still suffering all day nausea and my sciatica is getting worse too. I already feel massive and like I’m waddling around like a big lump only 19 more weeks to go! (I’m c section)

 

[elloelloello]

Guys can I just say this is my new favourite thread so much positivity and happiness!

 

[Definitelyme]

I feel so much better from all of your replies ladies! Makes me feel like what I’m going through is a normal feeling.
I’m so happy I’m pregnant but I just don’t feel like I can relax at all and be excited about it, I’m just so aware that so many ladies have miscarriages. Iv always been realistic, I just think it’s out of our hands really.
And I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who doesn’t understand all this bump showing off on Instagram! I mean obv some women love to celebrate it and that’s fine but I just couldn’t get my belly out pregnant or not! Just not really my style.
But I suppose I just felt like why is my friend so excited when I don’t feel that way? Deep down I know I shouldnt compare and I know that everyone is different.
I’m hoping I will feel slightly at ease after the scan, then il find something else to worry about. heaven help me! Xx

I am absolutely not a bump shower-offer. I mean I am huge so it’s clear to see, but posting pics etc is not for me. And I hate that when I look for maternity t shirts half of them say “hands off the bump”. Someone put their hands on my bump I’d knock them out I hate that!

Everyone just has different ways of doing “them” and there are never more comparisons than when women are pregnant, and then have kids. Block out what everyone else does. Do what YOU want. Your body, your baby, your decisions.

 

[Tui]

I’ve just had a massive order from Boots arrive with 5 packs of maternity pads, Tena pants, cotton wool, breast pads, the lot can start packing my hospital bag now!

 

[MrsJones83]

I think all our lovely influencers and Instagrammers make pregnancy out to be far more glam and exciting than the reality!

 

[Heartbeats]

We were planning to tell our parents our news face to face over Christmas (currently 12 weeks) but just been put into tier 4 so all plans are off. Going to have to announce over FaceTime instead now

 

[moimoi]

Thanks all!

No way, congratulations!!!! And yes boys’ names are so very hard So many nice ones but not ones I want for my own kid, IYKWIM? Like I think Benjamin is a lovely name, but I don’t wanna call a kid that.

I know, I honestly have no idea! And my partner keeps suggesting ridiculous names - Xerxes anyone?! The sonographer said she's very happy with the baby and all her comments when she was checking everything were "very nice", "perfect", so that's given me a lot of reassurance.

My mum has messaged me a couple times asking when my appointment was, but I still feel so sour about her reaction last week and how "disappointed" she was and "doesn't want to be a grandma" that I've been ignoring her, I do feel a bit bad though.

 

[Definitelyme]

I’m currently 35+1 with my 3rd

Local birth centre is shut and won’t be reopening before I’d need it

What will you be doing instead? Hospital birth?

Thanks for starting the thread!

I'm 18 weeks and 4 days, my first one and terrified as I have no idea what to do. It was really an emotional time when I found out as it was unplanned and I really wasn't sure what I was going to do. I even got to the point of going to Marie Stopes and getting the pills, they were actually lovely and I had a few counselling sessions with them, they weren't pushy at all. I still feel completely terrible about it though and worried I'm gonna get some kind of bad karma for it!

Also needing to move out of our current place by end of February, want more space for the baby and move out of the city to save money and a bit safer. Moving is stressful for anyone but trying to find a place with a baby on the way and during these times with restricted viewings is a nightmare.

You don’t need to be terrified. Honestly NOBODY has any idea what they are doing with a first baby (or even sometimes after no1) but it’s all there inside you and you’ll surprise yourself at how easily it comes. Little things like being confident holding a newborn, and knowing what they need, it all comes together.

 

[Macmama]

21 weeks pregnant with 4th baby, struggling with PGP, my c-sec is 18 weeks tomorrow!

Not having another but with my last (my third pregnancy but our fourth kiddo) my PGP was horrendous. All my sympathy!!

You don’t need to be terrified. Honestly NOBODY has any idea what they are doing with a first baby (or even sometimes after no1) but it’s all there inside you and you’ll surprise yourself at how easily it comes. Little things like being confident holding a newborn, and knowing what they need, it all comes together.

This! So so well put

Don’t let horror stories and negative social media scare you. Everyone rushes to tell you negative stories, but they miss all those really lovely little moments, where your confidence just grows and suddenly you feel like you’ve got it.

 

[Chickenandgravy]

This was requested in the morning sickness thread. A place we can moan and share our worries and get advice!

 

[Definitelyme]

Well I just went for a scan, saw a heartbeat but they said its measuring as 6 weeks not 7 and also apparently its lower down in the uterus than they expect
I'm not really sure what that means so am now feeling a bit flat. They have advised I have another scan in a weeks time

Sending lots of love. Seeing a heartbeat is a great sign, and you could have simply ovulated later than expected leading to the date discrepancy. I hope all goes well next week x

 

[Stimpii]

I had an early private scan this time to try and help me relax (previous losses) plus I knew my partner wouldn’t be allowed to the 12 week scan.

If you’re in a position to pay for one then do it. This is my scan from around 9 weeks.

 

[Sw4]

Yep! That's exactly what I'm having!
First midwife at 28 weeks!
It's crazy! As I said before, I understand there's a pandemic but at the same time, people's health and wellbeing also matter!
My friend had pre eclampsia from 20 weeks with her first and even she hasn't had her urine or blood pressure checked yet and she's 22 weeks!

That's mental! I have to say my trust has been pretty good, I had my booking appointment via phone at 8 weeks and saw a midwife for bloods/urine a few days after. I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and have had my appointment letters through for 12 week scan, 16 week face to face midwife appointment and the glucose test so at least I have some sort of schedule. Mind you I did have to chase up on my self referral a couple of times initially. I'm in the South East.

I appreciate we are in the midst of a pandemic but it's beyond me how pubs and non essential shops are open in a lot of the country yet basic health needs are being ignored and women are still having to attend scans alone. These days there's probably more chance of catching something in the supermarket than having a partner at a scan, nobody gives a crap about spacing anymore it seems.