Pregnancy

[Hellofromtheotherside]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant after 3 Miscarriages, I have a little boy already. Absolutely petrified and anxious I havnt told anyone (obviously my husband) but no one else as I'm scared I will have to untell people, never been so anxious in all my life I had a private scan last week and everything seems to be okay but I can't shake this anxious feeling aurghhhh sorry just nice to get it off my chest

 

[Macmama]

Feeling so fed up tonight! Feeling my little boy kicking and moving away in my tummy is making me sad for him, bringing him into the world the way it is right now!
he’s due April but I’ve had some issues so he is likely to come early. I don’t know how I’m going to cope if he does come early and not have the support of friends and family cause I can’t see them!
I just don’t know what to say or do anymore

I’m sorry you’re experiencing all of this for the first time during a pandemic and all the extra worries and stresses it brings

Your little boy doesn’t know what is going on in the world. All he knows is you. He’s happy and cosy, and waiting to put a face to your voice. All of the worries about how you’ll cope, what you’ll do, looking after him, he doesn’t know any of that. He never will. All he will know is that he’s safe and warm and loved, and that he has the best mama in the world for him. And when he’s here, and you’re sitting cuddling him and looking at that wee face looking up at you, you’ll know it too. We’re all just winging it by a thread sometimes, but all our babies care about is that we love them

 

[Whaaaaat]

For those of you that have already had a baby....what's the one thing you wish you had been told the first time around?

I'm terrified of labour so I've got the feeling I might regret asking this

This sums up my experience

 

[Chickenandgravy]

I just had my scan at the EPU there. Unfortunately only one heartbeat but to be honest I think I was expecting that. I'm just so glad the other wee bean is doing so well and they're happy that they don't need to see me till my 12 week scan in Jan!

 

[jazyblu]

I had a private scan yesterday at 12 weeks as my nhs one isn’t until the 6th and omg I love her so much! She was flipping around doing and doing loads of little roly polys.

 

[WhatABore]

Hi lovely people just wondering if anyone can help settle my nerves.

I’m 28 weeks, FTM, baby was very unplanned but a happy surprise. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 7 years. We are very close. I keep getting jittery / panicky about how this is going to change our relationship. I really treasure our alone time and I know we won’t really have any again. I’m scared, if I’m honest, that we’ll grow apart! If anyone wants to share the positive ways in which having a baby changed their relationship I would be so grateful... feels like from the minute you get pregnant people love to tell you how crap your life’s gonna be...

I think this a lot of people's worries!
If anything, having children has brought me and my partner closer together because we have learnt to work as a team and it makes you value that time you do have by yourself as a couple! It also makes you look forward to that alone time too!
I can't say I know many, if any people that have grown apart because of a child.

Ignore what people tell you! I have never understood why people who already have children insist on trying to scare those who don't!

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Hi I’m 8 weeks and have been thinking of getting a private scan just before Christmas as were both off and thought it would be special. We’re also not allowed partners into the 12 week scan and can’t imagine not having hubby there. Do you think it was worth it? I will be just over 9 weeks. We feel it would be special to tell close family over Christmas if everything seems fine. Do people think that silly? I’m really in two minds and would love any advice X

This is my scan at 8wks, I saw a lot more than I expected to be fair!

 

[Al26]

I'm 7 weeks with my first after trying for 4 and a half years!!
Incredibly anxious but have an early scan booked for Sunday.
I'm also high BMi so am worried about that aspect as well

 

[LittleMy]

I felt the opposite. Everyone kept pushing breastfeeding on me throughout, and when it didn’t happen I felt like a complete failure. I didn’t even bother with my second. No mother should be shamed as long as their baby is being fed that’s all that matters. I’ll never understand why other people get so involved/interested in how you feed your child. Unless you’re trying to cram a chicken nugget into a 2 week old baby’s mouth, it’s nobody’s business to say anything.

 

[Jg182]

We are booked in for our amnio test today. Woken up feeling awful. I believe this is the best thing to do for us personally..... this all just seems like a bad dream in desperate to wake up from

 

[WhatABore]

I know everyone is in the same boat and I also know I’m very blessed to be pregnant after years of thinking it would never happen. But I feel safe posting here and comfy opening up- but this news about Christmas has knocked me for six. Maybe it’s the hormones, I’m already super emotional and a rollercoaster of emotions.
But it’s totally freaking me out.
I’m so scared about going for my 12 week scan- I’m not too bothered about my partner not coming in with me- but I’m terrified it will be bad news and I will be heartbroken over Christmas. I know I’m thinking the worst but this year has thrown so much at us that I don’t think I could take anymore. And as much as I love my partner, and he really is amazing- if it is bad news I will just want my mum. and now they’ve taken 5 day Christmas period away from us I just feel even more panicked that I won’t see mum. I know I shouldn’t worry about things that can’t be changed but I can’t help it. I’m so scared I will get there and they will say there’s no heartbeat. Everything this year seems to be bad news and I suppose I’m just preparing myself for the worst. I feel like I should be excited and there’s something wrong with me that I’m more worried than excited! it doesn’t help that all year Iv been on furlough (I’m cabin crew) so Iv felt so isolated and constantly worried about my job and money- I just don’t think I could take anymore. The only solace is that my family have all stayed safe and healthy and Iv not lost anyone to Covid, but I dunno- I just feel so scared about everything since finding out I’m pregnant. I’m like a bag of nerves!


Congratulations!
6 miscarriages- I can’t even imagine.
Not long now, I hope all goes well in these last few weeks! Sending lots of love xx

Worrying about your 12 week scan if very very normal.
I had convinced myself something was wrong so stopped myself from getting excited about anything at all. And then once my 12 week scan was done, I then thought exactly the same about my 20 week scan.
It is perfectly normal.
There's nothing wrong with you at all!

I'm 28 weeks now and I still haven't let myself get excited because I worry every single day that something is wrong until I feel the first kicks or movement of the day!

 

[Kitt]

Hi everyone, thanks for support. Paramedics checked me over and all vitals look fine. They don’t really think anything severe is happening right now as no major stomach pain just shoulder pain. They’ve advised me to make sure I speak to GP tomorrow and see what they feel should happen next.

 

[Platypusfattypus]

Have you done the due date calculator on the nhs website?
It's not ideal about the drinking and smoking! But I'm sure that's in the past now you've found out? Someone I knew a few years ago smoked all the way through. Apparenly the doc told her it was more stressful on the baby to give up so just try and cut down.

That's really not good advice from the doctor and very untrue.

@Easilyannoyed congratulations. Please don't panic about the fact you have been drinking and smoking, your pregnancy is very new and the placenta has not formed yet. Are you taking folic acid? If not please start ASAP as this is important in reducing the risk of conditions such a spina bifeda. You need 400 micrograms daily (some women require more and I've attached a link). You also need vitamin d supplements. You can take multi vitamins but please make sure they are suitable for pregnancy. You can refer yourself to the midwife, they will be in touch by 10.weeks.to arrange scans and antenatal care. In regards to the smoking it is better to quit totally, though I know that's not easy. Your midwife can refer you to a smoking cessation service for support.

Congratulations again

Vitamins, minerals and supplements in pregnancy

Find out about vitamins, minerals and supplements in pregnancy, including why you should take a folic acid supplement.

www.nhs.uk

 

[Chickenandgravy]

I got to see my wee bean last night (they dated me at about 11 weeks), was a private scan. It wouldn't stop moving about it was amazing to see definitely only one in there now too. The toilet bowl has become my best friend and that's me signed off work for another 2 weeks praying this eases off soon

 

[lexle]

Found out a couple of days ago that I’m pregnant with my second My working out of the dates show I’d be due 5 days after my sons birthday So many symptoms already unlike my first pregnancy!

 

[Kitt]

Uh so I called 111 and they’re sending an ambulance. Seems a bit dramatic as I feel fine and I don’t want to cause a fuss but I guess better safe than sorry. Will keep you updated.

 

[CrimeJunkie]

Had my private scan today and everything was fine I felt so sick with nerves this morning after spending last night on google reading about peoples early scan experiences (stupid mistake) so feel super relieved! I'm measuring 11+ 1, baby was moving about loads on the scan, waving it's hands and legs and hiccuping! It was so lovely to see... then I was sick in my partners van on the way home which wasn't so lovely

 

[jazyblu]

Going for my 12 week scan this afternoon and we lost our pet last night. Still in total shock and praying for good news because I don’t think I could cope with anything else.

 

[Kitt]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this shit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit shit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

 

[Kitt]

Hi everyone, found out I’m pregnant on Sunday night. 3 weeks and 2 days today so super early days but I am feeling so sick at the moment. Been nauseous and off food since Friday and today it’s been so bad.