Pregnancy

[Squiggle]

Sending lots of love. I am feeling awful today as well Too bad if work aren’t pleased. If they’d rather you came and threw up everywhere I’m sure you could oblige....!

Have you tried wearing travel bands? That helped me first time round feeling sick

Are you all telling people names on your list?! I haven't even told many people.

 

[Definitelyme]

Have you tried wearing travel bands? That helped me first time round feeling sick

Are you all telling people names on your list?! I haven't even told many people.

Thanks for the suggestion Yes, tried travel bands in the past and they’ve never worked (also never stopped my travel sickness either!)

We don’t tend to discuss names much as everyone has an opinion (that we don’t care about ).

 

[Stimpii]

I’ve told a few people our potential name as we can’t decide on a spelling. Most people agree with my way of spelling it, so have told my partner he has to agree to it, or come up with some new suggestions

With my last baby we had a shortlist but it took us about 24 hours until we actually decided what he was.

 

[Definitelyme]

We’ve actually decided on a girl name as it was between two last time (we had a girl and used my fave) so that’s no issue.

But we struggle SO much with boys names. We have one son who has the perfect name, and there are no other names I really love. Lots of names I think “that’s a nice name” but not one I want to call my own child. With both girls we were never able to come up with a boys name, so lucky they came out pen free

 

[Stimpii]

I always had name that I loved for a girl and now I’m having one I don’t like it

 

[littlepup]

I always had name that I loved for a girl and now I’m having one I don’t like it

I had a whole list of girls names I loved, OH isn't keen on any of them. I'd never really thought about having to get someone else to agree to them
We're really struggling to settle on a name now. I don't know if I'm just second guessing every name we come to or if I genuinely don't love them.

 

[Squiggle]

Thanks for the suggestion Yes, tried travel bands in the past and they’ve never worked (also never stopped my travel sickness either!)

We don’t tend to discuss names much as everyone has an opinion (that we don’t care about ).

Oh well thats rubbish they didn't work for either!

We have a boys name set but no girls yet. I do love Lyra but still not 100%

With my son we decided while I was in the birthing pool for both names. But I wouldn't have the girls name for this baby, funny isn't it. Im sure I'm having a boy though but we won't find! Due 4th May

 

[MrsJones83]

This is my first baby and so many things have surprised me so far but I think main one is that you only get 2 ‘official’ scans, I suppose it’s something I’ve never gave any thought to previously but I just presumed they would be a regular thing all through pregnancy!

I think it depends on your hospital, mine offers everyone growth scans at 36 weeks. They found it was lowering still births and problems at delivery, as they were picking up breech babies, placenta problems etc that meant they could act on it early.

 

[Sw4]

Did anyone regret finding out the gender and wish they'd kept it a surprise? I'm really not sure what to do. I have the opportunity to find out very early with my harmony test but not sure if I'd rather save the surprise until later on, or perhaps not find out at all? It's my first so I really don't mind either way what it is. I feel like finding out would make things feel more real though. Or am I just over thinking things far too much!

 

[MrsJones83]

I’ve got a name in mind that I absolutely love, but I need to convince my OH! We don’t discuss with anyone else, and nobody else will know until we announce their arrival. It means no-one can give their opinion, and everyone has lots of fun guessing! And although we know the gender, we don’t make a big deal out of telling everyone that either and definitely no gender reveal.

 

[Squiggle]

I think it depends on your hospital, mine offers everyone growth scans at 36 weeks. They found it was lowering still births and problems at delivery, as they were picking up breech babies, placenta problems etc that meant they could act on it early.

My hospital does the same!

Did anyone regret finding out the gender and wish they'd kept it a surprise? I'm really not sure what to do. I have the opportunity to find out very early with my harmony test but not sure if I'd rather save the surprise until later on, or perhaps not find out at all? It's my first so I really don't mind either way what it is. I feel like finding out would make things feel more real though. Or am I just over thinking things far too much!

I just remember my mum telling me near the end of labour "not long and you'll see if you have a son or daughter " and that pushed me on so much!

 

[WhatABore]

I think it depends on your hospital, mine offers everyone growth scans at 36 weeks. They found it was lowering still births and problems at delivery, as they were picking up breech babies, placenta problems etc that meant they could act on it early.

That's good! Mine do growth scans but only if you're under a consultant for high risk!

And as for names, I've had a similar thing to others, I used the only boys name I liked and that we could agree on with my first. Now years and years later, still can't find another boys name!
My daughter we had 2 names for so used 1 of them and using the second one (providing it stays a girl ) for this one

 

[Upintheair83]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

 

[MrsJones83]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

I find the early stages really hard, I didn’t have any symptoms like sickness etc, you can’t feel anything yet, hardly a bump, so I think what you’re feeling is really normal. Hang in there! Once you’ve had your scan and seen baby I’m sure it will feel more real xx

 

[WhatABore]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

I had this happen with all my pregnancies. Especially as I've never had sickness or anything.
I've also never done any of that stuff your friend is doing so don't worry at all!
I still didn't feel pregnant after my 12 week scan. Even after that I'd completely convinced myself it wasn't real. I even took another test at 14 weeks just to remind myself

 

[Jg182]

Woke up this morning and I just don’t feel pregnant at all, and I don’t mean so much the morning sickness etc...I just don’t! I mean I’m so grateful that my heads not down the toilet all the time and that Iv gone off food but I don’t know, it’s making me so panicked.
My friend who’s pregnant and the same 11 weeks as me, has bought a Christmas jumper with Xmas pudding on and bought her partner a card from bump for Christmas- but I haven’t even had the thought to do any of that! I’m just so worried I’m not pregnant anymore and it’s not real. I’m sure I will get to my 12 week scan next week they will say Iv wasted their time. After reading about Missed miscarriages I’m just so paranoid it will happen to me.
Has anyone else felt this way? Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel excited at the minute? But worried? Xx

I get days like this in the morning, feel perfectly fine... start to worry then the sickness catches up and hits me in the afternoon!

 

[Upintheair83]

I find the early stages really hard, I didn’t have any symptoms like sickness etc, you can’t feel anything yet, hardly a bump, so I think what you’re feeling is really normal. Hang in there! Once you’ve had your scan and seen baby I’m sure it will feel more real xx

Thanks hun, I just feel like I’m missing some sort of maternal gene that I’m not getting excited like my friend and buying all this bump stuff- I’m actually just really anxious about the scan. I feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up in a way. Just feel really weird about it all today. Abit detached. X

 

[Greys1324]

I always had name that I loved for a girl and now I’m having one I don’t like it

I’m the same! I’ve had a list of baby names on my phone for years and as soon as I found out I was pregnant suddenly I didn’t like any of them

 

[MrsJones83]

Thanks hun, I just feel like I’m missing some sort of maternal gene that I’m not getting excited like my friend and buying all this bump stuff- I’m actually just really anxious about the scan. I feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up in a way. Just feel really weird about it all today. Abit detached. X

Don’t forget your body is also adjusting to growing a baby and hormones will be flying all over the place, making you think and feel all sorts of emotions x

 

[WhatABore]

Thanks hun, I just feel like I’m missing some sort of maternal gene that I’m not getting excited like my friend and buying all this bump stuff- I’m actually just really anxious about the scan. I feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up in a way. Just feel really weird about it all today. Abit detached. X

You're not missing anything.
You are literally describing my feelings with my 4 pregnancies. One unfortunately didn't go past 10 weeks but the other 3 have been exact to how you're feeling.
I got myself so worked up coming up to my 12 week scan this time, cried every day leading up to it and in the waiting room because I was so convinced something was wrong