Pregnancy

[MrsJones83]

For those of you that have already had a baby....what's the one thing you wish you had been told the first time around?

I'm terrified of labour so I've got the feeling I might regret asking this

That when your waters go, they don’t just go and that’s it, mine went and then kept gushing with each contraction and I wasn’t expecting it at all!

 

[Rainbow1]

Currently now 2 days past my due date

Unsure how to act at this point even leaving the house feel a bit nervous Incase it’s ‘time’ but after 3 days solid I need some fresh air!

 

[jazyblu]

Just had my 12 week scan booked for the 6th Jan, on the countdown now!!

 

[Rainbow1]

Congratulations!! Amazing. Are you both happy and healthy? Does she have a name? (Don’t worry if you don’t want to share!)

Both happy and healthy!

I’ve been pleasantly surprised by ‘downstairs’ after hasn’t been too painful at all- hope it continues fingers crossed

Can’t decide on name yet!

Finding breastfeeding tricky so far so having a stay in hospital til we feel more comfortable

Happy new year everyone thank you for all your well wishes

 

[WhatABore]

Well I just went for a scan, saw a heartbeat but they said its measuring as 6 weeks not 7 and also apparently its lower down in the uterus than they expect
I'm not really sure what that means so am now feeling a bit flat. They have advised I have another scan in a weeks time

I had exactly the same with my second pregnancy as I had an early scan for bleeding at 6 and a half weeks and it measured 5.
That baby is now a 3 year old

 

[Definitelyme]

That's very normal!
The worst thing is being bursting for a pee, sitting down ready to burst and it either takes forever or comes out as the tiniest trickle

This is my most hated thing about pregnancy!! The 7 months of sickness, the hateful sciatica meaning I can barely move, they are awful. But the tiny trickle pee annoys the hell out of me!! My favourite thing after birth is going for a nice long, proper, wee

 

[Heartbeats]

Thinking about giving birth to a big baby is terrifying to me fair play to anyone that’s done it. I’m hoping mine is no bigger than 7lb honestly

My foo foo hurts just reading all these posts about big babies.

 

[Jg182]

Had my 12 week scan today. Measuring 13 weeks. Been told baby has too much fluid at back of neck measuring 5.3mm. Got to wait on blood test results then keep testing for chromosome issues if comes back high chance. Said other issues could include heart defects.
I’m devastated. I can’t find any postive stories online.

 

[Definitelyme]

I take a million tests I’m 24 weeks and sometimes still test for fun! I buy lots of internet cheapies though, and then get loads when I buy my ovulation tests too so seems a shame to waste them

I really hope other people experience this or I may die of embarrassment sharing it...

Does anyone else get a really sweaty crotch/groin during pregnancy? I find it just so unpleasant I feel like I’m always sticky and sweaty ‘down there’, and my underwear is always damp too. And I definitely haven’t peed myself this is in every pregnancy, and it’s one of the things that annoys me most. But I’ve never heard anyone else mention it!

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Major struggling with morning sickness today up until last night it was just nausea but now I can't keep down water I've had to get a line for work as I've already self certified for a week and they are not best pleased there's not really much point to this post other than to vent

 

[moimoi]

Thanks for starting the thread!

I'm 18 weeks and 4 days, my first one and terrified as I have no idea what to do. It was really an emotional time when I found out as it was unplanned and I really wasn't sure what I was going to do. I even got to the point of going to Marie Stopes and getting the pills, they were actually lovely and I had a few counselling sessions with them, they weren't pushy at all. I still feel completely terrible about it though and worried I'm gonna get some kind of bad karma for it!

Also needing to move out of our current place by end of February, want more space for the baby and move out of the city to save money and a bit safer. Moving is stressful for anyone but trying to find a place with a baby on the way and during these times with restricted viewings is a nightmare.

 

[Vivian124]

I had ectopic before so when pregnant again you automatically get early scans to rule out ectopic repeat. That little yoke sac is the best thing ever. 2 wks later there was a little blob on screen and i bawled my eyes out with happiness

 

[elloelloello]

Totally forgot how much your emotions can make you dislike your partner so much in pregnancy I had this last time and if he breaths or coughs in the wrong way I’m like a bat out of hell. Anyone else?

 

[SunshineDreamer]

I hate ‘breast is best’. No. Fed is best. My friend felt so much pressure to breast feed that her son started to lose weight. The moment he was put on formula he gained weight like anything. I’m a firm believer in doing what is right for you and your baby because in 18 years, no child is going to give a damn about how they were fed as an infant.

 

[Tui]

I’m 26 weeks, second pregnancy but will be my first child after a loss this year. First trimester was hard as so exhausted and nauseous plus so anxious for the pregnancy. Second trimester has luckily been pretty uneventful apart from being a bit out of puff. So jealous of women who keep exercising til the end, I’m not the fittest anyway but wasn’t too bad but literally by 6 weeks was breathless on minimal exertion and now my legs feel dead whenever I have to climb some stairs so bit concerned third trimester is going to be pretty exhausting again.

For those who feel a bit clueless and worried, I read the Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill which was a really nice summary of all birth types and how to view them positively and not be scared. I’m also doing the Positive Birth Company digital pack which teaches you hypnobirthing techniques to feel in control of labour as I’m a control freak doctor who has never been admitted to hospital before

I’m now reading the Positive Breastfeeding Book as that’s the thing I’m finding most daunting, if it’s not easy peasy it sounds like it can get very complicated with pumping, combi feeding etc etc!

 

[Rainbow1]

Ahh so pleased to find this thread!

I’m 38 weeks so not long to go

as with other posters feel like I haven’t had much midwife interaction, didn’t have urine checked til week 32! As my previous appointment I had, the surgery had changed the rules on using the toilets so was unable to go, they started giving out pots to take home after that

Hospital letters I had stated you needed to pay for scan photos but don’t put cost on letter, I took money just Incase at my 12 week scan but was so nervous I forgot all about it, however all photos I’ve got at my scans have been free! I had extra scans up until week 26 too as my cervix was measuring shorter than average and at each appointment they did a growth scan on baby too and spent time trying to get good photos which I thought was nice

This is my first baby and so many things have surprised me so far but I think main one is that you only get 2 ‘official’ scans, I suppose it’s something I’ve never gave any thought to previously but I just presumed they would be a regular thing all through pregnancy!

 

[Tui]

I’m only 29 weeks but I really want to go naturally as well I really don’t want a induction. I didn’t know you could refuse. How long can you refuse for?

You can refuse as long as you like, it’s your body. I think risk of stillbirth goes up past 42 weeks but worth discussing the ins and outs with your midwife if it did come to potentially being induced

 

[MrsJones83]

Also, although being in hospital can sound a bit daunting if you have to stay in, appreciate the time to put your feet up and just be with your baby. As soon as you’re home again, it’s so easy to get caught up with all the household stuff again.

 

[Upintheair83]

I’m 10 weeks- First ever pregnancy-completely clueless! I’m 37 and have a slight heart problem
Iv seen the midwife but I was in such a state of shock that half of the things she said feels like a blur.
She gave me a password to access my pregnancy notes but I have no idea how to access them. She left 3 phone numbers but I can’t ring them until I’m 16 weeks!
I’m having my scan on the 23rd which is causing me anxiety as it’s so close to Christmas and I’m already prepared for the worst.
I’m extra anxious because Iv had to come off some tablets for my heart (my gp advised this) but Iv been feeling awful without them- high pulse, palpitations, out of breath, high blood pressure.And I’m still waiting to be referred to my cardiologist. The midwife said to expect a letter that week- but it’s been 3 weeks now.
I have no idea about what happens during the birth- ie- who is around you. I always naively assumed It was the midwife that was assigned to you but after reading a little about pregnancy that doesn’t seem the case. I’m totally blind in this!
The midwife was lovely but she said she’s leaving in March after 45 years and that upsets me because I feel il have to bond with someone else which is already making me panic.
I had a letter to see the obstetrician in January but I have no idea what that is for! And my mum keeps offering to pay private to see one of my choice but I have no clue on how to go about this. Has anyone any knowledge of this?
I’m so so clueless and really I have no idea how any of this goes. After watching the news about the maternity services yday I was in a sort of daze, just feeling really scared and anxious about the whole pregnancy and i just feel so overwhelmed: there seems to be so much to the whole process.
I feel stupid admitting how absolutely clueless I am on all of this but I guess if I speak up then maybe other people will admit they felt this way and I would feel less of an idiot.
But I feel really scared and alone in it all because there doesn’t seem to be any sort of contact with anyone until I’m 16 weeks and I suppose it feels a long and lonely road when you don’t know what to expect.
Sorry for offloading- I really am so happy I’m pregnant but I never ever thought I’d feel so scared about it.

Thanks for starting this thread xx

 

[Pink Sparkle]

Thank you so much everyone! We have the midwife call on Thursday so will double check partners can’t come. If he can’t then we will definitely go ahead with this. I’ve previously had a loss so feel like I need him there either way! Its so nice to be able to talk to people about this! Wishing you all a healthy journey with your bumps / babies