I'd maybe discuss it with your midwife as it shouldn't be that painful.
As for the perineal massage, I did it with 1 out of 3 births and tore the worst
Who knows whether it would have been worse if I didn't? I don't know. Not that it gets much worse
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As for the perineal massage, I did it with 1 out of 3 births and tore the worst
Who knows whether it would have been worse if I didn't? I don't know. Not that it gets much worse
Yeah I did it and tore anyway... I can't say if it helps or not.I'd maybe discuss it with your midwife as it shouldn't be that painful.
As for the perineal massage, I did it with 1 out of 3 births and tore the worst
Who knows whether it would have been worse if I didn't? I don't know. Not that it gets much worse
Maybe some reflexology might help with any tension in your body @Rdogk24? We can be carrying a lot without even noticing!
I tried pereneal massage once or twice and absolutely hated it so haven’t tried again .
Had my last growth scan today and the consultant wants me to be induced at 39 weeks. I’m not against him coming early at all but I have said from the start I don’t want an induction.Everything surrounding an induction freaks me out and I know they often lead To further intervention and emergency sections. I said I’d rather a planned section of anything and she was very dismissive and sent me home with an information booklet about inductions. She also told me to go away do an hour of continuous walking everyday to get encourage him to engage despite the fact I had just explained I’m struggling to walk for long periods of time due to sciatica and Spd. I have EDS which is the whole reason I’m consultant lead and she just doesn’t seem to understand I’m not being lazy I’m in pain! I was a very active person pre pregnant it’s not like I can’t be ducked. I’m really upset and frustrated, I just don’t feel listened to. I’m seeing the midwife next week so will be stressing to her how much I don’t want an induction.
Sorry for the long post, I’ve been alone all day and had a lot to unpack 🥲
.Had my last growth scan today and the consultant wants me to be induced at 39 weeks. I’m not against him coming early at all but I have said from the start I don’t want an induction.Everything surrounding an induction freaks me out and I know they often lead To further intervention and emergency sections. I said I’d rather a planned section of anything and she was very dismissive and sent me home with an information booklet about inductions. She also told me to go away do an hour of continuous walking everyday to get encourage him to engage despite the fact I had just explained I’m struggling to walk for long periods of time due to sciatica and Spd. I have EDS which is the whole reason I’m consultant lead and she just doesn’t seem to understand I’m not being lazy I’m in pain! I was a very active person pre pregnant it’s not like I can’t be ducked. I’m really upset and frustrated, I just don’t feel listened to. I’m seeing the midwife next week so will be stressing to her how much I don’t want an induction.
Sorry for the long post, I’ve been alone all day and had a lot to unpack 🥲
This is really horrible I’m sorry she’s behaving that way and being so dismissive.I tried pereneal massage once or twice and absolutely hated it so haven’t tried again
Had my last growth scan today and the consultant wants me to be induced at 39 weeks. I’m not against him coming early at all but I have said from the start I don’t want an induction.Everything surrounding an induction freaks me out and I know they often lead To further intervention and emergency sections. I said I’d rather a planned section of anything and she was very dismissive and sent me home with an information booklet about inductions. She also told me to go away do an hour of continuous walking everyday to get encourage him to engage despite the fact I had just explained I’m struggling to walk for long periods of time due to sciatica and Spd. I have EDS which is the whole reason I’m consultant lead and she just doesn’t seem to understand I’m not being lazy I’m in pain! I was a very active person pre pregnant it’s not like I can’t be ducked. I’m really upset and frustrated, I just don’t feel listened to. I’m seeing the midwife next week so will be stressing to her how much I don’t want an induction.
Sorry for the long post, I’ve been alone all day and had a lot to unpack 🥲
Definitely speak to your midwife about it, I hate it when women are made out to be doing something wrong / lacking in exercise/nutrition when there are genuine reasons for it!
I’m with you on the induction, I hate the idea of it & with regular heart palpitations throughout pregnancy think my body would really struggle to cope.
Could it be worth emailing your midwife and stating all of this now? Only as I know it eats away at me if I have to wait! At least then it’s out there, she knows you’re serious & want to discuss it and may even call you sooner to discuss your worries and wishes x
ETA- why does she want you to be induced if you don’t mind me asking? Don’t have to answer if you don’t want to I’m just curious!
I wanted a csection this time around after a 3c tear and I had to fight it.I tried pereneal massage once or twice and absolutely hated it so haven’t tried again
Had my last growth scan today and the consultant wants me to be induced at 39 weeks. I’m not against him coming early at all but I have said from the start I don’t want an induction.Everything surrounding an induction freaks me out and I know they often lead To further intervention and emergency sections. I said I’d rather a planned section of anything and she was very dismissive and sent me home with an information booklet about inductions. She also told me to go away do an hour of continuous walking everyday to get encourage him to engage despite the fact I had just explained I’m struggling to walk for long periods of time due to sciatica and Spd. I have EDS which is the whole reason I’m consultant lead and she just doesn’t seem to understand I’m not being lazy I’m in pain! I was a very active person pre pregnant it’s not like I can’t be ducked. I’m really upset and frustrated, I just don’t feel listened to. I’m seeing the midwife next week so will be stressing to her how much I don’t want an induction.
Sorry for the long post, I’ve been alone all day and had a lot to unpack 🥲
They have to agree to it if that's what you'd prefer but you have to be willing to stand your ground.
My consultant basically said no and passed me on to a second consultant for a second opinion who was also going to say no and pass me to a 3rd opinion but I just couldn't fight it anymore.
I'd tell your consultant that you want a csection.
Read up on all the pros and cons and make them aware you've done your research and they have to find someone that will agree.
Unfortunatley when you're consultant led, your midwife doesn't get a say.
I've had 3 inductions now however, and they've all gone well. And I'd gladly have another one if needed
Thank you! I don’t have an email address for my midwife unfortunately but I think I’ll call tomorrow rather than leave it. The reason they want to induce is because he’s measuring quite big and I’m quite small and have EDS so the bigger he is the more chance of complications with a vaginal birth. The thing is I’ve heard sooooo many people tell me the scans and measurements weren’t accurate for them so I’m reluctant to go through an induction I don’t want to find out he’s actually not even that big and I’ve done it for no reason. Just so torn on what to do.
I had my early scan today and I’m very confused.
They thought I was six weeks but they also said looking at my womb, they can see a sac there but it’s too early to tell if it will become a pregnancy. They did say my womb lining is thickening which is a good sign. My last period was Feb 8th. I got two positives on March 8. One was a clear blue digital. Even though I’m bleeding I’m still testing positive. They can’t explain why I’m bleeding nor can they say it looks like a miscarriage. They did some blood work and they said I’ll know more In 24 hours.
They thought I was six weeks but they also said looking at my womb, they can see a sac there but it’s too early to tell if it will become a pregnancy. They did say my womb lining is thickening which is a good sign. My last period was Feb 8th. I got two positives on March 8. One was a clear blue digital. Even though I’m bleeding I’m still testing positive. They can’t explain why I’m bleeding nor can they say it looks like a miscarriage. They did some blood work and they said I’ll know more In 24 hours.
A pregnancy test won't go negative for weeks if it is a miscarriage. My test was positive for 6 weeks after my miscarriage.
When I went for an early scan, when I thought I was 6+4, I was put back to 5+2 and couldn't see a heartbeat so I had to go back a week later. I was still measuring just over a week behind based on period dates but when I got to my 12 week scan, I was only put back 3 days
Yes I’ve heard that. But right now they can’t even say it’s that. It’s just there’s a sac in the womb, it could develop into a baby we don’t know, the womb is thickening, we can’t tell you what is happening. But deep down I know it’s not good news is it? It can’t be.
That sounds like a good idea! Oh I see, that seems to be quite common, so hard when it’s all unknown. I hope you can get some help from your midwife & fingers crossed he can make his own way out before then
Of course
I always convince myself of the worst because in my head then, anything that isn't the worst, is positive.
I don't want to give false hope at all but at the same time, if you're put back like I was, a sac is all that can be seen around this time.
Fingers crossed you'll get some answers after your blood test!
I'm sorry it wasn't more conclusive
If they've taken blood they will be able to see how much of the pregnancy hormone is in your system which can help give an indicator of how far along you are - if they repeat it, it should be doubling around every 48 hours in early pregnancy. Have they offered you a repeat scan in a week or two? If they could only see a sac it means the pregnancy is at around 5ish weeks. Once it gets to around 6 weeks a fetal pole starts to grow and grows about 1mm every day xYeah they said they will send it off to the early pregnancy unit and I should hear back tomorrow. (We are getting to be on first name terms)I'm sorry it wasn't more conclusive
The midwife said it’s likely that they will want a repeat test of blood work to check that and it could be they want a scan after that or ten days after that. I guess it’s just the waiting game.
Thank you for that. That’s helpful.
So sorry this is happening to you, I went through a similar thing… it did not end out well for that pregnancy so will put in spoilers what happened
I was woken up one night from the most intense pain I’d ever felt, I felt sick and faint so we went to the ED. I was about 5.5 weeks at that point, and had had 2 sets of bloods done but didn’t have the results for the 2nd. They said st the ED my hcg had only risen by about 50% so to expect the worst but they booked me in for a scan to rule out ectopic. Like you, they could see a sac but nothing else. So I had to go back after 2 weeks to see if anything had progressed. Weirdly in that time, my hcg started doubling as it should and I had no other pains (nor did I have bleeding). Unfortunately the next scan showed no progression and they made me wait a further 2 weeks just to be sure and it was confirmed then at 9 weeks that I had had a missed miscarriage (sometimes called a blighted ovum). Because my body didn’t realise that I wasn’t carrying a baby, it continued on thinking it was pregnant.. so I ended up having to have a d+c. That whole 4 weeks though, my pregnancy tests and hcg levels were getting higher so as much as I really hope this isn’t the case for you, it’s just about waiting to see how things progress . I hope this isn’t too triggering and seeming negative but there are equally people on this thread who had similar experiences to you and ended up having a healthy pregnancy that time round too! Xxx
. I hope this isn’t too triggering and seeming negative but there are equally people on this thread who had similar experiences to you and ended up having a healthy pregnancy that time round too! XxxNo thank you very much for that. I don’t have a lot of hope. My cycle is very irregular but I don’t have a good feeling. I wish I did. This was our first pregnancy after trying for seven years. I feel heart broken.So sorry this is happening to you, I went through a similar thing… it did not end out well for that pregnancy so will put in spoilers what happened
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Sorry to hear you didn't get conclusive answers, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Hopefully it's just really early to be able to see anything yet. Good luck for the rest of your tests
Hopefully you will have some answers soon. It's horrible watching and waiting and all the uncertainty - I spent a lot of time in IVF clinics and the EPUs at hospital and it really is hard xxx
It really is. It’s like time has stood still. I just wish I knew for certain one way or another. This is killing me.
When I had an early scan they (politely) refused to scan me before 6 weeks and a day or two in case they couldn’t see anything. It might just be too early, people get put back and forward a few days all the time. I’m sorry you’re going through this- but hopefully you’ll get some answers soon.
Sorry you’ve had to deal with this today, I feel the same as you though my circumstances are slightly different. I’ve also said no to be induced until at least my due date and then wanted to reevaluate at that stage. I was booked for one yesterday but rang and said I wasn’t going in (39+3 today for reference). Im consultant led due to GD but sugars are under control. Im now booked in on Sunday which is my due date. I just really want him to come in his own time and at least get to 40+5 before being induced if he hasn’t come by then, I’ve had no signs or twinges yet. Felt really unheard today and cried after the call with the consultant. I’ve rang my midwife to see if I can be booked in for a sweep tomorrow to see if that gets anything going. I’m feeling like no one is listening to me and everyone I speak to just seems to be really aggy or dismissive of me and my feelings and knowing my own body.
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I said how I wasn’t ready for the induction yet as I’ve had no signs or anything from my body indicating that baby is ready to come out and she dismissed it in a way that made it sound like because of the GD I won’t get any signs, just because I have GD doesn’t mean my body is incapable of going into Labour without intervention
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