My best advice re hospital bag is pack it much earlier than you think! I planned to do mine the weekend after 36 weeks, thinking I had 4 more weeks….nope!! Was kicking myself when I went 4 weeks early and had to frantically pack my bag.
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Please can someone advise why you’re not supposed to start collecting colostrum until 36 weeks? I’m 34 weeks and have started leaking and it feels awfully wasteful. Can’t seem to see anywhere why I shouldn’t, just that I shouldn’t
Does anyone feel like they’ve ate quite unhealthy in their pregnancy and feel a bit bad about it? I’m not crazy unhealthy I drink my fair share of water, don’t drink much caffeine I haven’t been eating takeaway every night but I have enjoyed sugar and chocolate maybe a bit too much 
Yes! I’ve had good days where I’ve eaten a tonne of fruit, veg, home cooked meals but I’ve probably had more bad days tbh. I normally eat keto/low carb though and I’ve been enjoying carbs and chocolate through this pregnancyDoes anyone feel like they’ve ate quite unhealthy in their pregnancy and feel a bit bad about it? I’m not crazy unhealthy I drink my fair share of water, don’t drink much caffeine I haven’t been eating takeaway every night but I have enjoyed sugar and chocolate maybe a bit too much
Nipple stimulation can cause early labour as it releases oxytocin, on top of that, it has been linked with possible hyperstimulation once actually in labour
Did this with my first. Didn't tell anyone except my partner obviously. We didn't tell anyone until we got home 2 days after he was born, after being admitted for 3 days to be induced. Oh it was absolutely wonderful having that time alone in our bubble.
We had our second recently and we had to have our little lad minded as I was admitted a few days before with complications. Grandparents, parents and siblings all knew and it was torture. Constant messages / calls, despite asking them to leave us alone. His dad even called the hospital asking for an update! We facetimed once we were 'cleaned up' and settled a few hours post labour and the grief we got for not immediately updating everyone was ridiculous. My MIL actually scolded us 'you had the baby and have left me here all afternoon worrying soft'. Like we were just sat around sipping tea
If we have a third, I don't know how logistically we will do it but we will be doing it the first way again!!
We had our second recently and we had to have our little lad minded as I was admitted a few days before with complications. Grandparents, parents and siblings all knew and it was torture. Constant messages / calls, despite asking them to leave us alone. His dad even called the hospital asking for an update! We facetimed once we were 'cleaned up' and settled a few hours post labour and the grief we got for not immediately updating everyone was ridiculous. My MIL actually scolded us 'you had the baby and have left me here all afternoon worrying soft'. Like we were just sat around sipping tea
If we have a third, I don't know how logistically we will do it but we will be doing it the first way again!!
I really want to be able to go into labour and have my baby without anyone (other than my partner, obvs) knowing. I just don’t want the added stress of having to keep people updated, and them inviting themselves round straight away. I’d love to be able to have the baby, get home and spend the first 24 hours in our little bubble, and then tell people.
obviously if I go way overdue and have to be induced we won’t be able to get away with this. Or if I’m early and go into labour at work/when I should still be working
Was that when they started? Mine is similar probably 34wks but they seem nearly daily now (36+2). Obviously I googled & saw 1 out of about 10 things that said it’s bad
everything else said normal. I’ll ask the midwife on ThursdayMeDoes anyone feel like they’ve ate quite unhealthy in their pregnancy and feel a bit bad about it? I’m not crazy unhealthy I drink my fair share of water, don’t drink much caffeine I haven’t been eating takeaway every night but I have enjoyed sugar and chocolate maybe a bit too much
before I got pregnant I was on a 1400 calorie a day diet, ate really well and now I probs eat three times that lol. It’s been really hard because I’ve been STARVING during pregnancy and too wiped out to make a lot of meals from scratch etc. So chicken and chips followed by brownies it is 
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39+6 here (Jesus Christ as if!) and the last week she’s had them twice!
Thanks for the advice about colostrum harvesting. I don’t have any of the syringes yet as waiting for my midwife to give them at my 36 week appointment but was wondering whether to buy any on amazon for the meantime - don’t think I’ll bother yet as I really don’t want to bring in early labour
Also, anyone else in a nightly ritual of their body waking up at 1-2am in a hot sweat with acid reflux? Has happened the last three nights in a row, currently sat naked in front of the fan with a pack of rennie
Also, anyone else in a nightly ritual of their body waking up at 1-2am in a hot sweat with acid reflux? Has happened the last three nights in a row, currently sat naked in front of the fan with a pack of rennie
RE: telling people you're in labour, I'm lucky that my mum and MIL are not the type to interfere at all in our lives (may change when we actually go into labour) but my nan is another story 
I'm actually dreading telling her I'm pregnant at all, but we live in a small town so I can't tell anyone else until I've told her because she'll get to know on the grapevine she is so over the top and overbearing. I dread to think what my mother had to put up with when she was pregnant.
I'm actually dreading telling her I'm pregnant at all, but we live in a small town so I can't tell anyone else until I've told her because she'll get to know on the grapevine she is so over the top and overbearing. I dread to think what my mother had to put up with when she was pregnant.It's not a bad thing. Google will say everything is a bad thing if you look enough.Was that when they started? Mine is similar probably 34wks but they seem nearly daily now (36+2). Obviously I googled & saw 1 out of about 10 things that said it’s bad
I'd get them several times a day from about 30 weeks at least. Been the same with evsry pregnancy.
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As for telling people, I must have the unpopular opinion because I've never cared who's known
This time and last time, my sister had the kids so had to know anyway. And my Mum. I presume she'd have told my Aunt too and probably anyone else that would listen to her
I've never minded my MIL being told either as its just as much her grandchild as my Mums. And if anything went wrong, I'd want my partner to have the support of his Mum.
If anyone else was going to be sending messages then I'd just mute their chats or ignore them and my partner would just update my mum and his Mum periodically.
Anyone else if they did message, which i dont think they did, but would have just been ignored until we wanted to reply.
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Yup. Normally I am dairy free to manage my pcos symptoms but I eat dairy when pregnant and breastfeeding and let's just say I've taken advantage of that a bit too much. So many cakes and treats. I am a bit worried about how much weight I've put in really but now at nearly 30 weeks bad heartburn has been kicking in and I'm also getting so full easily, so I'm trying to eat a bit healthier. My maternity pyjamas are getting snugger and snugger around my thighs. It's also not been helped by my lack of activity, I get so exhausted, achey and wiped out for days after I do even a bit of walking so I've dialled back on a lot of the walking I used to do.Does anyone feel like they’ve ate quite unhealthy in their pregnancy and feel a bit bad about it? I’m not crazy unhealthy I drink my fair share of water, don’t drink much caffeine I haven’t been eating takeaway every night but I have enjoyed sugar and chocolate maybe a bit too much
I probably should have followed this advice but I’m 39 weeks and booked in for a C-section in 2 days
I had the bulk of it packed but Iv been faffing around with it sinceYou’ll be fine then! I went for an appointment at 36 weeks and they decided then to induce me ASAP and I had to persuade them to let me go home, pack my bag, deal with work, get my husband home, and go back 12 hours later. Good Luck!!I probably should have followed this advice but I’m 39 weeks and booked in for a C-section in 2 days
Hope this isn’t tmi guys but I need advice on this. Midwife suggested to me to start doing perineal massage but I honestly can’t because it really really hurts to even try. Sex has been completely off the table for the whole pregnancy, haven’t had a sex drive for basically 9 months. If I can’t even put a finger there without wincing in pain how am I going to be able to push a baby out in a few weeks 🫣🫣🫣
I found out three weeks ago that im pregnant and ive put off dealing with it until now. i honestly have no clue about anything to do with pregnancy or babies or children really. im 11 weeks gone so its too late for any other option where im from and other options arent accessible for women in the north of ireland regardless. my situation isnt the best, im much younger than i planned to be to have a baby, my relationship isnt stable, im not financially stable or ready for this in any way and i have little to no support. I hadnt even fully decided whether i was going to have kids some day. I havent even told the babys father as I know he will absolutely freak. I guess im just writing here to ask if anyone was in my situation before? Reading the previous threads it seems most of you planned your pregnancies which is amazing, im just honestly absolutely freaking out and could do with some early on advice.
Have you discussed the tightness and discomfort with your midwife? I'd recommend speaking to her about it in case she can suggest alternative exercises/massages to help make things more comfortable or muscle relaxant medication to help, and so your birth plan can be updated accordingly
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Sorry that things are so stressful right now - are there any confidential phonelines in Northern Ireland that you could google for advice/support about what you're going through and what your options are? Or do you have a family member/friend that you trust enough to share this with so they can help you? I've seen other people talk about getting pregnant by accident when they were quite young and there's no doubt that it can be hard, but the good thing is that you've got a lot of time to mentally prepare and to make sure you've got suitable accommodation and know your options financially. No matter what happens you won't have to deal with any of it alone - there will always be online resources (like us!) that you can use, or local support services to get advice from
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