Pregnancy #47

[Nosysamsie]

Exactly! I can only assume that they were similarly pressured/belittled when they had their babies and have either forgotten how awful it felt, or normalised it as 'something that families that care should do' without considering how it makes us feel. I don't know if others are in a similar position but my in laws are retired but are very active for their age and don't have much to fill their time, and my MIL is prone to obsessing about things because she has so little else going on in her life, so I think we've become their latest 'project' and something for them to focus their energy on. And because they have too much time on their hands they forget what it's like to work full time, and how tiring it is to be pregnant, and they seem to have forgotten that I also struggle with energy because of my MS, so they're frustrated that we're not getting everything done immediately and that things still aren't finished yet.

I'm sad so many of us are going through the same, but glad we've got a supportive space to rant about it!

Omg it's like you're writing my story! My in laws are both retired. I work full time night shifts (now on maternity leave but they're unaware of this) and my hubby is also full time.
I've been trying to go with the flow, and only getting stressed when they've been working on something, like the nursery, and even after a full day it didn't look any different.
My in laws have 2 grandchildren already, who they adore, but haven't been very involved for whatever reason, so I've started to feel like they're using my baby as their second chance at it all.

Like you say it's awful to see folk going through the same, but equally it is so nice to have somewhere to air our grievances and feel supported.

 

[WotsitG1]

Just came on to tattle after once again repacking my hospital bag and saw your post relatable.

I think Iv finally sorted babies bag…. Though it honestly looks like Iv packed for a weeks holiday… I feel like Iv stuck to the list with my bits but there’s just so much of it.

Am I being vain in taking alittle bit of make up, just a powder foundation and mascara….. I look like a zombie without anything

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

Omg it's like you're writing my story! My in laws are both retired. I work full time night shifts (now on maternity leave but they're unaware of this) and my hubby is also full time.
I've been trying to go with the flow, and only getting stressed when they've been working on something, like the nursery, and even after a full day it didn't look any different.
My in laws have 2 grandchildren already, who they adore, but haven't been very involved for whatever reason, so I've started to feel like they're using my baby as their second chance at it all.

Like you say it's awful to see folk going through the same, but equally it is so nice to have somewhere to air our grievances and feel supported.

Same! We were so grateful that they offered to do our nursery but after the first day nothing looked any different and it took two weekends in the end, during which time my MIL kept bombarding me with questions about everything even though I told her how tired I was and that I was trying to rest quietly! I think my in laws are extra tricky because it's their first grandchild and because they moved nearly a 3 hour drive away a couple of years ago, so they keep hassling us for dates that they can come down to visit and do stuff for us which is kind in theory, but in practice it's stressful and puts a huge amount of pressure on us because when they're here they want to spend hours here (luckily they stay with other family!)

I honestly am really grateful at everything they're doing for us, I just wish it could be done in a less disruptive way and without judgemental attitudes thrown in!

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Maybe a question for the second time mums and so on…
Where I live, it’s almost winter and my house is freezing I just checked where the babies room is and it’s 13.9 degrees in there. We don’t have central heating cos NZ is backwards and no houses have it, and the house is single glazed too. How did/do you make sure baby is at the right temperature?! We have a heat pump but that’s downstairs and doesn’t tend to reach into the bedrooms so they often stay cold. Any advice welcomed!!

 

[WhatABore]

Maybe a question for the second time mums and so on…
Where I live, it’s almost winter and my house is freezing I just checked where the babies room is and it’s 13.9 degrees in there. We don’t have central heating cos NZ is backwards and no houses have it, and the house is single glazed too. How did/do you make sure baby is at the right temperature?! We have a heat pump but that’s downstairs and doesn’t tend to reach into the bedrooms so they often stay cold. Any advice welcomed!!

Our youngests bedroom doesn't have a radiator, so gets down to about 14 degrees in winter.
We bought an oil radiator heater for the bedroom.
Don't know if that's an option?

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Our youngests bedroom doesn't have a radiator, so gets down to about 14 degrees in winter.
We bought an oil radiator heater for the bedroom.
Don't know if that's an option?

Sorry for the stupid question but do you keep it on all night then?

 

[fudgebox]

Hi everyone can I join? Just found out I’m pregnant I did early detection tests so I’m only 3 weeks 1 day apparently

 

[Chocolatelover123]

Hi guys.. sorry brain dump in coming..
I’m 23 weeks today and this is my first pregnancy. I have been told that I have an anterior placenta. My only concern is that I am still not feeling any movements. I saw my midwife a fortnight ago and we have had multiple scans over the last couple of weeks and all looked well (The scans weren’t for any bad reasons they were just offered to us to do with our location). But the lack of feeling any movements is beginning to worry me a wee bit. Does anyone have any advice? I have an appointment to see my midwife on Monday so do I just hang on and speak to her about it then or is it worth phoning?

I don’t feel anything has changed or feels difference between since my scan last Wednesday. I'm just probably overthinking but also it’s beginning to bother me!

I’ve mentioned my worries to my husband, my mum and a couple of friends. All have just said not to worry which never in the history of the world made anyone feel better

Hey I have anterior placenta and didn’t feel her move till later on and then it was quite hit and miss. As others have said easier said than done but try not to worry it just comes later but 33 weeks now and I can 100% feel her and see movement from the outside it just takes a little longer. I think I also had mistaken some of her movements for gas as well

 

[disillusionedbythegram]

Hi everyone can I join? Just found out I’m pregnant I did early detection tests so I’m only 3 weeks 1 day apparently

Oh wow so are you still 6 days away from getting your period?

 

[Naataaliiee]

Any advice (or tried and tested methods!) for getting baby head down? I’m nearly 36 weeks and he’s breech. Got a scan followed by an appointment next week to ‘discuss our options’ and I’d like a prove a point and have him head down by then. I do not want to feel forced into a section, or unnatural means of moving him! I’m determined to get my natural, relaxed water birth this time with as little medical intervention as possible!!

 

[fudgebox]

Oh wow so are you still 6 days away from getting your period?

Yep! I did two of the cheap strip tests yesterday and they both had a faint line, and then did another one this morning had a slightly darker line and then did a clear blue early digital test a couple hours ago and it said pregnant!

 

[MidnightAura]

Hi everyone can I join? Just found out I’m pregnant I did early detection tests so I’m only 3 weeks 1 day apparently

Congratulations!

 

[Tifastrife]

I think Iv finally sorted babies bag…. Though it honestly looks like Iv packed for a weeks holiday… I feel like Iv stuck to the list with my bits but there’s just so much of it.

Am I being vain in taking alittle bit of make up, just a powder foundation and mascara….. I look like a zombie without anything

I wouldn’t say you’re being vain! Anything to make us feel better after what we are about to go through lol. I bought a new cardigan and nice scrunchie for coming home and a bottle of my favourite shower gel from lush for the shower after

 

[Pontiac_Bandit]

Any advice (or tried and tested methods!) for getting baby head down? I’m nearly 36 weeks and he’s breech. Got a scan followed by an appointment next week to ‘discuss our options’ and I’d like a prove a point and have him head down by then. I do not want to feel forced into a section, or unnatural means of moving him! I’m determined to get my natural, relaxed water birth this time with as little medical intervention as possible!!

My midwife told me to look at the spinning babies website for exercises etc to do to help turn babies - I can't vouch for it as he turned himself before I had chance to look, but all the other advice she's given me has been great so it'd be worth a look

 

[Tifastrife]

Any advice (or tried and tested methods!) for getting baby head down? I’m nearly 36 weeks and he’s breech. Got a scan followed by an appointment next week to ‘discuss our options’ and I’d like a prove a point and have him head down by then. I do not want to feel forced into a section, or unnatural means of moving him! I’m determined to get my natural, relaxed water birth this time with as little medical intervention as possible!!

I bounced on my ball like crazy for a couple days and he turned head down

 

[WotsitG1]

I wouldn’t say you’re being vain! Anything to make us feel better after what we are about to go through lol. I bought a new cardigan and nice scrunchie for coming home and a bottle of my favourite shower gel from lush for the shower after

Thankyou!! Ohhh lovely idea about the shower gel…. Nice to have alittle treat!! Have to admit Iv booked a hair cut for Thursday just alittle last min treat and I’m telling myself it’s practical where my hairs so thick it’s so much more manageable thinned out… totally being practical

 

[Ro98]

Any advice (or tried and tested methods!) for getting baby head down? I’m nearly 36 weeks and he’s breech. Got a scan followed by an appointment next week to ‘discuss our options’ and I’d like a prove a point and have him head down by then. I do not want to feel forced into a section, or unnatural means of moving him! I’m determined to get my natural, relaxed water birth this time with as little medical intervention as possible!!

Mine was breech and I pretty much did lots of:
All 4’s hip rocking throughout the day & before bed, going upstairs on all 4’s, circular motions on the ball, making a ‘diamond’ shape with the pelvis whilst sat on the ball, figures of 8 on the ball, going up and downstairs sideways one foot at a time to open the pelvis up.
I noticed when he moved to head down as I could suddenly breathe properly again
Good luck! Hope it works for you

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Any advice (or tried and tested methods!) for getting baby head down? I’m nearly 36 weeks and he’s breech. Got a scan followed by an appointment next week to ‘discuss our options’ and I’d like a prove a point and have him head down by then. I do not want to feel forced into a section, or unnatural means of moving him! I’m determined to get my natural, relaxed water birth this time with as little medical intervention as possible!!

My baby was transverse at 35 weeks, I did the spinning babies inversions and he was head down by 36 weeks at my growth scan.

 

[Naataaliiee]

My midwife told me to look at the spinning babies website for exercises etc to do to help turn babies - I can't vouch for it as he turned himself before I had chance to look, but all the other advice she's given me has been great so it'd be worth a look

I bounced on my ball like crazy for a couple days and he turned head down

Mine was breech and I pretty much did lots of:
All 4’s hip rocking throughout the day & before bed, going upstairs on all 4’s, circular motions on the ball, making a ‘diamond’ shape with the pelvis whilst sat on the ball, figures of 8 on the ball, going up and downstairs sideways one foot at a time to open the pelvis up.
I noticed when he moved to head down as I could suddenly breathe properly again
Good luck! Hope it works for you

Thank you - I’m going to give this ALL a go! Got started on my ball already but will try anything! Hoping he suddenly turns before next week! Would love to be able to breathe again too, he’s right in and under my ribs

 

[WhatABore]

Sorry for the stupid question but do you keep it on all night then?

We do, yeah, well it has a temperature dial on it.
It's set to about 20 degrees and then it turns itself off