Pregnancy #4

[CrimeJunkie]

Congratulations on everything being good and wow on having a girl how wonderful! Don’t let her put a downer on things the man I had for my 12 week scan recently was so fucking moody too. He said do you have any questions so I asked him something and he said I’m only a sonographer I was in there maybe 5 minutes. It is horrible when they mean to you and you just be a lovely person because my partner would have probably lost it and gone and demanded it to be re scheduled. She sounds like a mean person some people I really don’t get x

Thank you! I'm so happy we managed to get the private scan. I left there feeling as happy as I expected to leave the first one My partner wanted to say something but didn't because he didn't want to make it worse. He's not usually one to bite his tongue so I was very surprised! Sounds like the sonographers we met are in the wrong job

That sounds absolutely awful! If just one or two of those things had happened I would maybe think she could have been having a bad day but the fact that she completely ruined it for you is terrible.

So glad you managed to get a private scan though and that it was the experience you wanted! Bad that you had to pay for that out of your own pocket because of her crap attitude though

Yeah definitely, had it just been the little rant at the beginning I would have been ok but wow the whole experience was terrible! My sister in law is a midwife at the same hospital and knew straight away who it was so she must be notorious for it. We put in a complaint and they've emailed back to say a member of management will investigate. Feel so sad that it could happen to other people who are just as excited as I was this morning!

 

[Nursty]

All this bottle and sterilising talk is making me feel like I know nothing! I'm planning on exclusively breastfeeding to start with although I know this may not always go to plan. Also thinking about pumps but that's another minefield as well, no idea what will work out best. I like the sound of the mam bottles that sterilise in the microwave though, very handy.

I thought after my 20 week scan last week I'd be shopping like mad but I just don't know where to really start! Definitely not buying pram or car seat until shops open so I can try them out. I guess starting with other biggish things like bedside crib, carriers etc may be the way forward? Any other tips on getting started?

I think when you have you first it is honestly just trial and error.
When our first was born, I remember my husband doing a mad dash out a few days later to buy all the things we hadn't really considered like a nappy bin for upstairs, a breastfeeding support pillow, breast pads.
I think if you just start with the basics like someone else has said with a list of what you will use every day, then once baby is here you work out what else you might need. We bought a Moses basket for downstairs and yet never used it because she hated it. We bought once of those fancy baby baths but it was an actual ball ache to use and we ended up with one of those sponge type things that go in the bath.
I'd say see if you can borrow a sling from a sling library before you commit to buying.
Basically, I would just go with the basics like car seat, buggy, crib and then all your clothes etc and then see if you feel you need the rest once baby is here.

 

[Bwacac]

We’ve almost finished our nursery, I’m 28 weeks pregnant. We did it because I like to use the room from Day one. We needed somewhere to store all the things we’ve bought for her so far otherwise it just becomes a dumping ground. I’ll get her dressed and changed in there during the day as that’s where all her stuff will be and she will also go into her cot for little periods if I’m upstairs getting ready or cleaning etc. It’s what I’ve done with all my children. Also my partner is self employed so will only have a week off when she’s born so time together as a family is very precious and the last thing I’d want him doing when she’s here is the DIY.

Oh that's good to know, I wasn't sure if it was only if you didn't earn a certain amount they would give you it, it does look quite good to be fair, think they come with clothes and everything which is pretty generous.



I got loads of stuff in the aldi baby week, mostly clothes and a wee sleeping bag but I was surprised at how good quality it was for the price!

The aldi nappies are the best I’ve ever used and as a mother of four already I’ve tried them all! My eldest is 25 and when she was born I was very old school and used terry towelling square nappies! I used to get some very strange looks when changing her considering I was only 18 as well, but I was so proud of myself using cloth nappies back then.

 

[Tui]

Oof had a bit of a down / hormonal weekend. Think the sickness returning has knocked me back a bit but also for some reason, Zoella’s announcement that she’s pregnant has cause me some aggro.

Firstly she’s able to know at 12 weeks that she’s having a girl. Now for this I can admit it’s pure jealousy. We’re finding out what we’re having on 23rd March and I’m just desperate to know at this point so I just got stroppy about that lol

Then in her thread everyone was saying how she’s had good timing cause her baby is due in September cause babies born in September do better in school. All I’ve ever heard when I tell people my baby is due august 30th is ‘oh you best hope baby is late, august babies don’t do well in school!’ And all this shit. It’s not like I can control when baby decides to arrive!

Also in her new video, Zoe is annoyingly sucking a sweet the whole time and food noises wind me up.Someone said it was for sickness, I said she could’ve managed without for the time she was filming that clip. And someone said you mustn’t know what it’s like to be pregnant and sick then!! Oooh the cheek. If only she knew.

so yeah I needed that rant. Basically I’m just a moany bitch but everything’s got to me this weekend!

August babies are awesome! I was born in the last week of August and it did me no harm. A girl I went to school with was 31st August and she’s now a solicitor. Ignore them!

 

[Lulu Goss]

My partner has started telling me not to stand too close to the microwave because of the baby

 

[Kitt]

I’ve had to undo my jeans because my tummy gets so big in the afternoons! How embarrassing. Luckily got a big jumper on so it covers it but my jeans are undone at work lol. Ordered maternity jeans earlier thank god lol

 

[Sw4]

I'm MONTHS away from packing my hospital bag but I've already thought about the snacks I will pack... priorities Pringles, Percy Pigs and Lucozade are top of the list!

 

[moimoi]

Struggling so much with work, unreasonable workloads, ton of last minute deadlines, understaffed, working with morons, crap boss who hasn’t acknowledged me since telling him I’m pregnant apart from having a go at me when I’m overwhelmed, and just a shit ton of stress.

I’ve cried hysterically every day for the last few days. I’m now 30 weeks, planning on working until 39 weeks as don’t want to use much maternity leave before baby is born.

Trying to put things in perspective, I work in media so it’s really not life or death, but good god you wouldn’t think so the way people react. Sorry just wanted a moan.

 

[Bwacac]

I’ve just had an online relaxation class via teams with my community midwife. It was so lovely to see other pregnant women and have a chat about how things are going. We had a chat about doing pelvic floor exercises, then just a general chat to find out how we all were, we then did the relaxation and breathing. Just before we finished we had a little quiz about our eating habits. The class is going to continue every Thursday until baby girl is here so I’m really excited for next week already! Makes you realise how we took things for granted pre covid. One of the girls on there is being induced on Monday and said she will pop on next week with her baby, the rest of us are due next month or May. I’m 29 weeks now and it really feels like the countdown is on

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

Christ these headaches are becoming a regular occurance so annoying! My MIL is having my son over for a sleepover on Saturday (childcare bubble) he's only stayed over twice before he's 16 months now but I am so excited for a lie in and a takeaway

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Who knows what will happen I think we should be realistic that it could all change @Hellofromtheotherside my theory on things now is I will see what it’s like when it happens because otherwise I get my hopes up which is far worse than being pleasantly surprised x

 

[Tui]

Right I need someone to talk me down

I'm 18+5 and I just don't feel pregnant. I thought I could feel her move last week but I've not had much this week. On top of that my RHR on fit bit has dropped slightly, it was sitting up at 77 and gone down to 74 the last 3 days. Which I know isn't massive but when I had a loss ( albeit much earlier....like 5 weeks) my RHR was the first thing I noticed dropping before it happened.

Am I just being stupid? I still have symptoms sore head/sickness/sore nipples.

I'm probably just majorly over reacting but I'm just so worried somethings gone wrong. On top of that I don't have a designated midwife (as mine left) yet so I don't don't know who to call/what would I even say?!

I’m not a specialist in obstetrics but am a medic and I wouldn’t be worried at all about a resting HR changing by 4 bpm. I wouldn’t even notice that as being remarkable or significant in any way at all if I saw that on a patients obs chart - hopefully that reassures you!!

I found in the gap between 12 and 20 week scans I didn’t feel pregnant. My morning sickness cleared up and I felt pretty great, which made me uneasy (also had a previous loss at 7 weeks). Once i had the 20 week scan, started to feel movements and started to get a bump things gradually felt more real.

 

[WhatABore]

I’ve had to undo my jeans because my tummy gets so big in the afternoons! How embarrassing. Luckily got a big jumper on so it covers it but my jeans are undone at work lol. Ordered maternity jeans earlier thank god lol

I used a hair bobble for the button on my jeans in the early days

 

[Kitt]

@Lollipop19 @Easilyannoyed Thanks both, I do rationally know everything you said, I don’t care when baby comes I just want them healthy and happy. It’s just annoying to tell people your due date and there’s no nice comment, they just instantly go to saying something negative. But I guess that’s the trouble with being pregnant, people just comment and don’t think about what they’re saying.

 

[Definitelyme]

I had an epidural with my second. And I was so against having one.
It still gets to me a bit now that I gave in.
And think people will see me as a failure.
The main reason I actually gave in wasn't even the pain, but the guy offering the epidural came in every 20 minutes to ask if I was sure I didn't want one.
In the end, I got that fed up of him coming and asking me, mid contraction that I just said yes.

My partner counted at the time and he came in 14 times to ask altogether. Every 15-20 minutes.

Was he getting paid commission?! Don’t you dare feel like a failure, or think anyone would see you that way. If they do, they are an absolute jackass. There are no prizes for childbirth, and every labour is different.

 

[Kitt]

Ok I won’t be reading about that but thank you for telling me. I see so many things online that are negative and someone I know infact more than one have had terrible experiences so now I am trying to block it out x

Just wanted to say it’s not really intended to be ‘negative horror story’ type that women share to sensationalise birth etc. It’s just various stories from his diaries that he wrote during his time as a junior doctor. A lot of them are very very funny. The book just highlights how hard and ridiculous it is being a doctor due to the hours you work and the difficulty of what happens in a hospital but also the stupidity of the public. Towards the end he knows he’s going to leave being a doctor because of the long hours etc but the final story is just something really really difficult that happened that I think was the final straw.

It is worth a read when not pregnant though! Just a bit too upsetting if pregnant. But very interesting insight on the NHS and what doctors are dealing with.

 

[Bwacac]

Hey all, been having on off brown bleeding last few days but been feeling, or been trying to feel, okay about it as I had it last week then baby was fine on scan. Just went to the toilet and had red blood instead of brown. It’s knocked me again. EPU told me to call if brown turned to red and so I did and they’re going to try to get me a scan tomorrow.

Feel so stupid with needing these constant scans. This is so stressful

Don’t ever feel silly for asking for a scan. Bleeding in pregnancy is a real worry even if things are still ok. By the time my 12 week scan came around I had already had 5 scans due to bleeding. One of those scans was the day before my actual booked 12 weeks scan as I just couldn’t wait the extra day to make sure all was well. I’m now almost 27 weeks pregnant and every single time I use the toilet I still check the paper for blood. I think any woman who has had bleeding in pregnancy will agree that they do the same. I hope all turns out well for you tomorrow. Xx

 

[Lollipop19]

Am sure someone else on here had theirs on a Sunday night! V strange time but at least they’re getting you booked in

I had mine booked for a Sunday before Christmas at a local surgery. Midwife called 2 hours early and said 'change of plan. I'll be at your house in 15 minutes.' I hadn't showered, had all my Christmas pressies everywhere that I was wrapping and hadn't hoovered the floor all weekend. 5 minutes later she turned up and I had a very high pulse and blood pressure from the rushing around trying to get a bra on and looking half presentable! Cringed the whole way through as she sat on the unhoovered carpet doing all my tests. Was the weirdest experience so far!!

 

[WhatABore]

This is so random but has any one had or know anyone that their gender scan has been wrong? I had one at 16
Weeks am 20 weeks on Sunday and got my scan then so I’m intrigued to see if it’s still a boy . I had my girl 4 years ago and they were right both times then but I’ve seen online sometimes they are wrong. Just wondered if anyone had a personal experience


Omg same I had it with last pregnancy too. So heavy all the time even weeing hurts

Yess. My first I was told at my 20 week scan, it was a girl. Told at every single growth scan its a girl until my 36 week growth scan they said oh.. A girl? Pretty sure it's a boy. And I now have an 8 year old boy

It is very very very rare they get it wrong the other way around though

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Aw that is lovely, so good that your area are doing this!

My team at work are doing a ‘compulsory’ social in a few weeks (it’s during work hours so I can’t pretend I have plans and in any case - I don’t ever have plans anyway these days) it’s an online wine tasting it really annoys me when they do this, even when I wasn’t pregnant I wouldn’t necessarily be up for drinking wine at 4pm at home by myself...I also haven’t told anyone at work yet but I also cba to sit there and pretend to drink!

Welcome to the club I had to do a vertual pub crawl and I hates it at 7 o clock at night and I had to wear fancy dress I was not enjoying it I just wanted to put my pyjamas on. I had to sit and pretend and it just irritated me non alcoholic gin is kind of nice though and nosecco x