Pregnancy #13 Sponsored by McDonalds

[orange club biscuit]

Glad I’m not the only one with a in law Xmas crisis already. It’s stressing me out so much. I want to do what I want to do and balls to them, they never visit us, they don’t really do anything for us but want the glory of babies first Xmas. Never mind the fact it’s MY BABY and I might like to spend it doing what I want to do. I’d rather spend it at my house (first Xmas in our new house with baby) and for my parents to come over who literally do so much for us. Just causes so much tension

Do it! Put your foot down - I imagine year one of having a baby is the only time you can get away with it!

We had such a great Christmas just the two of us last year in lockdown we’ve been discussing doing it again…will have to deal with family fallout from both sides!

 

[Nursty]

Can I come on and have a rant. Need to release.
My eldest is homeschooling as someone in their bubble has covid so now having to isolate. It's a constant battle trying to get them to do their work. Everyone's been in tears this morning.
I can't remember the last time I had a good sleep. Consistently awake at 3am and I just cannot be dealing with doing this. My eyes physically hurt with tiredness.
Next door are having their bathroom refitted, didn't even have the common courtesy to give us a heads up and the noise is absolutely unbearable, banging and sawing from 8-5. Plus also means I can't nap.
My dog seems to have gone absolutely batshit the last few days and won't leave me alone. Constantly following me everywhere and I want to scream. She's even managed to break out of the kitchen when I shut her in.
Also, we were meant to be away for a seaside long weekend break this weekend which we've now obviously had to cancel due to isolating and I was really looking forward to it.
Just want to sit and cry.

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Decided to take my maternity leave a few days early.
Been the most stressful week of my life, my poor horse took a seizure and collapsed in front of me and I've basically been told to prepare for the worst. Everyone is trying to hide everything from me because I think they are worried its going to send me into labour. This should be the most exciting time but instead I've not stopped crying for the last 3 days, I hope I can get my baby out to meet him before I have to say goodbye
Is it a myth though that stress can bring on labour?

I am so sorry to hear this This sounds like a very stressful and upsetting time for you I am so sorry I hope you find some solace in the face you will have your baby here soon x

 

[Chickenandgravy]

I am so sorry to hear this This sounds like a very stressful and upsetting time for you I am so sorry I hope you find some solace in the face you will have your baby here soon x

Thank you, it would never be a good time for this to happen but this is definitely the worst timing

 

[Amberella]

Omg sned help my parents and the in laws are already starting the debate over who gets baby for his first Christmas
My parents - first grandchild
His parents - 3rd grandchild but his sister in law never ever has Christmas away from her family so his parents have never had a grandchild at Christmas

Tempted to pitch a joint Christmas and if they're not happy they can all drive the 2.5 hours down here if they want to see the baby

I told them all Christmas morning is for the three of us (me, partner and baby) and the afternoon I don't care as long as I end up on the sofa with a pot of pringles!

Decided to take my maternity leave a few days early.
Been the most stressful week of my life, my poor horse took a seizure and collapsed in front of me and I've basically been told to prepare for the worst. Everyone is trying to hide everything from me because I think they are worried its going to send me into labour. This should be the most exciting time but instead I've not stopped crying for the last 3 days, I hope I can get my baby out to meet him before I have to say goodbye
Is it a myth though that stress can bring on labour?

Oh no, probably for the best to take the time off. I'm so sorry about your horse

 

[Easilyannoyed]

I told them all Christmas morning is for the three of us (me, partner and baby) and the afternoon I don't care as long as I end up on the sofa with a pot of pringles!


Oh no, probably for the best to take the time off. I'm so sorry about your horse

We do the same every year morning we go to my mother in laws to open presents which I love so I can see my niece and nephews and step son, my partner picks his son up to take there then back home ( his ex doesn’t give us much time with him at all so we do a two hour round trip for half an hour with him) then back home with my parents for lunch and chill in the evening then Boxing Day I go to my father in laws I won’t be changing either because it seems fair I also have an excuse to go home early on Boxing Day wahoo. X

 

[SavvyBee]

Oh Christmas! Why is a holiday that’s supposed to bring so much joy just one big ball of family tension and stress for pretty much everyone I know. Baby will be 6-8 weeks old (ish) so I was hoping for the morning to ourselves and then say it’s an open house for visitors over the Christmas days and was planning to just have a steady stream of M&S nibbles and mince pies for whoever wants to pop in and see us. Really not too fussed about an actual Christmas dinner and if we are then there are a couple of pubs nearby or Cook that we can get one to just whack in the oven! My mum is insisting on cooking and she only lives ten minutes away but I just want to be able to be at home. Husband’s older kids never decide what they want to do in terms of seeing us until late in the day which always drives me mad but I might say this year these are your options and let them work around it (they’re 15 and 23, the 23 year old is just a bit self absorbed and thinks the world revolves around her and her mood). My MIL mentioned my BIL being back from overseas (he emigrated just before covid) and how it might be nice to all “make the effort this year” because he will be home to go to husband’s aunties house… 2.5 hours away! A sly dig at the one year we decided that the 5 hour round trip was just too much. Not happening whatsoever and if it gets mentioned again she will be firmly told. I will fall over if BIL or even any of those aunts or cousins makes the effort to come and see us and the baby prior to that so I’m not being the one dragging a newborn on a 5 hour return trip on boxing to save them all the effort. The only person I might visit is my uncle as my cousin has also just had a baby and we often go there anyway on Boxing Day - they’re only 40 mins away, amazing hosts and it would be nice to see the babies together. Otherwise people are welcome to come and see us but I’m usually Mrs Christmas and do all of the organising and running around so I really am interested to see who will make the effort this year.

 

[sodit]

Well, guess who forgot to prepare themselves for the 20 week anomaly scan...actually picking up an anomaly.

Two sonographers spotted something they think might be cleft palate. Going to see a consultant who specialises in fetal scanning in a couple of weeks to clarify but until then I'm just going to be worried 24/7. As a small mercy they kept telling us the baby has normal lips, it just looks like an internal issue....but, one that might end breastfeeding before it starts, have baby upset and struggling to feed and eventually having to be operated on. Grim.
I've only just felt up to looking at the papers they've given me and one of them is about termination :| like I am really upset about this potential news, but I'm not there!!!

 

[grumpycat]

Well, guess who forgot to prepare themselves for the 20 week anomaly scan...actually picking up an anomaly.

Two sonographers spotted something they think might be cleft palate. Going to see a consultant who specialises in fetal scanning in a couple of weeks to clarify but until then I'm just going to be worried 24/7. As a small mercy they kept telling us the baby has normal lips, it just looks like an internal issue....but, one that might end breastfeeding before it starts, have baby upset and struggling to feed and eventually having to be operated on. Grim.
I've only just felt up to looking at the papers they've given me and one of them is about termination :| like I am really upset about this potential news, but I'm not there!!!

Im so sorry for this. I know there are many cleft palate charities that offer advice and I think things have changed so much in the last few years. I hope you’re feeling ok, as can be. Sending a huge hug, and it’s ok to feel upset about breastfeeding. Hopefully the coming weeks will clarify things more for you x

 

[Smallpotato]

I’ve had some more dirty brown discharge. Midwife line is engaged, but after yesterday I just don’t dare keep ringing and just hold on for the scan tomorrow.

 

[Ilando]

Did you guys get sent for a growth scan for a change in fundal height measurement like that? It’s such a load of rubbish tbh - mine was off the bottom of the scale 3 weeks ago and now it’s tracking 50th centile and according to growth scans the baby has been steadily growing around the 20-25th. Just causes people so much unnecessary stress!

It really does cause unnecessary stress. I’ve always measured big (now above the 98th and having to be monitored closely). I’m only 5ft and 10 stone so the thought of an 11lb baby is not exactly fun!

I’d accepted that my baby was big etc and then a midwife measured my bump and said it was small... 2 day wait for a growth scan and surprise surprise, baby is massive!

 

[sodit]

Im so sorry for this. I know there are many cleft palate charities that offer advice and I think things have changed so much in the last few years. I hope you’re feeling ok, as can be. Sending a huge hug, and it’s ok to feel upset about breastfeeding. Hopefully the coming weeks will clarify things more for you x

Thanks, wish there was no wait so we could know either way. Apparently there would normally have been a doctor we could see today, but she rang in this morning cos her daughter has covid. So now just a wait for a letter in the post, I'm going to be at the front door 10x a day.
Meant to be WFH today but it's 2pm and I've not even turned on my work laptop. Husband went into work, but his manager has sent him home (she's just back from mat leave herself so being really good with him). Too fuzzy headed to be useful today.

 

[SavvyBee]

Well, guess who forgot to prepare themselves for the 20 week anomaly scan...actually picking up an anomaly.

Two sonographers spotted something they think might be cleft palate. Going to see a consultant who specialises in fetal scanning in a couple of weeks to clarify but until then I'm just going to be worried 24/7. As a small mercy they kept telling us the baby has normal lips, it just looks like an internal issue....but, one that might end breastfeeding before it starts, have baby upset and struggling to feed and eventually having to be operated on. Grim.
I've only just felt up to looking at the papers they've given me and one of them is about termination :| like I am really upset about this potential news, but I'm not there!!!

I’m so sorry, I think we get so caught up in the excitement of scans and finding genders etc that e often forget the possibility of things not being quite perfect so I’m sure it was a shock and upsetting to hear. The breastfeeding thing is upsetting but a fed baby is the ultimate goal and plenty of newborns can’t breastfeed for one reason or another and absolutely thrive. It’s fine to feel disappointed but things will be OK however you end up needing to feed, I promise. Medicine has come on in leaps and bounds over the years and there is so much that can be done today, I know it’s scary but try to keep on the positive side and hopefully you’ll get some more clarity from the experts soon Call the afternoon a write off and go and do something (even watch a movie or get your favourite piece of cake) to try and release some happy hormones.

 

[Hushpuppy]

I’m 31 weeks too, GD came back fine and baby is above 97 percentile.
She’s on track to be 9-10lb. I sobbed until I couldn’t breathe when I first found this out, I just never dreamed that I’d have a big baby and I’m not overly maternal so was hoping the smaller she is would help those instincts kick in. I’m worried if I have a big baby it’ll take me longer to bond, I worried about so much when I found out, so I think a little cry is warranted.
Pre-eclampsia has also been ruled out. I’ve decided I’m going for an elective section which my midwife thinks will be on 26th Aug.

there’s huge confusion about my dates and we think I’ll go into labour before this so I’m just riding it out.Every scan I’ve been to said she’s actually 2 weeks ahead so I’ve almost given up now.Sonographer at private scan said she thinks my DD is 16th Aug

Oh wow has she been measuring big all the way along, today came as quite a shock even though I felt like I'd gotten much bigger. Im waiting to hear from the hospital to find out when the growth scan is.

If it's fundal height, don't worry too much
They're rarely accurate!

Yeah it was fundal height, the midwife seemed so shocked it took me by surprise hence feeling a bit tit about it. Then obviously she had to explain what would happen if he's massive and my mind just ran away with it all! I've just had a nap (I tend to sleep when I feel overwhelmed) and woke up because the baby is booting me, I'm like yeah alright I get it you're big!!

Did you guys get sent for a growth scan for a change in fundal height measurement like that? It’s such a load of rubbish tbh - mine was off the bottom of the scale 3 weeks ago and now it’s tracking 50th centile and according to growth scans the baby has been steadily growing around the 20-25th. Just causes people so much unnecessary stress!

Yeah this morning mine rocketed from around the 50th which it has been all along to the 98th. I always thought it was a strange way to measure but now I just want to know when the scan is so I can get it over and done with.

 

[imaginedragon83]

When

Totally random and sorry for the outpouring but I’ve just got home from taking my son to school and my 8 week old is fast asleep, I’ve taken this time to sit down and have my porridge and hot coffee in peace. I’ve always got music on when I’m at home and a Bette Midler song has come on ‘The Rose’ well I’m in floods of tears, for some reason it has floored me. I’m so utterly grateful for my precious girl and the life I have with her, my son and my partner. I’m 44 and have 3 grown up children with lives of their own and the fact I get to have a little family again leaves me feeling so blessed. To the ladies on here who are yet to give birth for the first time it really is the best time of your life. Yes it’s utterly exhausting but those precious quiet times like this make it all ok. Take the rough with the smooth and you’ll get through it. Anyway I don’t know why I’ve had to right this all down but there we are. I’ll put it down to post pregnancy hormones. Take care everyone and I hope you’re all ok xx

Even when my son was weeks or months old I would read books to him, there was one in particular I could not get through without crying cos at the end of it the little girl grows up to be a mummy herself and that line just floored me each time as I felt so grateful grateful be a mum






I know this has been discussed on here many many times but I was wondering for any mums-to-be who have got the vaccine while pregnant please can you point me in the right direction for any reading material?
I have been on the fence for weeks and weeks debating it but I really want to read something impartial and easy to understand.

 

[Hannah_204]

When

Even when my son was weeks or months old I would read books to him, there was one in particular I could not get through without crying cos at the end of it the little girl grows up to be a mummy herself and that line just floored me each time as I felt so grateful grateful be a mum






I know this has been discussed on here many many times but I was wondering for any mums-to-be who have got the vaccine while pregnant please can you point me in the right direction for any reading material?
I have been on the fence for weeks and weeks debating it but I really want to read something impartial and easy to understand.

I can’t be any help I’m afraid but still undecided as well if it helps knowing your not the only one. I think America has been vaccinating pregnant women longer so there should be a bit more info coming out of America about it. I’m just waiting for a bit more data I think to make a decision.

 

[SavvyBee]

When

Even when my son was weeks or months old I would read books to him, there was one in particular I could not get through without crying cos at the end of it the little girl grows up to be a mummy herself and that line just floored me each time as I felt so grateful grateful be a mum

I know this has been discussed on here many many times but I was wondering for any mums-to-be who have got the vaccine while pregnant please can you point me in the right direction for any reading material?
I have been on the fence for weeks and weeks debating it but I really want to read something impartial and easy to understand.

I joined a group on Facebook called Covid-19 Vaccine-Evidence Based Group - Pregnancy Lactation and Children. You have to sift through the posts but I found some really useful links and a lot of much cleverer science brains than I had summarised a lot of the various reports (on both sides of the fence, so it felt quite balanced). A lot of data links are from the US as they’ve been vaccinating pregnant women for longer and also have more babies born to vaccinated mothers as a result although obviously all of the data is relatively new and limited in scope. Unfortunately I can’t find any of the links as I left the group but it’s a good place to start. For what it’s worth I chose to get the vaccine (my doses were at 14 and 20 weeks).

 

[wakametango]

I know this has been discussed on here many many times but I was wondering for any mums-to-be who have got the vaccine while pregnant please can you point me in the right direction for any reading material?
I have been on the fence for weeks and weeks debating it but I really want to read something impartial and easy to understand.

Some women on thread below have had the vaccine so they may be able to point you in the right direction x

Pregnancy + the vaccine

Hi all I know this is a highly topical debate but I just want to start by saying this isn’t a place for judgement or our opinions as I’ve seen on other threads. I wanted to create a space for pregnant women who have had the vaccine and can share their experiences for other pregnant women who...

tattle.life

 

[Neo2021]

I’ve had some more dirty brown discharge. Midwife line is engaged, but after yesterday I just don’t dare keep ringing and just hold on for the scan tomorrow.

what time is your scan? I’d say do whatever helps your brain, if that means keep ringing the midwife, then keep ringing xx

 

[Definitelyme]

Well, guess who forgot to prepare themselves for the 20 week anomaly scan...actually picking up an anomaly.

Two sonographers spotted something they think might be cleft palate. Going to see a consultant who specialises in fetal scanning in a couple of weeks to clarify but until then I'm just going to be worried 24/7. As a small mercy they kept telling us the baby has normal lips, it just looks like an internal issue....but, one that might end breastfeeding before it starts, have baby upset and struggling to feed and eventually having to be operated on. Grim.
I've only just felt up to looking at the papers they've given me and one of them is about termination :| like I am really upset about this potential news, but I'm not there!!!

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry to hear that you e had this shock today. I don’t think anyone is every truly prepared to be told something has been picked up, I don’t think you can be prepared for that. The great news is that they have obviously done a great scan and picked this up at this early stage, and can start to form a treatment plan. I’m sure it’s so much to try and get your head around, sending you so much love xx