Phillip Schofield #31 Unwise but not illegal

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SkippyDoo

NDAs only have value to the extent the parties want to observe them and don’t care about the consequences of breaching them, so in my opinion any time limit in them or restrictions have been blown out of the water by events. It seems the tipping point was Phil’s brother’s conviction + suspicions Phil knew about his brother ahead of time. Once that came out I think people decided if there are any NDAs then they won’t be sued for breaching them as the damage is done.
 
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CanIGoBacktoBed

Well said. I'm sick of the 'abusers go on to abuse' narrative. Like you, my abuse made me want to raise awareness and protect others. Sending love, this is all massively triggering.
 
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Professor Yaffle

Have always had the notion that if anybody is at the bottom, their integrity is in tact. The higher up the greasy pole anyone goes ones integrity is compromised, unless one is adamant that they remain honest and true, then the career path is abruptly halted.
 
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SkippyDoo

CanIGoBacktoBed said:
Well said. I'm sick of the 'abusers go on to abuse' narrative. Like you, my abuse made me want to raise awareness and protect others. Sending love, this is all massively triggering.
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Yes. I was assaulted on one occasion by a family member who has since died, someone who didn’t usually have access to me. It would never occur to me to hurt anyone else because of that, especially not another child.

Studies show lots of abusers claim childhood abuse but when pressed on the point, it turns out plenty are lying. The connection between childhood abuse and becoming an abuser is not as strong as assumed thanks to offenders frequently, dishonestly claiming it to be the case.
 
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IdeletedbutI'mbackagain

CanIGoBacktoBed said:
Well said. I'm sick of the 'abusers go on to abuse' narrative. Like you, my abuse made me want to raise awareness and protect others. Sending love, this is all massively triggering.
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Personally, I think it's parroted by abusers as a way to absolve themselves of guilt.

Thank you 🩷 this is massively triggering, the enabling comments especially. If "poor" Phil tops himself I won't shed a tear. I also have no fear that he will because I know he's not wired to feel guilt.
 
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Chronically_knackered

This!!

There are men out there (and women, but to a lesser extent) who are genuinely disgusted by their thoughts and attractions. The shame and stigma surrounding them makes it incredibly difficult to access appropriate counselling and support, but they do everything they possibly can to avoid any situation that might be a trigger and make sure that they never put anyone at risk.

Phillip isn’t one of these people. He went out of his way to find situations where he could be around young people.
 
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Doc

CanIGoBacktoBed said:
Well said. I'm sick of the 'abusers go on to abuse' narrative. Like you, my abuse made me want to raise awareness and protect others. Sending love, this is all massively triggering.
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I say this with love - if this is triggering you, then you need to protect yourself and not seek out threads where there’s likely to be speculation about abuse. I think it’s fair to say any thread where there’s reference to suspicious interactions and a convicted weirdo brother is not the thread you want to be reading. You can’t stop people from questioning these things.
 
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