That picture makes me so uncomfortable, and I’ve never been in a DV or abusive relationship.
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We're the same, I work and my husband is on pip, and we all live in Asda clothes, unless we save up for something special. My son skateboards so I always save up so he's got good Vans, those things are bloody expensive, and that's just one I'm buying for, nevermind 5 kids.
I’ve emailed her but no response. Let’s just say I’m not holding my breath!
All the while claiming she has ‘horrific’ anxiety..
Haven’t read the rest of the replies yet, but thank you for answering. I haven’t seen any of your other posts and I wouldn’t/won’t ask you any personal questions. I just wonder about the effectiveness of this method and whether it could, in some situations, cause more harm than good. Ultimately, if someone is in that desperate situation them having access to funds quickly that will enable someone to have somewhere safe to stay/clothes or food is excellent. And I do believe that Rachaele has done this for some people and I do truly think that’s wonderful.
But I think it could cause a lot of issues in other cases and although having something right there and then is great, it should probably be handled by someone with training and safeguarding in place. It makes me so frustrated that we live in a world where the current system and proper channels can be guilty of failing people and I’m Rachaele herself would agree that we’d be better off as a society if it didn’t get to the point where someone like Rachaele even needs to step in. It also leaves the door open for people to abuse the system she has put in place (either by asking for help when they don’t need it or by the percentage of Rachaele’s cut being too high).
I feel like we’re never going to have an answer on it and that’s very worrying.
You may not be ready for a full time job (as of yet) but your still smashing it and still trying and also, still putting one foot in front of the other. I don't 100% understand and grasp the whole 'its okay not to be okay', the way i've percieved that quote is that, if your not okay and not feeling your true100% self, dont feel guilty about feeling the way you do. I didn't have an easy childhood, barely have any family in my life (my choice) and deal with fibro everyday and adult drama over the years but i still keep going every day and also, its a bad day/time and not a bad life. Things always work out in the end and when we go through some really tit times, it makes us truly appreciate the good times! Everyone has their limits and the limit you have right now, your still doing everything you can do and manage right now. I'll be 35 next year (sweet jesus mary and joseph.
) and its only 18 months ago that i started to fully grow a back bone and start living my life to make myself happy and not everyone else and also, its okay to have my own opinion. Even when it doesnt agree with others.. SOOOOOO many people struggle with finding their voices to say how they truly feel, hence why i've been angry about no matter where or what your on when it comes to social media, you get silenced or perceived as a bully or troll if your opinion doesn't agree with all the 'big wigs/influencers/celebs etc. Its sickening that people like us, who have our own opinions and minds are being made to feel guilty for having our own minds! Anyway, one say at a time! You will get there, I promice. Not saying your not already doing what you can do, but if you need help from a councellor, doctor etc, its okay to reach out for that help and that goes to you and everyone here thats struggling. Were not bad horrible nasty people. We are people who are just questioning a few things.
Rachael hasn’t donated money to the charities she has claimed to, 4 out of 7 have stated this.
I am awaiting women’s aid to give their transparent response to her donations too.
Not one person has come out with a response about what she does for them, it’s always her version of events, if you actually look into it.
I can’t say what I do for a job, but I can tell you, that the way she claims to do things, re the refuges etc are so so unlikely to be what happens how she is stating it. As to what she is doing with DA victims, not survivors, victims, she is breaking all kinds of rules, legally and ethically. If she WERE doing it properly, she sure as tit wouldn’t be putting anything at all on social media, and she would be a registered charity with a registered PayPal. Not a private one to avoid tax.
She wouldn’t be putting victims in touch with eachother and passing over private details to others breaking all rules going either.
In addition to all the above, she has ZERO need to keep any money on her person. You know why? Because what she SHOULD do, is pin emergency contact numbers on her page- for refuges, the police, liaison lines, Samaritans drug helplines etc. Then she wouldn’t need to be in receipt of ANY money because she can send her ‘crew’ to their fundraising pages too.
Her website should also have a safeguard on it so it doesn’t show up on search browsers if it mentions DA helplines.
But she isn’t genuinely about it. She’s about making a name for herself being the hero.
It makes me quite sad that a large % of those donating will likely be people who have faced dv issues and you only had to read through the early posts to read hundreds saying donated, sorry its only a few pounds posts, people who don't have much themselves and think they are helping others in an awful situation and to have the lifestyle and showboating must sting a bit, if these changes are down to book sales- fair play! But if it were me i couldn't sleep at night.
And if I see another bloody foot rubHow are you coping with your anxiety now, lovely? If you ever need a chat, please dont hesitate to measege me.
Not saying at all that there is a specific way that people act when they have anxiety but these influencers who clain to have anxiety can do many things a lot of anxiety sufferers cant do. I have social anxiety, it feels like the world is closing in on me and that i can't breath. I make excuses and cancel plans so i can stay home, in my safe place.
The contradictions from Rachael herself is just baffling! She claims to be staying at home for all sorts of reasons and doesnt go out etc and has been doing that for a while because people know of her life and talk about her and know info.. INFO THAT SHE IS GIVING OUT HERSELF! We wouldn't know a lot of it if she wasnt telling the world and showing the world her life. Has been for dinner with the family many times, been for walks, not long ago she was staying at a lodge! She goes out A LOT for someone who claims they dont go our a lot out of fear. Anxiety is crippling and wouldnt wish it on my worse enemy. You feel isolated from the world but can't bring yourself to socialise.
poor family!!!!
This is what I find the most upsetting about it putting the safeguarding to one side. I think we can all agree that in the Uk a huge amount of us have been economically affected in some way so to see people apologising for not donating more money to her whilst she lives in relative luxury is really quite upsetting.
I think this needs shared more on Instagram and a hashtag started demanding to know where money is going. This needs to be discussed more she thinks she’s getting away with this.,
She is hiding something otherwise she would be honest and open this needs addressed
She is hiding something otherwise she would be honest and open this needs addressed
When it leaves here and becomes a hashtag, that’s the definition of trolling... sadly.
Really?
I really don’t mean it to be trolling I don’t want people to think that. I’m just wondering with a bit more pressure put on her from people outside her bubble she would have to start addressing it.,
And with hashtags and discussions on stories she can’t block or avoid it but people still see and hear about it
There she goes again half naked 
what a weird caption as well, I suggested on the last thread sending her details to watch dog and report her to Hmrc, I also wrote a complaint to Kidscape. She’s just vile and her ego is getting bigger by the day, I believe you get what you give in life and she will get her karma 
what a weird caption as well, I suggested on the last thread sending her details to watch dog and report her to Hmrc, I also wrote a complaint to Kidscape. She’s just vile and her ego is getting bigger by the day, I believe you get what you give in life and she will get her karma Attachments
You could tweet her to ask her the question.
You can’t start hashtags deliberately to spread about it....
I didn’t think you did want to troll her, don’t worry, just know roughly which way to go around it with my work. And tweeting her the question is the only safe way really to avoid being a “troll”. Anyone can simply ask questions to someone on Twitter. X
I’d not be surprised if her attitude change this last few days is because she knows she has covered her back so well that no matter who is emailed, nothing can be done or found.There she goes again half naked
I can assure you I’m not a troll and I totally understand what you are saying! Sorry I’m just thinking of ways to try and get answers to this. Will try Twitter
I know exactly what you mean, I'm disabled, my partner is my carer. We struggle and definitely couldn't afford to splash out how she's does. My son always has what he needs but I'm not about to go spend a fortune on a pair of shorts when I could get a few more pairs for that. It's like she wants to rub it in our faces. She knows there is all these questions surrounding the PayPal situation but she doesn't care. I think she enjoys winding people up so she can claim victim when it blows up again.
Absolutely nothing wrong with Primark, Asda ect. The clothes from there mostly wash up well and kids grow so fast and get mucky so I don't see the point of buying expensive clothing.
These people and their egos have really lost their grip on reality. I find it unbelievable that they fail to see the hypocrisy & irony in the way they get on. His post was vile and worse than anything on here. A lot of them have sold their soul and their morals purely for the ‘likes’. It’s sad really.
Apparently when people Tweet the question they get deleted and blocked. I don't think all avenues have been exhausted yet and I certainly don't agree that 'nothing can be done or found'. She has solicited funds from the public and failed to account for those funds. There are rules about such things and from what I've read she certainly has a case to answer.
Also, her stories about her involvement in particular cases don't ring true and as others have said, this is not the way things operate in the real world. She relies heavily on the gullibility of her fans. I suspect very few of them have ever worked with any of the many agencies already in existence and don't grasp the difference between a self-aggrandising rescue fantasy and the actual hard, heart breaking, slog of dealing with government agencies, housing officials, police, social services, cafcass, local authorities, family courts, etc etc...the whole dreary mundane, unsexy infrastructure of red tape and essential safeguards that may be imperfect but are there for a reason.
Influencers and mummy floggers are all focussed on the primacy of the 'individual'. There is no 'society', just them, the hero at the centre of their made-up world.
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