I am the last person on earth who will condone cheating. I despise it, and I think very little of those who do it. I do sometimes wonder however how much his ex wife’s alcoholism affected his choices. One of my closest friends had an alcoholic wife. They had everything, two beautiful children, a house that most people would kill for, a privileged lifestyle with money, holidays, luxuries, and yet she became an alcoholic. She drank day and night, with and without her kids, she was banned from driving, she was sacked, she was abusive and violent and nothing stopped her. She refused to acknowledge she had a problem. I will never forget him telling me about a phone call he got from his eight year old daughter in hysterics because mummt had fallen down the stairs drunk and she thought she was dead as she’d split her head open and knocked herself out. She refused expensive rehabs, and in the end he changed the locks one day while she was out and eventually divorced her. She painted him to be a monster for this, people slagged him off left right and centre and he lost so many people. Her children begged her to stop, for them, and she wouldn’t. She made all of their lives a misery, and in the end the courts refused her contact with her kids. They are still, as young adults now, in therapy. I can’t speculate as to how severe the situation was with Josh’s ex, but I do know that people don’t understand how much damage alcoholism does to families, to children, to partners, and the lengths it pushes them to to get away.