That fb post with someone calling her out about moaning about schools made me cringe inside out !!
I coslept (for my own sanity, she wouldn’t sleep any other time). She’s now 3.5 and insists on her own bed - if she wakes in the night she won’t leave it but needs a bit of help to go back. She gets told no on a daily basis.
She also gets told how proud I am of her, she thrives at nursery, she’s excited for school, she’s kind, says she loves me several times a day, and is told how much she is loved and is more confident than I ever was as a child.
You can be gentle and have boundaries and balance! It must be absolutely exhausting to do what she is doing