This ad makes me want to hose her down, not buy lingerie. Unsexiest woman alive.
I completely agree especially the BIB. Joe ended up being the frog in the pan of hot water tbh. It’s easy to say ‘why didn’t he say something/do something sooner’ but it’s because this kind of abuse starts out subtle and ramps up slowly over time to the point where you don’t realise it’s been happening until it’s really bad.I feel it’s so crappy and disrespectful to call DJ passive, weak or a bad communicator. It’s clearly visible Niomi was psychologically abusive but he still gets blamed for what she did one way or another. I don’t think there would be the same approach if it was the other way round. Seems society has a lot to learn about this kind of abuse - you basically don’t realise it’s happening and when you do it’s often too late and you’re mentally crushed to the point of deep depression. Add to that DJ losing his dream job, being in lock down and malnourished. Also it may have just started with him trying to be nice to her and support her lifestyle and she used it. The whole situation is absolutely disgusting. I guess moving in with Freddy actually saved him from going into even deeper hole.
those influencer discount codes always make me laugh. Like you said, they literally give those 10% off to every new customer who enters their emailYes I found this beyond the pale patronising. 'Thanks for reminding me that you minions in muggle jobs exist'.
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Maybe her management were like, 'um that's up to us to arrange guys, using our actual contacts. And what you've posted is not a job ad. It's a tiny weird fart in a tin. Take it down.'
And yes, looking at that headboard - ugh! It looks dusty AF! Also c'mon Organic Basics. Nimbo isn't your demographic anymore. Shame on you. Also all these influencers only ever offer 10% off which is completely pathetic. You can get 10% off by joining (then leaving) a mailing list usually. At least make it worth people's while (esp when products are upwards of £30 for a flipping pair of keks.)
I totally agree! Makes me twitch, especially when your whole business is about selling how great people supposedly are.Those mistakes on Joe's profile bug me. It might sound nit-picky, but it's true. It's supposed to be professional, after all.
So the relationship failed because he likes peace and not because Niomi gaslights and starves everyone in swinging distance. Got itUnder key attributes and strengths is listed ‘non-confrontational’ and ‘peace-maker’. Not sure either of these were a strength in his relationship with Niomi.
No, no, no. Not at all what I was saying. She was vile and I’m very sure she was the major player in the downfall of their relationship. But speaking as someone who also is non-confrontational, I feel like I can be in a position to say that sometimes that doesn’t work best in a partnership, and sometimes you just have to speak up for yourself. Stop avoiding the confrontation at the expensive of your sanity. That’s it.So the relationship failed because he likes peace and not because Niomi gaslights and starves everyone in swinging distance. Got it
Well a) I’m sorry for calling you out then and b) IMO being non-confrontational isn’t a bad thing so long as your partner or employer is respectful when you do open up.No, no, no. Not at all what I was saying. She was vile and I’m very sure she was the major player in the downfall of their relationship. But speaking as someone who also is non-confrontational, I feel like I can be in a position to say that sometimes that doesn’t work best in a partnership, and sometimes you just have to speak up for yourself. Stop avoiding the confrontation at the expensive of your sanity. That’s it.
That’s pretty interesting! I agree with whoever said Freddy was the tipping point, but I reckon she said worse things off camera.Re the ongoing discussion of Joes personality type… he has his psychometric evaluation up on his page on his Vizzy website for all to see. Under key attributes and strengths is listed ‘non-confrontational’ and ‘peace-maker’. Not sure either of these were a strength in his relationship with Niomi. I totally agree that a person can very much be manipulated within a relationship and that behaviour can be a slow burn, but hopefully Joe has learned from it and won’t be so easy to prey upon next time. View attachment 2115159
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The list of ways NOT to behave around him are fascinating though…. Maybe Niomi should have read up a little… View attachment 2115166
She really is, I take anything she says with a healthy sized grain of salt lol.Speaking up for yourself is definitely important but it's only worth doing when the person receiving it actually wants to hear you. Niomi very clearly did not want to hear any concerns or problems from Joe. She lives her life in a state of constant delusion to a scary degree. She's even said herself that she knew there were problems and ignored it, so it's extremely unfair to assume that Joe just never said anything simply because Niomi claims she was 'blindsided'. She is hardly a reliable historian.
Absolutely and I cannot stress how important it is to keep things professional. We are not emulating Lordon McDonkey here lol.Speaking up for yourself is definitely important but it's only worth doing when the person receiving it actually wants to hear you. Niomi very clearly did not want to hear any concerns or problems from Joe. She lives her life in a state of constant delusion to a scary degree. She's even said herself that she knew there were problems and ignored it, so it's extremely unfair to assume that Joe just never said anything simply because Niomi claims she was 'blindsided'. She is hardly a reliable historian.