Picking up from a comment on the previous thread RE Joey being passive..
I get the sense he was a poor communicator: didn’t communicate his needs to Niomi, didn’t argue or push back on the food situation, until it exploded and went past the point of no return. In a way (if this is what happened) it was still unfair to Niomi, but just one of those things. Sometimes people need to learn the hard way, how important it is to acknowledge and communicate your needs.
she seems to have dated very different men since then - more outspoken and forceful than Joey. I don’t think she has properly reflected on where it went wrong, and she is thinking that if she dates someone outspoken and forceful, the same thing won’t happen again.
realistically though, she’d be better reflecting on the importance of encouraging open communication in a relationship, active listening etc.
She’s just gone so far off the mark here. She is avoiding being broken up with another Joey type by becoming the quiet, passive Joey type herself.