I've gone down the rabbit hole of watching her what I eat in a day videos and I actually really feel for her now. She was so innocent and completely herself. I can imagine she's trying to regain that and probably blames Joe for losing something so precious. Hence the fixation on him. Lockdown probably wasn't easy on her either. Her daily occupation basically since her undergrad was a reality show in which she was the star. She took the leap, went to India, and did her best with that experience. It seemed like trying something so far from her norm was pushing her to grow. And then she snapped back to a world in lockdown with someone who she deeply loved who was suddenly maybe a bit bitter and resentful but also increasingly judgemental. It's no wonder she pushed back with the I'm not an influencer stance. And then there was nothing to push back against with Joe gone, so all of this unchecked indignation and lashing out came forth.
She used to take a lot of pride in her lifestyle and habits. It's not easy to go from being so controlled, practically ascetic, to unsettled and untethered: homeless, scorned, humiliated, rejected. Her family had probably gone to incredible lengths up until that point so she would not feel the absence of a father figure. Marcus came and went; she held the high ground in that breakup and was unaffected. The continuity of Source box is a good indicator of how that panned out.
Paradise lost and despondency on one hand. On the other, re-coding suppressed emotions as trying to be authentic or real. Her mind must be a battleground every day.
I don't know where I'm going with this and obviously I know nothing but I hadn't really thought about her state of mind based on where she was coming from. She must be in a very dark place. Given her naturally happy disposition and how little challenge or negativity she had faced in her life before her breakup with Joe, it's no wonder that she has no coping tools and is still free-falling. She barely has any self-awareness because she's afraid to commit to anything real again, so will accept anyone mirroring anything back to her as useful and helpful guidance. Hence the lurking scammer.
What do they say... trigger warning? I'm not making a comparison, just a point on mental health and how important it is to be vigilant of/for ourselves and others.
I knew a girl in high school who was also picture-perfect. Her life panned out pretty great on paper. But there was always a deep unhappiness about her. I can't be the only one but I always thought, this girl's mind takes her to very dark places. She would talk about it honestly sometimes too and you could tell she was mentally quite tough. But I think she was so far gone it didn't even scare her anymore. She had the best tools - I truly believe that she would have had access to the best that mental health care can offer. I don't know what to say anymore. I hadn't seen her in years when I looked her up a little while ago.