Niomi Smart #16 Why am I hungry I had a banana, and why is Freddie following Anna?

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We really have no proof of any quasi -cheating on Joe's part. He might have been friends with this Anna and, as can happen when out of his engagement/relationship with Dimbobs, they saw each other in a different light.Who knows??😌
I also don’t ever remember seeing Joe wearing a pinky ring in any of Niomi’s photos or videos, if that is him in that photo with Anna from October? Somebody do some sleuthing 🤣
 
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Joe has moved on way too fast in my opinion. Fair enough- date and sleep around. But he's met her family and she's going on little outings with his?! I think he's a prick. Niomi must have found out about Anna the minute she turned from 'Joe's a good guy' to 'it's been traumatic'.
My sister and her ex ended ended five year relationship in July of 2019. She moved back into her flat at the beginning of September and by the end of the month she had a new partner who she is in the process of buying a house with.

I think she realised that she didn't want the same things as her ex did in the end. I think she has moved on too quickly but I don't think she had anyone lined up to date.
 
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nah. there is not a chance in hell Niomi was the sexually frustrated one. not in any universe. everything we know about her speaks to this. and recall, she is the one who was dumped. man or woman, it is glaringly obvious Niomi was never a sex forward type before or during Joe. the sudden turn to this is essentially an admission that her LACK of this was an issue & she is now super insecure about it. she SHOULD just be searching for someone with a similar set of priorities but instead is now desperately attempting to falsely appear sexual, which will lure in men that she will eventually disappoint or that will dump her when they realize it's all a facade. I find it incredibly deceitful and unfair when women OR men portray things as critical as their sexual appetite incorrectly and wait til you're a year or so in to reveal their actual feelings. Niomi seems to be maturing backwards in every sense and a huge part of that is her raging lack of self awareness. if she actually thinks Joe was "the wrong path" then she shouldnt feel the need to change a damn thing, and should proceed as she always does. Niomi has never seemed more insecure, desperate, and lost than she does now.
I'm going to argue against this, actually. If Joe was as much of a workaholic as he seemed...workaholics don't just deny you emotional attention, but physical, too. They don't come home, bang you and then go to work again; they come home, sleep, are emotionally distant, and then go back to work. Which is pretty much what she described in some of those vlogmas episodes, if I recall correctly. Over time, it becomes a form of manipulation. Even if they do want sex, it is never going to be the kind of fulfilling sex the other partner wants because they just don't have the energy. Couple that with Niomi's perfectionism, and perhaps she wanted to paaahfectly swing from the rooftops while he just wanted to sleep. Sounds miserable and frustrating.

I know we've seen Joe follow a few kinky accounts but that doesn't really tell us much, tbh--the porn you consume is often far more adventurous than you IRL sex life. It's a safe space. Perhaps Niomi wasn't into the things he was into, but perhaps he also wasn't into being emotionally and physically present...those things aren't mutually exclusive.
 
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I'm going to argue against this, actually. If Joe was as much of a workaholic as he seemed...workaholics don't just deny you emotional attention, but physical, too. They don't come home, bang you and then go to work again; they come home, sleep, are emotionally distant, and then go back to work. Which is pretty much what she described in some of those vlogmas episodes, if I recall correctly. Over time, it becomes a form of manipulation. Even if they do want sex, it is never going to be the kind of fulfilling sex the other partner wants because they just don't have the energy. Couple that with Niomi's perfectionism, and perhaps she wanted to paaahfectly swing from the rooftops while he just wanted to sleep. Sounds miserable and frustrating.

I know we've seen Joe follow a few kinky accounts but that doesn't really tell us much, tbh--the porn you consume is often far more adventurous than you IRL sex life. It's a safe space. Perhaps Niomi wasn't into the things he was into, but perhaps he also wasn't into being emotionally and physically present...those things aren't mutually exclusive.
But from what Niomi showed, they've spent some time together. Running, walks, dancing around the living room, eating acai bowls and stuff. It's much more compared to if Joe was actually a workaholic. The vlogmas thing was just a busy time I guess but he planned gifts for her as a countdown to christmas as I remember.
 
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But from what Niomi showed, they've spent some time together. Running, walks, dancing around the living room, eating acai bowls and stuff. It's much more compared to if Joe was actually a workaholic. The vlogmas thing was just a busy time I guess but he planned gifts for her as a countdown to christmas as I remember.
They spent all their time together in the first lockdown, and I think that Is when Joe first realised that he couldn't live with someone so controlling and so F***d up about food.
 
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My sister and her ex ended ended five year relationship in July of 2019. She moved back into her flat at the beginning of September and by the end of the month she had a new partner who she is in the process of buying a house with.

I think she realised that she didn't want the same things as her ex did in the end. I think she has moved on too quickly but I don't think she had anyone lined up to date.
I dont think there's anything wrong in this at all! If Joe started a romantic relationship after he broke up with Niomi then fine. But I dont agree with people staying in a relationship, then meeting someone new. It's as if they're scared to be single, so keeping their current partner so they're not alone until they meet the next. Good on your sister for ending her relationship first.
 
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I’m just over here like how do all these people manage to find someone they like enough, who also likes them, so often that they can actually have a string of relationships back to back?! Teach me your ways 😂
 
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It's so weird that she calls tanning "self-love" even though nobody sees her rather than acknowledge that she's literally posting swimsuit content in January?? Obviously that isn't a "relatable" justification to her followers she's trying to shill it to, but how can she pretend nobody is seeing her bare skin right now lol.
Such a good point :ROFLMAO: for those she's advertising this "tanning" solution to, they may have 700 followers -- not really like-for-like/relatable :rolleyes:

nah. there is not a chance in hell Niomi was the sexually frustrated one. not in any universe. everything we know about her speaks to this. and recall, she is the one who was dumped. man or woman, it is glaringly obvious Niomi was never a sex forward type before or during Joe. the sudden turn to this is essentially an admission that her LACK of this was an issue & she is now super insecure about it. she SHOULD just be searching for someone with a similar set of priorities but instead is now desperately attempting to falsely appear sexual, which will lure in men that she will eventually disappoint or that will dump her when they realize it's all a facade. I find it incredibly deceitful and unfair when women OR men portray things as critical as their sexual appetite incorrectly and wait til you're a year or so in to reveal their actual feelings. Niomi seems to be maturing backwards in every sense and a huge part of that is her raging lack of self awareness. if she actually thinks Joe was "the wrong path" then she shouldnt feel the need to change a damn thing, and should proceed as she always does. Niomi has never seemed more insecure, desperate, and lost than she does now.
THIS. Very well said!
 
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Joe has moved on way too fast in my opinion. Fair enough- date and sleep around. But he's met her family and she's going on little outings with his?! I think he's a prick. Niomi must have found out about Anna the minute she turned from 'Joe's a good guy' to 'it's been traumatic'.
If he is indeed seeing her and everything is pointing to that being true (unless we are all wrong of course) although I do think it's too soon I don't think we should judge him for it as once you have ended it with someone you kind of block them out of your life, you don't really owe them anything, espically if there is resentment there. Plus the easiest way to get over someone is to occupy your life with something or someone else. The duration of moving on is down to the individual
 
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My sister and her ex ended ended five year relationship in July of 2019. She moved back into her flat at the beginning of September and by the end of the month she had a new partner who she is in the process of buying a house with.

I think she realised that she didn't want the same things as her ex did in the end. I think she has moved on too quickly but I don't think she had anyone lined up to date.
Sometimes things just happen and lives change very fast.
When my brother confessed his feelings to his now wife she was willing to start a relationship with him too but was moving back home to another continent. He knew if he didn't move there with her there would be no relationship, so he did. It seemed crazy but it was absolutely worth it for them.
 
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Anna was about 27 when she posted this :oops: I'm starting to think the transgender "joke" on her other instagram isn't such a one-time thing...
I am a practicing hindu and after much searching, i found faith and an appreciation in the religion I was ‘born’ into so I find it absolutely disrecpectful with her diddle doidle comment. What a vapid gnome!
 
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I get all situations are different. But imagine you're in a happy relationship, then your partner turns round and ends it- and you find out he ended it because he met someone new. I understand when it's someone like your brother you'll be understanding to him- but it must've been crappy for his other partner? Don't be in a relationship when you're unhappy. It's selfish to wait until you have someone else lined up 🤷‍♀️
I think that sometimes, you don't realise you're unhappy until someone else is lined up.
 
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I’m just over here like how do all these people manage to find someone they like enough, who also likes them, so often that they can actually have a string of relationships back to back?! Teach me your ways 😂
😂 i feel you. I don’t know how some people do it, if anyone follows tiffany watson, she gets a new boyfriend so easily! I’m always like wtf how!

About the Joe moving on quickly, yeah I think he has but it’s very different if you’re the one who’s done the breaking up. You’re emotionally disconnected from it by the end and have already let go. I broke up with my ex in August, and feel like i’ve been ready to start dating again since about november, because I wasn’t happy in the relationship anymore I felt a lot of relief when I left and was able to move on. but due to a load of guilt having been the one to do it and a pretty sour breakup/him not accepting it I’ve only just downloaded a dating app 😅 Feel like Joe felt unhappy during the first lockdown and by august he was like nah i can’t anymore and was ready to get out. But it must be painful for Niomi to see how quick it’s been
 
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also how do these influencers get their boyfriends to be vegan with them when the bfs were big meat eaters before? Health chef steph, zanna van dijk, lucy watsons boyfriends are all now vegan. I tried to eat one veggie meal a week and my ex boyfriend made a right fuss and said he’d never be veggie, veggies/vegans need to get a life (he wasn’t very nice 😂) . Like do they tell them they have to be or are the bfs just really nice and want to for them
 
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I’m just over here like how do all these people manage to find someone they like enough, who also likes them, so often that they can actually have a string of relationships back to back?! Teach me your ways 😂
I am totally the same, I have had only 2 serious relationships and am mid 30s, I am always single :rolleyes: from people I know who go from one relationship to another like this usually they are just willing to settle imo
 
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I think that sometimes, you don't realise you're unhappy until someone else is lined up.
I think there's like a switch, and some people know when they have the right person in front of them.
My brother and his wife started as friends.
When he realised he was happier around her than around his partner it was the switch.
He was studying abroad then, so he took a flight home to break up with his partner before asking his now wife out.
From then I knew he was very serious about her!
 
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also how do these influencers get their boyfriends to be vegan with them when the bfs were big meat eaters before? Health chef steph, zanna van dijk, lucy watsons boyfriends are all now vegan. I tried to eat one veggie meal a week and my ex boyfriend made a right fuss and said he’d never be veggie, veggies/vegans need to get a life (he wasn’t very nice 😂) . Like do they tell them they have to be or are the bfs just really nice and want to for them
I think the latter.
 
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also how do these influencers get their boyfriends to be vegan with them when the bfs were big meat eaters before? Health chef steph, zanna van dijk, lucy watsons boyfriends are all now vegan. I tried to eat one veggie meal a week and my ex boyfriend made a right fuss and said he’d never be veggie, veggies/vegans need to get a life (he wasn’t very nice 😂) . Like do they tell them they have to be or are the bfs just really nice and want to for them
Ha, yeah, I was veggie when I met my husband, he has cut down his meat a lot but wouldn't have ever agreed to go veggie. I eat meat now 😭
 
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