THIS! She's going on about how she doesn't make her kids do anything and they don't do extra curricular activities because she's not going to force them. That's because of the example she sets!! Of course they don't want to move, because she doesn't either. My parents were much the same in the sense they didn't encourage me or sign me up for anything, and I desperately wish they had of because by the time I was in highschool and wanted to participate by my own choice, I was unfit and had no idea how to play and didn't have the confidence to participate in team sports where all the other kids were pros compared to me. I'm all for giving your kids freedom of choice, but of course kids are going to choose sitting on the couch if that's all they see and the only way they're taught to relax/have fun. To let children off school or out of sports at the first inkling of "I don't want to" is lazy parenting. Talk to them about why they don't want to, help them find solutions. Caring for your mental health isn't just about doing whatever you want, it's about pushing yourself and learning how to cope with symptoms. I say all of this as someone that's suffered severely from mental illness since I was young, I was in and out of school frequently, for months at a time, not sure if that gives me any credit, but I do understand what it's like to live with mental illness as an adult and a child, and what she's doing is just enabling herself and kids to be lazy, it is not healthy for their minds.