Thank you for your messageI had this so bad when I went from 1 to 2. I had my third baby on Thursday just gone and out of all of the transitions I definitely found going from 1 to 2 the hardest. It was when I had to learn to divide my attention with my eldest where as before I could give her my all. Then also the guilt of feeling that my second child would never be able to have the same time and attention that I had been able to give my eldest. It was tough. My eldest daughter loved her new baby sister but did go through a phase of being angry with me but, we got through it. I learnt to try and manage the juggle of having more than one child and as my 2nd child grew the two of them started to play together more and it became easier.
Though I still sometimes think back to that time and now feel guilt for how I felt at the time which I know is crazy
I also had a slightly problematic pregnancy with my second and a traumatic birth so I was dealing with the recovery from that which added to my struggle.
I'm not sure if this helps at all but when I read your post I absolutely related, it's exactly how I felt two years ago.
Having just had my third it has been the sweetest experience seeing my two big girls interacting with the baby and watching them be a big sister team together has been so sweet and funny. Your little ones will be best friends before you know it and you will have your unique relationship with your new baby just like you have with your elder child
I think things will be easier when new baby gets older and can talk and play with my older daughter, it’s hard when I’m spending all day cuddling her and also feeling exhausted and sore. I’m sorry that others have had this feeling but also feeling glad I’m not alone and it seems like this is a natural way to feel from going from 1 to 2 children, I think I’ll need to make an effort to have 1 on 1 time every week with my eldest daughter even if it’s just going out for a hot chocolate and a cake or a walk to the park